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05 Jan 2017, 3:48 pm

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That was the least of my problems


ya, there is one girl i have known for a few years now that i'm quite very jealous of, she also has Aspergers, and she has been known to make social errors, but yet it hasn't stopped her from getting a boyfriend, and she has had lots of boyfriends in her life, she was an early bloomer as well too, she had her first boyfriend at age 15.



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05 Jan 2017, 4:06 pm

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ya, there is one girl i have known for a few years now that i'm quite very jealous of, she also has Aspergers, and she has been known to make social errors, but yet it hasn't stopped her from getting a boyfriend, and she has had lots of boyfriends in her life, she was an early bloomer as well too, she had her first boyfriend at age 15.
I'm jealous of her too!

I'm even more jealous of a couple of aspie girls I know who've been with the same boyfriends for the last 7 or 8 years.

(because longevity of relationships is more important that quantity of relationships).


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05 Jan 2017, 4:16 pm

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ya, there is one girl i have known for a few years now that i'm quite very jealous of, she also has Aspergers, and she has been known to make social errors, but yet it hasn't stopped her from getting a boyfriend, and she has had lots of boyfriends in her life, she was an early bloomer as well too, she had her first boyfriend at age 15.
I'm jealous of her too!

I'm even more jealous of a couple of aspie girls I know who've been with the same boyfriends for the last 7 or 8 years.

(because longevity of relationships is more important that quantity of relationships).


ya, because social-awkwardness is much worse in men than it is in women, a socially-awkward guy can get labelled creepy or stalkerish, meanwhile that label won't be thrown to women.



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Pthe one aspie girl I ever met, was myage,a classmate in high school and former friend, awkward and quirky (loves dictators in history, is impressed by diseases and what they do to the body, moves her hands by clapping them and tapping them on her arms, knees abd chest as a stim when tired, etc.)
she admitted herself that she was grubby/doesn't take care of her appearanc that well (her school uniform was always stained, had dried paint on her hands all the time, on my third date with her before she rejected me she had just came from work and actually got dressed in the car, so she was sweaty and that, I well liked it at the time though.

Since like 14, has had 4 boyfriends and got her 5th senior year of high school as well as the 3 dates with me that year.

After a few months with BF#5 he engaged to her and she agreed (they were best friends for 2 years beforehand).

An aspie girl met her fiance in high school. Geez.

Even most Normie's can't do that, they the d to meet the one at university.

Even the chads and Stacie's (rich, popular attractive) teens don't always meet their fiance in high school even though they're the ones most likely to do so.



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05 Jan 2017, 5:56 pm

WantToHaveALife wrote:
RetroGamer87 wrote:
WantToHaveALife wrote:
ya, there is one girl i have known for a few years now that i'm quite very jealous of, she also has Aspergers, and she has been known to make social errors, but yet it hasn't stopped her from getting a boyfriend, and she has had lots of boyfriends in her life, she was an early bloomer as well too, she had her first boyfriend at age 15.
I'm jealous of her too!

I'm even more jealous of a couple of aspie girls I know who've been with the same boyfriends for the last 7 or 8 years.

(because longevity of relationships is more important that quantity of relationships).


ya, because social-awkwardness is much worse in men than it is in women, a socially-awkward guy can get labelled creepy or stalkerish, meanwhile that label won't be thrown to women.


No, we just get labeled ugly, gross, and stupid.


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05 Jan 2017, 6:01 pm

Hey Outrider,

What's going on with your typing? You usually type quite accurately.



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05 Jan 2017, 6:30 pm

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ya, there is one girl i have known for a few years now that i'm quite very jealous of, she also has Aspergers, and she has been known to make social errors, but yet it hasn't stopped her from getting a boyfriend, and she has had lots of boyfriends in her life, she was an early bloomer as well too, she had her first boyfriend at age 15.
I'm jealous of her too!

I'm even more jealous of a couple of aspie girls I know who've been with the same boyfriends for the last 7 or 8 years.

(because longevity of relationships is more important that quantity of relationships).


ya, because social-awkwardness is much worse in men than it is in women, a socially-awkward guy can get labelled creepy or stalkerish, meanwhile that label won't be thrown to women.

