arielhawksquill wrote:
I have dated fat guys, skinny guys, short guys, tall guys, muscular guys... It's really true that personality matters more to women.
I agree. Me too. Although not muscular guys, I don't like men who workout and have overly-developed muscles, ew. But fairly athletic and trim but not over the top, yes.
If you get to know a guy and like his personality and who he is, then those other things grow on you, like the first time I had a relationship with a guy who was quite hirsuit, had a very hairy chest, when previously I'd dated bare chested guys. At first I was a bit unsure, didn't particularly like it, but then it grew on me, I mean I grew to like it. But then later, after we'd broken up, and I ended up in a relationship with a different guy who had a bare chest again, I liked that too. Likewise going from skinny to athletic to podgy with lovehandles. Yeah, it was nice that a guy had a firm body and peachy bum, but then again, a different partner, had lovely squidgy lovehandles. And I've been in relationships with guys who are very handsome, but others who were more average looking. If you like them as a person, you like the package they come in, whatever shape or size or 'flaws'.
It really, truly matters less what they look like, and more what kind of person they are. In fact, some of the really handsome guys can be arrogant @rseholes. Some of the more average looking guys can be more genuine, less superficial people.
Personally speaking, I like guys who are intelligent, preferably who read and are interested in the arts and are a bit outdoorsy but not too much extreme sports-like, preferably someone who's interest in current affairs and politics and social justice, who have a good sense of humour and sense of fun so we can enjoy one another's company, and I'm a sucker for a guy with an altruistic streak, so I'd probably be more inclined to date a guy who, say, was a bike riding environmental or humanitarian charity worker (so fairly low paid) as opposed to a high earning engineer or executive working in the oil industry who drives a Hummer (in fact I'd be more inclined not to date a man who projected his status through a car).
Although, of course, having said all that, a millionaire philanthropist would be the best of both worlds!
Seriously though, if it was a choice between a wealthy corporate lawyer who drove a BMW, but was very materialistics and self-centred, or a campaigning journalist (journalism pays a lot less than corporate law) who reported on homelessness and poverty and child trafficking or something, and I clicked with them both in terms of getting on with them and enjoying their company, then it would be absolutely no contest I'd go for the lower paid but altruistic guy.
Wealth is not just measured in terms of $$$$$ y'know. There are other ways of leading a rich and fulfilling life.