My problem with relationships and age

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I hope you find whatever it is you really want, dorkseid. I think sometimes we just have to let ourselves feel depressed to feel like we're alive. To be honest with ourselves. And you've certainly been through hell.

i have found that for some of us at least, some things just ain't fixable. i hope Dorkseid avoids this fate.

Now why be negative? did you know a lot of girls travel from south America or Asia to the US for the experience of living in the US and experiencing another culture. Word on the street is there are a lot of repressed gorgeous babes living in Asia and South America who want to come to the US after 2 years of lockdown. Dorkseid should take advantage of this travelling population and offer to teach a hot south american or Japanese babe English.

No joke Dorkseid, they will come to you.

I'm pretty sure its already too late.

When I was in high school, I knew a guy who was pretty obviously an aspie. He never dated or got married despite wanting to. Eventually he died of suicide.

I weight over 280 lbs. (127 KG) I have diastasis recti and an umbilical hernia. My belly button is being visibly pushed outward from the inside. I regularly experience back and joint pains. I have no energy. I suffer from generalized anxiety, major depression, complex PTSD, and am prone to mental breakdowns. I lost all motivation to engage in any hobbies I once enjoyed. I rent a room to live in in someone else's house. I drive a piece of junk, and once it finally breaks down for good I won't have the means to replace it. I have no savings and no property or assets. I live pay check to pay check. I'm over $175K in student loan debt. Having no family means I'm denied access to anything that requires a co-signer like a home or a new car.

And before anyone says "but you got your masters degree", let me remind you all that its in education; a field that is far from financially lucrative. And getting tripled my debt. It was only a desperate gambit to ensure some level of employability by becoming qualified in a massively underserved field.

If nobody wanted me in my 20s when I in significantly better shape, why would anyone want me now?

from one aspie to another, i'm sorry, man. i'm in the same situation at least with enforced solitude and health issues. i'm 20 years older than you, and although it was no picnic, living another 20 years is doable. as to whether or not the effort was worth it.... jury still out. YMMV.

Never heard of her but women who jar their own farts for others to sniff seem like ideal women who don't take life too seriously and are probably hard to offend.

I have a friend from university that was the uni hottie and I really mean hottie. Literally drop dead gorgeous and looks a lot like Elsa from Frozen (bad comparison I know) She spews spaghetti hoops when drunk, urinates behind dumpsters, tells politically incorrect jokes, bear hugs me when she farts and tells you she'll be a while and to wait outside the bathroom door when she's taking a dump. It's weirdly reassuring for women to behave like that.

I certainly wouldn't overlook those women. They might be the best equipped to deal with an autistics quirks. The woman I mentioned above certainly likes mine and is why we are close friends (sadly) friends like that are a foothold I guess.

I wouldn't be too thrilled with a woman like that.....I'm into feminine niceties (but not too much!)

I know your situation is not a joke, Dorkseid.

But I do wish you would consider some of the advice given, and not dismiss it out of hand.

Just because something didn't happen yesterday----doesn't mean it won't happen today or tomorrow.

Why can't you put it in your "system" that you've accomplished a lot by getting a Master's Degree.

I'd be more worried about the types that buy such things.
Weirdos.
Clinically insane.



Hmnnnn...gorgeous ......yet acts like a cast member of MTV Jackass...tough call..but...
I guess i could be into it...i guess...
Reassuring...no
Strange...yes...
Attractive?..

Elsa, in real life.

Would you let a woman who looked like that...
fart
urinate
dump
on you, anywhere near you?
There's a fine line....i wouldn't know whether to be disgusted, or turned on..
That's how paraphilias develop...
But yeah.
Hot blonde.
But maybe too wild.
If shes like that around friends.
Imagine what she might be like, if you to be sexually involved.

Not always true. For example, it is now impossible for me to enlist in the military because of my age.

Wherever there is someone willing to pay for something, there is someone willing to gain financially by selling it. Especially when it is something they naturally have access to without needing to do any work to produce it.

I was never into the blonde look. I don't understand why so many people are so obsessed with it.

My sister is blonde, and growing up people were constantly obsessed with chasing after her until she got married. It was really rather uncomfortable.

I tend to prefer darker women. Maybe I'm just weird.

Blonde is good.
So are the other colours.
Hair is just hair though
What's underneath the hair is more important.
The type of person they are.

Joining the Armed Forces has nothing to do with finding love.

At age 39, you can still join the Navy, the Air Force, and the Space Force.

You can join the Reserves and the National Guard up to the age of 42.

I just found out: you have a Master's degree. If you really want to join the military, some of the age requirements can be waived. Talk to a recruiter.

Nothing like pictures of anime women to have as a image of a woman, in the very least, it was created with CGI graphics ….. Even airbrushed women do not look that good , blonde or otherwise. lololzzzz……
But in a age of computer graphic and vid games, who knows ..? …lolz

Nope

I find women who are too feminine think far to much of themselves and are a bit to chuffed with themselves for my liking. Feels like they think they're better than everyone else and constantly judging and weighing people up. Up to a point it has its limits. I feel a lot of women who are similar are a poor match for autistics.

I mentioned on another thread about that Irish woman who was already akimbo before I even walked over to her. She didn't give a crap about my autism. Others would have considered her rough around the edges or a skank but she was a woman who didn't care about nit picking men. She was literally as approachable as a woman could have been for any man and was very friendly afterwards.

When I'm writing this post, I'm in a pub (finished work early) and the woman behind the bar offered to keep a customer's fingers warm with the assistance of her rectum and given an elderly customer a back scratcher to scratch his "bum" after testing it on herself.

From my perspective at least, it's hard to genuinely mess up with women like that. Getting a connection on the other hand to a relationship level is very different but it's autism, is gonna be hard with anyone.