If you think women always have it easy than you don't know them very well.

Both sexes face problems in life.


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05 Jan 2017, 6:50 pm

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ya, there is one girl i have known for a few years now that i'm quite very jealous of, she also has Aspergers, and she has been known to make social errors, but yet it hasn't stopped her from getting a boyfriend, and she has had lots of boyfriends in her life, she was an early bloomer as well too, she had her first boyfriend at age 15.
I'm jealous of her too!

I'm even more jealous of a couple of aspie girls I know who've been with the same boyfriends for the last 7 or 8 years.

(because longevity of relationships is more important that quantity of relationships).


ya, because social-awkwardness is much worse in men than it is in women, a socially-awkward guy can get labelled creepy or stalkerish, meanwhile that label won't be thrown to women.

If you think women always have it easy than you don't know them very well.

Both sexes face problems in life.


i know that, it's just that the problems women face are different from men, and rarely do i hear of women having problems being able to get a date or get a boyfriend, and the reason why women don't get labeled the creepy or stalker label for being socially-awkward, is because women don't have to take social risks like men do, and even if women did take social risks, they would not get labeled that, because since men are physically stronger than men, it means women won't be perceived as a threat.



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05 Jan 2017, 7:13 pm

WantToHaveALife wrote:
RetroGamer87 wrote:
WantToHaveALife wrote:
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WantToHaveALife wrote:
ya, there is one girl i have known for a few years now that i'm quite very jealous of, she also has Aspergers, and she has been known to make social errors, but yet it hasn't stopped her from getting a boyfriend, and she has had lots of boyfriends in her life, she was an early bloomer as well too, she had her first boyfriend at age 15.
I'm jealous of her too!

I'm even more jealous of a couple of aspie girls I know who've been with the same boyfriends for the last 7 or 8 years.

(because longevity of relationships is more important that quantity of relationships).


ya, because social-awkwardness is much worse in men than it is in women, a socially-awkward guy can get labelled creepy or stalkerish, meanwhile that label won't be thrown to women.

If you think women always have it easy than you don't know them very well.

Both sexes face problems in life.


i know that, it's just that the problems women face are different from men, and rarely do i hear of women having problems being able to get a date or get a boyfriend, and the reason why women don't get labeled the creepy or stalker label for being socially-awkward, is because women don't have to take social risks like men do, and even if women did take social risks, they would not get labeled that, because since men are physically stronger than men, it means women won't be perceived as a threat.


Wrong, wrong, and wrong. Women can definitely be seen as threats to other women (and sometimes to men; not all men are stronger than all women, some women are tall and strong), and get labelled all kinds of things when we are socially awkward. Stop spewing lies and sexist BS.


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05 Jan 2017, 7:16 pm

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WantToHaveALife wrote:
ya, there is one girl i have known for a few years now that i'm quite very jealous of, she also has Aspergers, and she has been known to make social errors, but yet it hasn't stopped her from getting a boyfriend, and she has had lots of boyfriends in her life, she was an early bloomer as well too, she had her first boyfriend at age 15.
I'm jealous of her too!

I'm even more jealous of a couple of aspie girls I know who've been with the same boyfriends for the last 7 or 8 years.

(because longevity of relationships is more important that quantity of relationships).


ya, because social-awkwardness is much worse in men than it is in women, a socially-awkward guy can get labelled creepy or stalkerish, meanwhile that label won't be thrown to women.

If you think women always have it easy than you don't know them very well.

Both sexes face problems in life.


i know that, it's just that the problems women face are different from men, and rarely do i hear of women having problems being able to get a date or get a boyfriend, and the reason why women don't get labeled the creepy or stalker label for being socially-awkward, is because women don't have to take social risks like men do, and even if women did take social risks, they would not get labeled that, because since men are physically stronger than men, it means women won't be perceived as a threat.

We all take risks. Men risk being mistaken for a threat. Women risk being faced with a threat. Both of these scenarios are dangerous.


