Aspie women why do you defend all women?

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Sly, you are 29 years old, you are not in college or in high school anymore, and you are not living with your relatives. If I were you, I'd get a car.

I can’t afford it, it’s get towed like my last one almost did. A car is 2,000 up front and thousands a year. I can’t afford that.inhave probably enough to buy a car but not enough to title registration it and then pay $100 a month. Then deal with it constantly breaking down which any car under $10,000 does. And the government won’t let me have one worth more then 2,000. My sister has a car, so we do joint grocery shopping. I paid what I had saved up for car repairs or new car to help her get her car. So I have about 1,700 total in my savings. To get me through til my next tax return. I could get a junk car for that but it might break down days after. I spent thousands on my last one only for it to have electrical issues that cause it to die randomly. So I buy my non fridge foods at the Walmart next to work and get my frozen or fridge stuff on join trips to the store.

I see lots of women take the bus , some carrying bags of food including cool bags to keep frozen stuff cold. Why can’t such women date men like them like me?

I’m playful and silly natured. I ve made every woman I’ve been on a date laugh except the one who just wanted free food. I also make women who message me for while laugh and they often say I was being so cute. But women won’t see that if they won’t message or go on a date with me.

Depending on the reply I spend an hour on some. I correct and change my reply a bunch before replying. I usually am doing this on the bus while it’s rocking and having to pay attention so I don’t miss my stop. That or when I have extra time before I’m supposed to leave for work, before bed or on my short breaks at work. I try my best to be perfect. I’m a perfectionist then of course wp erasing my replies and Crome will malfunction and erase them too. Then I have to start over after losing 20-60 mins of work.

So unfortunately few mistakes get through without me noticing and I’m not great with grammar in the first place.

I do on occasion crush on thin women. But they are the rarity. The woman I liked at work was more cause she’s super silly and playful.

I let my friend mooch off me for a year and he emotionally abused me. So why wouldn’t I be ok feeding and sheltering a woman that loves me and provides companionship.
But you assume I’d mooch off women, I won’t. I don’t even accept rides from them. I won’t eat their food, I won’t accept their gifts, I may consider visiting them but I likely won’t stay the night. I will let them stay with me and buy them food and gifts. I’ll take them to stay at the beach house once they are longterm. I’ll have to save and rent a car for that. I’d spend every cent I have on a gf, I’d do everything I could to make them happy.
Women don’t have to take care of me and I won’t ever accept them offering to. I have a job, I have a place to live, I buy my own food, clothes, etc I do my own laundry.

I can’t improve myself and there doesn’t seem to be any women on my level or below. Mean what’s below unemployed homelsss women? Cause such women won’t date me so they must be either in level with me or above atleast in their minds.

It depends what's important to you. You can blow your money on stuff and expect people to like you for who you are, or you could constantly work on improving yourself. If I was you i'd put that $500 into a savings account and leave it there, not blow it on rubbish. You clearly don't want a car, but you'd save so much time, and time is money. Can't you eat on a budget? Make your life work for you.

It doesn't sound like the bus is doing you any favours, you say you're on it for 4 hours a day. You could work two extra hours a day and still get home in a much shorter time.



I wouldn't agree, they really are useful in life. How do you expect to have a family if you won't buy a car? Is the woman expected to buy that too?



Sorry if this is too forward, but would you mind saying why? You haven't stated any other disability, I might be missing something here.



You might want to consider moving in with people your own age. Sounds like your family isn't very good for you.

Married couples often share such big purchase costs.

He isn't married though. If you're married, you share money. It doesn't matter who spends it, because if you divorce, you each get half.

It seems more like he isn't getting anywhere because he refuses to improve his life, but what would I know.

I'm going to challenge you, Sly.

What city do you live in? I can guarantee I can find you something of interest either job wise or interest wise. It costs nothing to you, just tell me where you live and humor me.

My food budget is $90 a month. Most people I know spend 150-200 a week.
So I have $22 a week.

We’d take the bus I suppose. I see people taking their kids all the time on the bus. Unless she already has a car. Then she can use it and I’ll tske the bus. Yeah sure time is money but money is money and cars are sinkholes for money. You pay 2,000it breaks down month later cost $500 to fix 4 months later it breaks down cost $250 to fix, 6 months later it breaks down cost 2,000 to fix so you either pay that our buy a another car and start over. I’ve had two, my sisters has had 4 my grand,a had 6. If yiu can afford a new car like brand new 20,000 dollars then yeah cars are ok for few years or so. Otherwise they sinkholes for money. Great business for mechanics though. In Eugene a lot of people ride bikes.

Yeah it’s save me hour and half if I had a car but cost me thousands a year I don’t make.
Most people seem to have jobs solely so they can pay to keep their car running lol.

