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23 Oct 2017, 7:27 pm
Marknis wrote:
Temeraire wrote:
Ragnahawk wrote:
Honestly looking at the problem from a outside perspective it is our social networks that are most important for relationships. As in people like us need friends.
Yes I agree with this more than anything - without good friends we are alone.
Our social networks not only help us to be and stay well, we also learn from each other.
We need to feel we are accepted and belong, otherwise we can fail to thrive.
That's something others keep failing to get. I don't have a good sized friendship network. In fact, it shrinks every year and I haven't been able to make new friendships. I tried when I went to college this year but most of the people just stared at their cellphones and put up barriers. I feels like no one wants to make new friends and I've missed out completely now.
Hello, just new here and read this thread. I understand how you feel since 20 years ago I experienced the same thing. It is hard to build friendship with people who have already set barriers. It happened to me too at that time. Luckily I wasn't the only one with the problem. In the end I found a few who experienced the same, knew each others for a while through college tasks, then gradually we became friends. It needed time, a lot of time.
About girlfriend, well... I had first boyfriend 9 years after I went to college. So I know how you feel. Loneliness is difficult, seeing all around you with their couples just make it worse, right? Yet, you should be patient.
I don't know you at all, so I don't know spesifically your problem of not having girlfriend. If you want to share more, probably I can understand you better. In page one, you mention about not agressive and don't want to do "God's work". Well... to introduce yourself to a woman and to know each other, it is your part, not God. We can ask for guidance, direction, etc to God, but we should do our part too.
In case you want to share more, I am all ears (or in this case: eyes)
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24 Oct 2017, 2:40 am
ms.utopia wrote:
Marknis wrote:
Temeraire wrote:
Ragnahawk wrote:
Honestly looking at the problem from a outside perspective it is our social networks that are most important for relationships. As in people like us need friends.
Yes I agree with this more than anything - without good friends we are alone.
Our social networks not only help us to be and stay well, we also learn from each other.
We need to feel we are accepted and belong, otherwise we can fail to thrive.
That's something others keep failing to get. I don't have a good sized friendship network. In fact, it shrinks every year and I haven't been able to make new friendships. I tried when I went to college this year but most of the people just stared at their cellphones and put up barriers. I feels like no one wants to make new friends and I've missed out completely now.
Hello, just new here and read this thread. I understand how you feel since 20 years ago I experienced the same thing. It is hard to build friendship with people who have already set barriers. It happened to me too at that time. Luckily I wasn't the only one with the problem. In the end I found a few who experienced the same, knew each others for a while through college tasks, then gradually we became friends. It needed time, a lot of time.
About girlfriend, well... I had first boyfriend 9 years after I went to college. So I know how you feel. Loneliness is difficult, seeing all around you with their couples just make it worse, right? Yet, you should be patient.
I don't know you at all, so I don't know spesifically your problem of not having girlfriend. If you want to share more, probably I can understand you better. In page one, you mention about not agressive and don't want to do "God's work". Well... to introduce yourself to a woman and to know each other, it is your part, not God. We can ask for guidance, direction, etc to God, but we should do our part too.
In case you want to share more, I am all ears (or in this case: eyes)
I'm just glad you could see through all the troll posts. Ironically, they claim to hate this thread but keep coming back to it. Quite hypocritical, don't you think? Oh well, it's their problem, not mine. The posters on my side matter more to me than the ones who try to cut me down.
What I meant by those things is that I was constantly pressured to be a "real man" and call myself a Christian or else I was a "wimp" and I was either "weird" or going straight to Hell if I didn't call myself a Christian. However, the people around me mixed up masculinity with machismo and they didn't even take their own faith seriously, they just hope they are on the winning side so to say.
I was constantly told what to do by others instead of being encouraged to be myself so it's really no wonder why I feel lost in life.
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
*Shrug* Yeah, he cannot be helped otherwise. General cliché advice don't work without knowing one's exact situation.
I've mentioned living in Texas and being a public library worker, haven't I?
24 Oct 2017, 4:13 am
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