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13 Jan 2017, 6:31 pm
13 Jan 2017, 6:37 pm
blackicmenace wrote:
nurseangela wrote:
Would anyone like to hear about my problems? I have a zillion of them, but I want someone who is really concerned and won't just tune me out because it's going to take a couple of hours - at least. Any takers?
If you need someone to talk to, you can PM me, but here is the disclaimer. I may not have advice that can help or rather advise you will accept, you may not like my perspective of your issue I.E. compatibility, but if I can help, I will.
The thing is that women don't usually want advice - they just want someone to listen (most men call it bitching).
13 Jan 2017, 6:48 pm
13 Jan 2017, 6:50 pm
13 Jan 2017, 6:52 pm
This thread is going around in circles 
13 Jan 2017, 6:56 pm
nurseangela wrote:
blackicmenace wrote:
nurseangela wrote:
Would anyone like to hear about my problems? I have a zillion of them, but I want someone who is really concerned and won't just tune me out because it's going to take a couple of hours - at least. Any takers?
If you need someone to talk to, you can PM me, but here is the disclaimer. I may not have advice that can help or rather advise you will accept, you may not like my perspective of your issue I.E. compatibility, but if I can help, I will.
The thing is that women don't usually want advice - they just want someone to listen (most men call it bitching).
If you do not seek advice, how do you fix the problem? You may find the problem lands upon deaf ears.
13 Jan 2017, 7:02 pm
13 Jan 2017, 7:05 pm
blackicmenace wrote:
nurseangela wrote:
blackicmenace wrote:
nurseangela wrote:
Would anyone like to hear about my problems? I have a zillion of them, but I want someone who is really concerned and won't just tune me out because it's going to take a couple of hours - at least. Any takers?
If you need someone to talk to, you can PM me, but here is the disclaimer. I may not have advice that can help or rather advise you will accept, you may not like my perspective of your issue I.E. compatibility, but if I can help, I will.
The thing is that women don't usually want advice - they just want someone to listen (most men call it bitching).
If you do not seek advice, how do you fix the problem? You may find the problem lands upon deaf ears.
That's exactly right. That's what I mean when I say that a person who keeps repeating the same problem over and over again will not have anyone interested in listening to them because they don't really want to have a solution to the problem - that takes work. It doesn't take much to just sit around talking about a problem, it's doing something about it that takes effort. Most people just want someone to agree with them about their problems so then they feel justified that they have a problem then they just keep shooting down any helpful advice with reasons that it won't work even though they haven't really given the possible solutions a real try. They don't want to own their problems is what I'm trying to say.
13 Jan 2017, 7:09 pm
13 Jan 2017, 7:11 pm
blackicmenace wrote:
nurseangela wrote:
blackicmenace wrote:
nurseangela wrote:
Would anyone like to hear about my problems? I have a zillion of them, but I want someone who is really concerned and won't just tune me out because it's going to take a couple of hours - at least. Any takers?
If you need someone to talk to, you can PM me, but here is the disclaimer. I may not have advice that can help or rather advise you will accept, you may not like my perspective of your issue I.E. compatibility, but if I can help, I will.
The thing is that women don't usually want advice - they just want someone to listen (most men call it bitching).
If you do not seek advice, how do you fix the problem? You may find the problem lands upon deaf ears.
There is really a scientific reason to why women just need someone to listen to them talk about their problems - it's because of the side of the brain that women use vs. the side men use. That is also why men usually try to "fix" a woman's problem - they use the opposite side of the brain. Women need to talk about a problem to get the other side of their brain to understand and come to some solution and it also makes them "feel" better.
13 Jan 2017, 7:14 pm
nurseangela wrote:
blackicmenace wrote:
nurseangela wrote:
blackicmenace wrote:
nurseangela wrote:
Would anyone like to hear about my problems? I have a zillion of them, but I want someone who is really concerned and won't just tune me out because it's going to take a couple of hours - at least. Any takers?
