Closet Genious wrote:
Wow. I never thought about it this way, but I resonate alot with it. It's pretty depressing.
You're 22. Your train hasn't left the station yet (expression meaning "it's not too late for you"). Build up your confidence any way you know. Get out there. Learn PUA; that's what helped me get good at flirting with women, including my current friend. Join Meetup groups, if such a thing exists in your area. The window of time to experience that young, fun love will close very fast and leave you in the dust. So do
something. One thing that won't really help you is dating sites: they were great when I was 22, and I found many dates there, but now, those sites are useless for men.
I was stupid enough to neglect or ignore that window of time, thinking I can find "love" later. But now, I see what kind of relationships people my age (33) are having: boring, sedate, and domestic. Their idea of fun went from 10-mile (16-km) hikes, bar crawls, rock concerts, and Latin dance clubs, to dinner parties with other couples, discussing what color to paint the kitchen, and watching movies at home with their partner. This may be less severe in Scandinavia than in North America, which should help you, but you still can't forget how little time you have to experience young love.
So now, I pretty much refuse to have any kind of romantic relationship until I'm at least 60. By then, I will be too old and weak for "young love". So I might as well settle down, since watching TV at home is all I'll have the energy for, anyway. But in the meantime, the only partner I want to have is a dance partner.
Surely that depends on the personality/belief of the person? Im in the Bible Belt and a lot of women down here are like that, very domestic, housewifey, etc. But then again most are religious, marry young, go to church. A very WASPy type of life that is so dreadfully boring imo, but hey more power to them for living like that.
12 Jul 2017, 4:35 am
