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gender:male
location: washington state

Personality Type: Extreme INTP
Blog:
Website:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/User:Simfish
I have old ones - just e-mail me: [email protected].
SLOAN: RLUEI
Religion: Agnostic
DnD Alignment: Chaotic Neutral

Also known as: InquilineKea, NihilisticMacaw

Warning: I'm known for being neurotic.

As for me, I'm a nihilist and relativist, so I tend to be objective and detached. I currently go to the University of Washington (yes I entered 2 years early). I also have happened to self-study 4 APs in my sophomore year and a couple of SAT II's. I'm not particularly fond of the school system or the lecture system (but I actually like the collegeboard - since it allows people to self-study for tests without forcing them to go to class).

I'm VERY intellectual and VERY thoughtful (and I have little tolerance for most forms of entertainment or small talk, with the exception of those that relate to a few computer games). I have written approximately 200 pages of thoughts online (although they are disorganized at the moment). I'm fairly cynical but I am quick to trust people once I get to know them (probably too quickly at times).

I tend to waste loads of time looking up information related to my interests on the Internet. I have very few real friends, and am probably more autistic than most of you, but less so than a lot of famous scientists who were extremely unidirectional. I tend to get really into computer games, but am not into any particular computer game at the moment, having had to restrain myself.

As for the Internet, I used to frequently forum at http://aok.heavengames.com, so you can look for my old posts - they're all under variations of the Simfish name. I also have a substantial number of posts at http://www.talk.collegeconfidential.com. I used to be really into the Romance of the Three Kingdoms and analysis of the biographies of scientists.

I have virtually no appreciation for aesthetic matters. (except for philosophical writing, which could be considered kind of an art).

Go ahead and google simfish OR inquilinekea if you want to know more about me.

Anyways, here are my favorite books:

http://www.edge.org/questioncenter.html, The Structure of Scientific Revolutions (Kuhn), Consilience (E.O. Wilson), The Psychology of Science and the Origins of the Scientific Mind (Feist), Origins of Wealth (Beinhocker), The Blank Slate (Pinker), Origins of Genius (Simonton), The Scientist as Rebel (Dyson), Darwin's Dangerous Idea (Dennett), The Extended Phenotype (Dawkins), The Selfish Gene (Dawkins), Scientific Genius: A Psychology of Science (Dean Simonton), Beyond Good and Evil (Nietzsche), Towards a Genealogy of Morals (Nietzsche), Human All Too Human (Nietzsche), How the Mind Works (Pinker), Rare Earth (Brownlee and Ward), Life and Death of Planet Earth, The Brief History of Time (Hawking), The Nurture Assumption (Harris), No Two Alike (Harris), The World is Flat (Friedman), The Language Instinct (Pinker), Romance of Three Kingdoms, Deschooling Society (Illich), Freakonomics, The Man Who Loved Only Numbers, Talking About Leaving - Why Undergraduates Leave the Sciences, Intelligence: Knowns and Unknowns, The Quest for Consciousness (Koch), The Scientist in the Crib (Gopnik), Heaven in a Chip (Kosko), Noise (Kosko), Outsmarting IQ: the Emerging Science of Learnable Intelligence (Perkins), The Synaptic Self (LeDoux), Where Mathematics Comes From, The Executive Brain: Frontal Lobes and the Civilized Mind (Goldberg), The Quark and the Jaguar (Murray Gell-Mann), Why Smart People Can Be So Stupid (Sternberg), School's Out (Perelman)

This may be a little tl;dr (too long; didn't read), but I do tend to ramble on and on. I'm not nearly this talkative offline.

Real Name: Miao (pronounced “meow”)
Gender: F
Ethnicity: Han Chinese
Age: 22
Height: about 5’2”
Hair: Black, just below shoulders

Location: Florida, US
Occupation: college student (graduating this May w/B.S. degree in psychology)
Personality Type: (according to online tests, not official ones) INTP or INFP
Political Orientation: Democrat; fiscally and socially moderate liberal
Orientation: unsure, leaning toward straight
Diagnosis: unsure, hadn’t sought a diagnosis yet

Description:
I’m an amalgamation of cultures and styles. I don’t know how to even begin to classify or categorize myself: My style’s a little “indie”, a little “hip”, a little “nerdy”, a little “urban”, but sometimes it’s just bland. I have absolutely no idea exactly which style I fit best—I’m not deep into any particular style, whether in thinking or dress. I love my Chinese cultural background, but at the same time a bit repulsed by some elements from it, such as the blatant favoritism toward sons. I am sometimes for the individual and sometimes for the group (and often just confused about how I should be thinking).