If you need someone to talk to, you can PM me, but here is the disclaimer. I may not have advice that can help or rather advise you will accept, you may not like my perspective of your issue I.E. compatibility, but if I can help, I will.
The thing is that women don't usually want advice - they just want someone to listen (most men call it bitching).
If you do not seek advice, how do you fix the problem? You may find the problem lands upon deaf ears.
That's exactly right. That's what I mean when I say that a person who keeps repeating the same problem over and over again will not have anyone interested in listening to them because they don't really want to have a solution to the problem - that takes work. It doesn't take much to just sit around talking about a problem, it's doing something about it that takes effort. Most people just want someone to agree with them about their problems so then they feel justified that they have a problem then they just keep shooting down any helpful advice with reasons that it won't work even though they haven't really given the possible solutions a real try. They don't want to own their problems is what I'm trying to say.
Perhaps listening to the advice than implementing it will alleviate the problem.
13 Jan 2017, 7:20 pm
blackicmenace wrote:
nurseangela wrote:
blackicmenace wrote:
nurseangela wrote:
blackicmenace wrote:
nurseangela wrote:
Would anyone like to hear about my problems? I have a zillion of them, but I want someone who is really concerned and won't just tune me out because it's going to take a couple of hours - at least. Any takers?
If you need someone to talk to, you can PM me, but here is the disclaimer. I may not have advice that can help or rather advise you will accept, you may not like my perspective of your issue I.E. compatibility, but if I can help, I will.
The thing is that women don't usually want advice - they just want someone to listen (most men call it bitching).
If you do not seek advice, how do you fix the problem? You may find the problem lands upon deaf ears.
That's exactly right. That's what I mean when I say that a person who keeps repeating the same problem over and over again will not have anyone interested in listening to them because they don't really want to have a solution to the problem - that takes work. It doesn't take much to just sit around talking about a problem, it's doing something about it that takes effort. Most people just want someone to agree with them about their problems so then they feel justified that they have a problem then they just keep shooting down any helpful advice with reasons that it won't work even though they haven't really given the possible solutions a real try. They don't want to own their problems is what I'm trying to say.
Perhaps listening to the advice than implementing it will alleviate the problem.
This all ties back to the reason for threads such as this one - are the posters here trying to find advice about how not to be bitter or do they just want to keep being bitter and they are starting a thread to find other bitter people to back each other up and help justify that their bitterness is warranted?
13 Jan 2017, 7:27 pm
nurseangela wrote:
blackicmenace wrote:
nurseangela wrote:
blackicmenace wrote:
nurseangela wrote:
blackicmenace wrote:
nurseangela wrote:
Would anyone like to hear about my problems? I have a zillion of them, but I want someone who is really concerned and won't just tune me out because it's going to take a couple of hours - at least. Any takers?
If you need someone to talk to, you can PM me, but here is the disclaimer. I may not have advice that can help or rather advise you will accept, you may not like my perspective of your issue I.E. compatibility, but if I can help, I will.
The thing is that women don't usually want advice - they just want someone to listen (most men call it bitching).
If you do not seek advice, how do you fix the problem? You may find the problem lands upon deaf ears.
That's exactly right. That's what I mean when I say that a person who keeps repeating the same problem over and over again will not have anyone interested in listening to them because they don't really want to have a solution to the problem - that takes work. It doesn't take much to just sit around talking about a problem, it's doing something about it that takes effort. Most people just want someone to agree with them about their problems so then they feel justified that they have a problem then they just keep shooting down any helpful advice with reasons that it won't work even though they haven't really given the possible solutions a real try. They don't want to own their problems is what I'm trying to say.
Perhaps listening to the advice than implementing it will alleviate the problem.
This all ties back to the reason for threads such as this one - are the posters here trying to find advice about how not to be bitter or do they just want to keep being bitter and they are starting a thread to find other bitter people to back each other up and help justify that their bitterness is warranted?
Seems like that would depend entirely on the individual. Motive in participation would vary greatly.
13 Jan 2017, 7:56 pm
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