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The_Face_of_Boo
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08 Apr 2017, 5:04 am

Models date footballers and other celebs all the time, so no - it's not true.

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10 Apr 2017, 4:00 am

RetroGamer87 wrote:

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Models can have a surprisingly difficult time getting dates.

Why is that?

Because anyone can have a very difficult time getting dates if they have unrealistic standards.

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10 Apr 2017, 8:00 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

^ What amazes is how they openly say it to my face during a date; ie "you're too short" ; without any remorse; I would never openly criticize any physical 'flaw' to anyone, let alone to a date; why this courtesy that mutual?

It's like as if women are getting too used to be mean to men.

If a girl doesn't want to date you because you're too short, then that's fine, nothing against her. But that doesn't mean she has to act like a rude bch and flat out insult you on your height. For me, that would be an instance turn off. It'd be like me going on a date with an obese chick then flat out calling her too fat. Some people are sensitive to things they can't change about themselves.

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10 Apr 2017, 4:46 pm

In my personal opinion, models are "too" good-looking.

I prefer somebody with a little less "perfection."

And who eats with relish, not like a bird or something LOL

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10 Apr 2017, 5:07 pm

On average, man are taller than woman so I think it creates this sort of expectation. I think there is some association with height and power, as well as the man being in a power position in a relationship, so that's why people may frown up to short men: it can be taken as less masculine.

Is it right? I don't think so, but sort of happens. The guy I like is somehow of my height (I'm 168cm, maybe he is around 170, but it isn't a bit difference), and I admit I felt a bit disappointed when I met him personally (specially because I though he was tall, he looks like someone who is tall), but I wouldn't refuse him just because of this.

I remember mentioned it to him once and he wanted to convince me that he was obviously taller, I think he was insecure about it.

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10 Apr 2017, 5:41 pm

I seem to be really heighest. The guy needs to be between 170cm-190cm, anything below is too short and above is too tall. The guy I'm currently seeing is 201cm and I'm really being put off being next to a giant all the time. Equally I found a rare man shorter than me and I saw all the dandruff in his hair which put me off him. So I'm guessing the above height range is fine. I'm 163cms if you wanted to know

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10 Apr 2017, 5:47 pm

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I'm 189 cm, I'd be the perfect height for you :lol:

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10 Apr 2017, 6:02 pm

I'm 164.5 cm, or 5 foot 4 3/4.

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11 Apr 2017, 1:48 am

ltcvnzl wrote:

Your disappointment vibes and your questions about height will inevitably make him insecure.

If you really don't care, then don't keep mentioning it. But you really don't care?

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11 Apr 2017, 6:14 am

ltcvnzl wrote:

I think there is some association with height and power, as well as the man being in a power position in a relationship, so that's why people may frown up to short men: it can be taken as less masculine.

It IS less masculine. Small objects are feminine and big objects are masculine. We all know that but try to ignore it for (maybe subconscious) political correctness.

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11 Apr 2017, 9:14 am

314pe wrote:

ltcvnzl wrote:

It IS less masculine. Small objects are feminine and big objects are masculine. We all know that but try to ignore it for (maybe subconscious) political correctness.

Behold the power of socialization. Nothing measurable about the kind of masculinity described, but people insist that anyone who disagrees is a liar.

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11 Apr 2017, 9:57 am

jrjones9933 wrote:

Behold the power of socialization. Nothing measurable about the kind of masculinity described, but people insist that anyone who disagrees is a liar.

It's not measurable, but it is comparable.

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11 Apr 2017, 10:01 am

314pe wrote:

jrjones9933 wrote:

Behold the power of socialization. Nothing measurable about the kind of masculinity described, but people insist that anyone who disagrees is a liar.

It's not measurable, but it is comparable.

I still find your comment rude in its implication.

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11 Apr 2017, 11:29 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

ltcvnzl wrote:

Your disappointment vibes and your questions about height will inevitably make him insecure.

If you really don't care, then don't keep mentioning it. But you really don't care?

I didn't said I didn't care, I just don't care enough to refuse someone based on it. It's a societal standard and I'm not free from its influence, although I think it's a really crap standard so I avoid to base my choices on it.

If it wasn't clear, I didn't mentioned that I was disappointed, I just mentioned that we were more or less the same height – it was just once and I did it without really thinking (he's a very confident person, I wouldn't guess), and as I felt it was a sensitive point I obviously didn't touch the subject again.

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11 Apr 2017, 11:33 am

314pe wrote:

ltcvnzl wrote:

It IS less masculine. Small objects are feminine and big objects are masculine. We all know that but try to ignore it for (maybe subconscious) political correctness.

If ignoring it avoid some unnecessary prejudice that prevent us from caring to more important characteristics it's really good that we are able to ignore it.

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11 Apr 2017, 2:05 pm

I found this on a dating profile.

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