I am curious about almost everything; I know a little bit of everything and a whole lot about almost nothing. I’m a little too serious about everything, often taking jokes seriously, and worry about everything but myself. I can often be found yelling at the screen after reading about some injustice or hateful comment. I do enjoy a good laugh now and then, though—even to lame fart jokes.

I’m rather timid; I can really open up to a person once I know him or her enough, but it’s hard for me to approach someone on my own accord. I’m usually ambivalent about relationships, but when I see a loving, happy couple, I can’t help but feel like I would miss out if I didn’t have someone to be a companion for life. Also, I can speak quickly and clearly or slowly and haltingly depending on my mood and state of consciousness, but my voice is always soft.

I have a tendency to trust too readily, but I attribute that to my belief that everyone has at least a shred of common courtesy and respect for others no matter the upbringing. I want desperately to believe that every person is a decent human being underneath his/her exterior, no matter how often the news or personal experiences try to shatter that belief. I am also not religious, and don't believe in any supernatural beings; I just believe in myself and nature.

Interests/Hobbies:
I love to sing in secret, and think I have a decent voice, but I’m not sure what anyone else thinks. I can draw fairly well, according to others. My current obsession is the Sims 2, and I don’t see that changing in the near future. I also take some guilty pleasure from following the Celebrity Baby Blog. I can play the piano, and would love more than anything to learn the drums and the guitar. I love watching Discovery, Discovery Health, TLC, and Animal Planet when I get the chance to watch TV. I'm not an otaku by any measure, but I do enjoy more serious, thoughtful series (though I do love Azumanga Daioh) such as Ghost in the Shell: Stand Alone Complex as opposed to overly fantastical or lighthearted series.

I dislike any “adult”-type hobbies and get uncomfortable with any even remotely kinky/sexy talk. I’m not much of a movie or TV-series person. I absolutely loathe reality shows of any sort.

Traits I Value:
Honesty, modesty, trustworthiness, compassion, intellectual curiosity, a desire for world peace, justice, and the protection of innocent things; open-mindedness, a dry sense of humor, good taste in music

I also have a thing for redheads, and don’t like smoking or drug use.

I work at FSU. Where do you go to school?

Gender: Male
Age. On 2008 I'm 18 years old
Location: Europe, Poland, Pomorze, Tczew


Description:
I admit I'm searching for a girlfriend. For a long time I was really happy with being the most socially isolated person I know, and I still be if I find an online girlfriend no worries. I really would love to have a girlfriend who shares the same interests as me. You might say it would be platonic love mainly because any intercouse online is impossible.

I might say that I'm a really flexible guy.I had numerous obsessions throughout my life, and I can switch between them if I find someone I can talk to about them.

When I was a child I was pretty isolated. I mean no friends aquaintces what-ever. Just go to school - home school - home etc.
I've spent most of the time by watching television. I admit that. So you can count tv as my first obsession. (Sort-off like the cable guy from the jim Carrey movie the Cable guy)

Second was ps2. I think I've played most of the rpgs available on ps2. I think the first one was Final Fantasy X (spend 120 hours on it), the second one was grandia extreeme which took 150 hours to max out. Etc. Latelly since no new games come out for the ps2 this obsession has faded. My favorite rpgs for the ps2 are Shin megami tensei: Nocturne, Persona 3, SMT: Demon Summoner, plus makai kingdom, phantom brave and other strategy rpgs. (I also really really really really liked final fantasy tactics, but that's on the ps1 (technically) so it doesn't caunt to this list)
After that Were animes. I've watched a lot of anime. But my favorites where the ones that would qualify to the mind**** genres in the us. Such as Excel Saga, FLCL, Cat soup, Abenobashi shopping arcade, parnoia agent, serial experiments lain, boogiepop phantom, Tamala 2010, hare+ guu etc.