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05 Jan 2017, 8:23 pm

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ya, there is one girl i have known for a few years now that i'm quite very jealous of, she also has Aspergers, and she has been known to make social errors, but yet it hasn't stopped her from getting a boyfriend, and she has had lots of boyfriends in her life, she was an early bloomer as well too, she had her first boyfriend at age 15.
I'm jealous of her too!

I'm even more jealous of a couple of aspie girls I know who've been with the same boyfriends for the last 7 or 8 years.

(because longevity of relationships is more important that quantity of relationships).


ya, because social-awkwardness is much worse in men than it is in women, a socially-awkward guy can get labelled creepy or stalkerish, meanwhile that label won't be thrown to women.

If you think women always have it easy than you don't know them very well.

Both sexes face problems in life.


i know that, it's just that the problems women face are different from men, and rarely do i hear of women having problems being able to get a date or get a boyfriend, and the reason why women don't get labeled the creepy or stalker label for being socially-awkward, is because women don't have to take social risks like men do, and even if women did take social risks, they would not get labeled that, because since men are physically stronger than men, it means women won't be perceived as a threat.

We all take risks. Men risk being mistaken for a threat. Women risk being faced with a threat. Both of these scenarios are dangerous.


well i'm talking about being assertive in social situations, obviously women are not placed that burden



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05 Jan 2017, 8:56 pm

WantToHaveALife wrote:
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ya, there is one girl i have known for a few years now that i'm quite very jealous of, she also has Aspergers, and she has been known to make social errors, but yet it hasn't stopped her from getting a boyfriend, and she has had lots of boyfriends in her life, she was an early bloomer as well too, she had her first boyfriend at age 15.
I'm jealous of her too!

I'm even more jealous of a couple of aspie girls I know who've been with the same boyfriends for the last 7 or 8 years.

(because longevity of relationships is more important that quantity of relationships).


ya, because social-awkwardness is much worse in men than it is in women, a socially-awkward guy can get labelled creepy or stalkerish, meanwhile that label won't be thrown to women.

If you think women always have it easy than you don't know them very well.

Both sexes face problems in life.


i know that, it's just that the problems women face are different from men, and rarely do i hear of women having problems being able to get a date or get a boyfriend, and the reason why women don't get labeled the creepy or stalker label for being socially-awkward, is because women don't have to take social risks like men do, and even if women did take social risks, they would not get labeled that, because since men are physically stronger than men, it means women won't be perceived as a threat.

We all take risks. Men risk being mistaken for a threat. Women risk being faced with a threat. Both of these scenarios are dangerous.


well i'm talking about being assertive in social situations, obviously women are not placed that burden

No they're not. Women have entirely different burdens.

But you shouldn't say your sex has problems and the other sex doesn't because that's what a feminist would say.


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well i'm talking about being assertive in social situations, obviously women are not placed that burden


positions of leadership? military service? parenting, dealing with difficult teens?

court? haggling? shopping? just plain not wanting to be taken advantage of? :lol:

not even a feminist, but wew, lad. ya don't have to be.


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well i'm talking about being assertive in social situations, obviously women are not placed that burden


positions of leadership? military service? parenting, dealing with difficult teens?

court? haggling? shopping? just plain not wanting to be taken advantage of? :lol:

not even a feminist, but wew, lad. ya don't have to be.


i'm referring to approaching and starting conversations, making the first move



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06 Jan 2017, 2:46 am

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^ So if you didn't have a girlfriend in your teens you're kind of screwed.
well i like to think of it as a snowball effect, the longer you go without having had a first, the harder it gets it seems, as for you RetroGamer87, i believe you have had girlfriends before at least, how old were you when you got your first?
I was 27.


Don't feel bad. You have more experience than I do.


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i'm referring to approaching and starting conversations, making the first move


that could have been made *much* clearer, but i see what you mean now.

clearly it seems like guys are expected to make the first move more often than females are, in the west at least, but the origin of that behavior is probably biological and not a social construct.

but it can always be deconstructed...socially.

the other, non-initiating sex (in this case females) can always be expected to be "assertive" when figuring out things to do or even just making joint decisions.


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