Family i dont know i dont know if I want one or not. But like above could tske the bus. This guy takes his kids to two separate schools on his way to work. I see slot of business people tske ru bus too. It runs by their office. I’m sure businesses paid for the transit line to run by there. Lot of nurses tske the bus too since it goes by the hospital., security guards, fast food workers, retail employees, etc.
I don’t epect my gf to buy anything. I think I’ve made that clear, she can buy one if she wants. I’d help her pay for some of it if I could like I did my sisters car, I wouldn’t ride in it though.i wouldn’t use it. If I could I’d help pay some of her insurance. If she got sick and need medication I’d try to help pay it or get it for her. You seem to think I’m a mooch, which is what many women seem to think any man working a not well paid job is. I not a sit around eating her food drinking beer while watching football guy. Reality is I don’t think I’d ever live with a gf, this site has made it clear to me that I’d have to r fuse Any such desire from a gf to live together. Unless of course said girl lives off me and st my place I guess.

Are you the autism isn’t a disorder apsies are just lazy type? Cause I didn’t tske you as one. In America we recognize Autism as uncurable its a faulty brain wiring and can’t be fix and it doesn’t go away. Neither does my adhd, though that could be treated if doctors didn’t treat me as just try’s no to scam drugs. But they hand out anti depressants like candy

Almost moved in with my ex friend. Dodged that bullet, he’s a drunk and violent one. He lived with my other friend after me, got drunk and punched a hole in his appartment.

Can you find me a job in Hustler?

Can i just say as someone who struggles to work full time and have any kind of life outside of that due to how exhausted I am: i feel that having a work-life balance is a million times more important than what other people think of the job you do.

Though, if you are bored with your job or don't like it by all means look for something else. Keep looking at the want ads and see what comes up. Set up an alert for a job site to send you emils.

Just because one has a struggle getting a first job doesn't mean you can't find another one that you actually enjoy.

I don't even want to think about how many jobs I've been through to finally end up in one I like. I've never counted, but its in double figures.

My current job doesn't have the 'ooh that's interesting' response my old job did. I'm just a lowly admin person now, but I'm a lot happier now.

I'm moving closer in location to this job so that I'm not exhausted by the commute that is tacked on top of the full time hours.

One of my great regrets is that I don't really do any voluntary work. I mentioned a beach clean I wanted to do a few weeks back, but working and travelling is killing me. I'd like to be balanced enough energy wise to earn a living and do something useful.

There's more important things than what other people think of your job type.

Oh is that all that means, I thought you may have needed a wheelchair or something, which would make the transport thing perfectly understandable.

I don't see high functioning Aspergers as something that I would expect government money for. I've got a multitude of additional mental problems, such as ADD, severe anxiety and Borderline personality disorder, but the point is I can work, so I do.

Not you specifically, but some people use aspergers as an excuse so they don't have to try. I had the option of getting government money and doing nothing with my life but I refused it. The last thing I want is to be seen as less capable than NT's when it's not the case at all.

I am different though. I hold myself to extremely high expectations, and it probably explains why I hold others to those as well. I also grew up in a family where I was encouraged to do my best and do something with my life.

I hope you don't go around telling people you have 'A permanent disability" because it's really not something that people find attractive. I never mention my problems at all, the last thing I want to do is draw people's attention to the fact I'm different.

Not everyone can be business analysts.

There are different severities of Autism, anxiety. Etc.

I vomitted before my third date out.of anxiety.

I volunteered 4 hrs a day two days a week and even then had to abuse painkillers and sleeping pills just to ease my anxiety.

I was well liked and trusted there after being there for 3 months and working hard every time.

If I had to take painkillers to relax in a situation like that...

It was a fairly slow paced and easy task...

It wasnt a fast paced or loud environmnt thats for sure...

Some of us just feel.broken...

I didn't even tell my gf about my autism; nor planing to tell anytime soon.
I don't want her to see me as a different specimen.

She does recognize that I am very introvert- but that's fine to me.

I don't think you have any idea what I actually put up with. I had an anxiety attack at work in the toilets, started banging my head against the wall and my nose started bleeding. Just because I appear to cope well, does not mean I don't have similar struggles. Some days I cannot get out of bed and pull the covers over my head and cry. I force myself to go to that place but it's not easy. I have panic attacks every morning when I have to get out of my car and walk out of the building.

I also have been on anti OCD pills since I was 13, and I would be a cot case without them. So it's either be a cot case and have a useless life, or take medicine.

This is what I mean by having high standards for myself. I fight and fight and fight so I can come close to everyone else. It's why I don't understand a lot of the people here who don't.