It is possible to simply not have what women want?
but the point is that I am NOT really self-aware, because if I was then i'd have long ago figured out how to work around this. the one and only mate I hate for a brief period left me continually scratching my head as to what I said wrong. if I had any self-awareness at all, any theory of mind, any insight, i'd have been able to avoid that minefield altogether. as it is, I myself struggle to know when I am pressing boundaries and annoying others until they blow up. it has ever been thus.
From the impression I get of you online you are someone who has learnt to hold a conversation and not upset others.
And I think you have more social awareness than the person I am refering to. If you want to know about him PM me.
Now would your family agree that you are a boundriless and un-self aware?
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my family would DEFINITELY agree that I have problems with boundaries and knowing when I've been offensive. all my life. there is a big difference between realtime face to face communication with somebody that doesn't come with a delay button, edit button and backspace. I am too slow to relate to people in real time without errors, big ones. sometimes I will discover I did something wrong like a week later when I will be awoken at night in sheer alarm at something I just then realized I did. you don't know how painful that is. I saved myself by being a hermit, I had to do that to save my life. I couldn't take any more of the failures, I would have ended up taking a long walk off a short pier, eventually. btw, you are always welcome to PM me with the private details you mentioned about your friend.
-Be an animalistic and blunt womanizer
==>Score!
Noted.
Women really do like a55hles as long as they're confident, according to this thread.
A violent, animalistic and blunt womanizer who quite literally preys on the shy geeky women and sleeps with multiple women in his class and preys on freshman women?
And that doesn't make women uncomfortable with him or scared of him at all?
I'll have to add this to my book:
University Dating Success Handbook:
Step 1: Seek out the shy, vulnerable and easily convinced women. Seek out new students as they don't know of your reputation.
Step 2: Get them alone, subtly separate them from friends and charm them to make them want you.
Step 3: Sleep with them. Pump and dump.
Step 4: Don't sleep with a woman twice. She will ruin you.
Step 5: Rinse & Repeat
Step 6: Make sure you seek out the non-gossipy women so they won't spread rumors or information about your sex life so that it doesn't damage your reputation.
That's literally what's going through this guy's head...
Sounds like something out of Elliot Rodgers book...
Where's the brigade of Feminists calling out what a creepy, misogynistic psycho the guy must have been?
Hello? Feminists? For once in my life I actually wish you were here to save the day, or at least make this thread tolerable again (but don't worry, it'll only be this one time, otherwise never bother me again)!
This guy is a bit messed up because his mum left him and his dad. So his dad hates women. None of the girls realise he is like that. He only spoke to me about when he found out I was autistic and was telling me the 'wonders of casual sex' and the 'natural state of humans'.
He is pretty crazy but sometimes he can be really sweet and kind. He genuinely doesn't understand the issue with what he is doing. As far as he is concerned the women enjoy it so it's not an issue.
He does have one rule though no virgins
He is and interesting guy with some really strange views
What are his views?
- He absolutely hates autism and being autistic to the point he actively try to be 'not autistic'. To the point he wishes there was a cure
- He doesn't believe in monogamy. Like he will go into full on rants about it and sometimes we end up arguing
- As mentioned he is a conspiracy theorist
Basically we disagree on almost everything so it always makes for an interesting discussion.
There's more personal stuff about sex but I don't think I would be allowed to share it here.
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When I lived in my sister's basement, we were both on-line, she sneezed, I sent e-mail "Gesundheit!", she burst out laughing.
Auntblabby, if I would be allowed to communicate by e-mail (or chat?) with the person standing next to me, this would be a comfortable world. Sort of like a monk with a slate. No eye-contact!
Straight answer to your question would be: possible but very unlikely. I've witnessed the oddest couples and most improbable love stories.
There's always the possibility that one object won't meet some required criteria - but in this context we don't even know what the criteria is, it seems to differ wildly from one person to another. Besides, thinking of all the women there are out there and that you may have nothing to do with any of them is quite a harsh thought.
If you really want to meet someone, you need to expose yourself and keep trying. That will hurt and you know that. This must be the real reason you seem to be feeling so sorry for yourself: you're actually afraid to expose and get hurt.
If you really want that, go for it. Expose yourself, get hurt and keep trying. Don't whine in an aspie forum. This sure won't help. Please don't get this wrong, I mean it in a friendly way.
Cheers!
Translation: His dick is big.
Actually he is average. He dislikes o**l. I hope this is censored enough
He dislikes...what? Oral? Boring.
Um yea
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I think it's hard to meet enough people, and get to know them well enough, to find the small percent that each of us might 'click' with. There is luck involved so numbers can matter... also I dread the idea of dating... I have hoped to meet someone in shared activities/interests, but I suspect that brings in another problem: my whole life I have had absolutely no clue if someone is interested (unless they are so extreme about it that they are likely a problem.) Looking back I think I missed a few good eggs, still hoping though.
Nowadays I would actually prefer more companionship (common interests!), and not that much physical stuff. I suspect many women are similar but not sure. There are more older women than men, too... for the male aspies worried about "sell-by" dates!
Commitment to work on things even if not perfect might be an approach. I don't expect mind reading, but then I guess I'm an Aspie.
Do you know what caused his social life to change so much? Was he also around more people with ASD when this happened? I'm just really curious.
Do you know what caused his social life to change so much? Was he also around more people with ASD when this happened? I'm just really curious.
I guess as well as that he is not exactly timid and makes an effort to talk to people often. Sometimes this behavior annoys others but on other occasions he gets a chance to know others a bit more. In regards to the first real friend he had at this school. I would say he benefited from having allot in common with this person, they were both very opinionated people in regards to a number of issues and were interested in gaming.
He was around mainly neurotypicals when this happened. Their was one girl with ASD he was around however who I mentioned in a previous post. The two didn't get on very well and I have seen them through crap at one another. I only learnt he had ASD very recently when I was talking to girl and he happened to be in the room.
Their is also probably allot more I don't know about which helped him. He may have seen as physcologist and recieved medication for his symptoms.
In the previous school we went to around a third of the people there were autistic.
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When I lived in my sister's basement, we were both on-line, she sneezed, I sent e-mail "Gesundheit!", she burst out laughing. Auntblabby, if I would be allowed to communicate by e-mail (or chat?) with the person standing next to me, this would be a comfortable world. Sort of like a monk with a slate. No eye-contact!
that is the world we have now.
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But that's just it...women are individuals, and yet I've failed so completely with all women, and yet women are so diverse, that there can only be one common denominator: me. That there is something wrong, fundamentally, with me, that makes me undesirable to all women.
I don't blame them. If I was a woman I wouldn't want to date me either.
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Do you know any individuals who are specifically looking for someone who is poorly educated, for example? Or socially awkward? Underemployed? Has bad health?
There's a fairly narrow range of characteristics that most people are looking for in a partner. It's very possible that some people don't meet these standards.
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