aspie girl lookin for aspie guy to chat to

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lol, it would seem I have! But hey, I like aspie guys

you didnt say in your original post, are u aspie or NT? i guess NT from what u have said but want to be sure

my title says "aspie girl"

k sry

you don't need to be sorry

on the positive side, you thought I sound "normal",lol.

I have no argument there, however this being said, all autistic people are a minority among our neurotypical brethern. I can certainly understand chatting and making friends with aspies, easy enough to do with the Internet. However dating one will be relatively diffucult considering we are sparsely located. The way I see it, it is futile to try and date aspies if they aren't around you to a reasonable degree, I think it would be best to stick with neurotypicals, but that's just my opinion.

I am member of a group at facebook ( http://www.facebook.com/group.php?gid=15912303964 ). An American woman there found her boyfriend in Australia. Now he has travelled to meet her!

Heh, I happened to run into that person at an aspie social group once, I think.

I don't know what 'she' is actually looking for, but keep in mind that based on your jurisdiction, at least in the usa, doing anything with someone who is 17 puts you into 'sex offender' land. And police do use entrapment. And aspies do tend to be trusting...

Just a thought. And if you're all so ga-ga, how come you don't join "aspie affection" and find someone legal, local, and interested?

Surely there are more guys out there that live near me? I regularly do a search on things like okcupid for 'aspie' and tend to not find anyone near me. In fricking Silicon Valley!

(Apologies if I'm repeating something from the second half of this mostly unreadable thread... I skipped.)

I would have thought that if there were Aspies on OKCupid, they wouldn't be mentioning it on their profiles.

Aspie affection has a guy:girl ratio of like 1,000 men to 250 girls.

1000:250, and iirc, 15:1 for me.
And none of them wrote anything in their profile! Gah!

And, I just said that I search on 'aspie', so I figure it reasonable that others would too. I tend to get more hits on Asperger, though. Usually in places totally useless to me. If I want useless, I'll stick with the guy I'm failing to pick up now... :P

I could maybe see them using the word "geek", or talk about things that are popular with Aspies.

Gee, that wouldn't help me sort anyone out at all... "I like computers." ---> all of silicon valley. :D

I don't actually mention it in mine, but I do strongly hint at it, and talk about related things in my "journal" there. And I figure people will stalk me back. After I've looked at them. ;)
Apparently there needs to be a thread on "how to write a good personal ad"... That picks up what you actually want...

Charming story, Freundchen, however there is one piece of the equation that is left to chance, and that is whether it will work out between them. I consider dating online from two different countries a bit taboo and odd, but to actual meet each other in one country seems a bit absurd. Look at this way, going to America when you're from Australia is probably very expensive. In addition to the expense, you must keep in mind whether or not both parties will go beyond bf/gf and into the realm of marriage.

Here is a hypothetical situation to illustrate my point. I'm from America (which I'm really from), and I chat with a girl from, let's say, Japan. We both are very intimately inclined and we both think we'll make an excellant couple. So I spend $3,000 to fly off to Japan to meet my gf. Sure it may be nice, but boy is it expensive. There is also the likelihood that considering such trips are expensive, I would sooner stay at home sooner or later, which ends any chance of the relationship blossoming. I would end up dating/marrying a local girl. Therefore all the time and money I've used up would be in vain. There is also the possibility that while I'm gone, my gf grows tired of being single and decides to see other guys.

Now if I moved over to Japan and decided to live their, I'd be leaving my job, my family, and my friends behind. There is also a chance that the relationship I'm trying to create might fail because of some personal reason. So in a sense, a number of things could go wrong.

This is a hypothetical situation, but my cousin did the exact same thing. She moved from Kentucky to Alaska just to be with her online bf. They ended up breaking up, and she moved back to Kentucky, so all her effort was in vain. See what I mean?

Duly noted, Penelope Asparagus. However I think MOST autistic males are smart enough to realize the legal ramifications of such actions, not to mention the fact that jinxed has stated that she comes from the UK. Loneliness may breed desperation, but a truly moral man would never consider doing anything of a provacitive nature to a minor (although it happens, ethics and morality do elude the minds of some).

Besides, I have never met a woman on this planet who engages me both physically and intellectually to my liking. Usually it is one or the other: she is either extremely beautiful and lacking in shared interests (conversation of psychology, sociology, philosphy, history, literature, movies, etc.) or she is average looking and doesn't really have the said characteristics above. Oh woe is me!

I understand why my Aspie and slightly autistic brethern seek each other out romantically, after all, we are very much alike in our plight. However, finding an autistic around you (some cases there are exceptions) is like trying to find a middle eastern man who is a Christian, it is moderately rare, but it does occur. However, considering that probability is not in our favor, I say it would be best to date/marry a sympathetic neurotypical. Not all neurotypicals are malevolent or hateful, some can be very kind and understanding, perhaps it is best to go after those.