I was also interested in computer for a long time, even learned how to make pretty good webpages in notepad at 13 years old but I abandoned it because (seed down)

Then since i faced a pretty traumatic period of my live having panic attacks. I purposedly developed an obsession with alternative medicine. Read many books about it. Long story short i did indeed cure my panic attacks and am now pretty stable emotionally.


Right now I also read about alternative medicine, play on my newly bouth psp, and read books about occultism and new age, and psychology, and sometimes a thing I call "alternative philosophy" (People like Terence Mckenna, Robert Anton Wilson, etc. I personally also liked the philosophy of chaos magic, and most LHP occultism books)


Personality wise I'm weird, and like to joke a lot. Jet one could call me totally not fit for life because I can get lost in my own school, not to mention my neighborhood. I'm also clumsy forgetful, and easily bored.



I'm looking for a girl that share's any interests with me and with which i can talk online. It would be great if we could exchange such things as feelings after reading a book, or opinions about an anime we liked etc.

You can pm me if you're interested.




My emails are:
[email protected]
[email protected]

Lets add one more guy to the already off balance scales shall we?

Gender: Male
Age: 21
Hair: Long, brown and curly
Eyes: Blue with a halo of color around the pupil, been described as amazing
Height: 5ft 8in roughly
Location: North Bay Area, California

Description:
Typical aspie I suppose, never had a girlfriend, only have about 15 people I consider really friends. Noone I know can tell I'm anything but normal though, all NTs.

My life is one of personal accomplishments, lost 70lbs, grew out of some typical aspie behaviors, few other more personal items that I don't feel comfortable sharing on a public forum. I'm a very determined, loyal person. I feel my greatest asset is the fact I keep my word, always. I go out of my way all the time to make sure I do so, letting people down is not something I'm willing to do.

I'm really a computer geek but more on the knowledge side of things and ability to fix them, I work for a company that services the greater Bay Area. We aren't big but there is always something to do every day all over the place. I don't have a clue how I come across but nerdy and socially inept aren't them.

Also an aspiring artist, just finished my 3rd painting (I think it sucks but mostly because I went in without any sort of plan and just sort of filled the assignment requirements as opposed to filling them and having fun with it). Trying to teach myself the guitar as well as writing some fiction and poetry.

Quite honestly I'm not a picky person when it comes to women. Like most people I prefer someone whose fit or at least not large/fat, my opinion on the subject is that if you aren't willing to keep the most important thing in your life in good shape what else aren't you willing to? As a former fat guy I stand behind this. Aspie or NT I don't care. Would be happy just making new friends.

You're not rambling besides Sims 2 is not an obsession but a useful tool.

www.aspieaffection.com/romance/showprofile.php?id=1119

This thread needs more Australian girls tbh.

Name: Tom
Gender: Male
Age: 21
Location: Nevada
Appearance: 5'11", 170 lbs, dark hair
Orientation: Straight

I am currently a college student in my final year of study. My major is management but I have absolutely no interest in it. I have an obsession with music, which has me primarily focused upon developing better guitar technique. I would say that I engage in guitar practice for an average of 5 hours per day. I enjoy a great deal of classical and jazz fusion music. I often have trouble sleeping because I will get something on my mind and must know everything about it, and will spend the entire night awake reading about whatever random thing it might be. I find myself to be very disinterested in what others have to say in normal conversation, to the point of not enjoying social contact much simply because I do not find it stimulating. This causes me to be very lonely at times, though I do have a few close friends. I have had a few long term relationships, but as of late I've been having the bad luck of dating the sort of women whom I need to put up a facade for. I just want to meet someone who can accept me for what I really am, which I believe is a nice guy who is just somewhat obsessed with his dream of being a great musician. I am an extremely rational person and an atheist. I think that I am physically attractive, and believe that physical attraction is necessary as a basis for a romantic relationship, regardless of other factors.

I suppose I'll give this a shot.

Name: Adam
Sex: male
Age: 23
Orientation: straight
Hair: Short, black
Eye color: blue
Height: 5' 9''
Weight: 175
Build: fit, starting to build muscle tone
Personality Type: INTJ - the scientist
Location: Dobson, NC

Though I may come off at first a cold uncaring person, once you get to know me you'll find that I as friendly a person you could want. The few friends I have value my vast intellect. Though an aspie, I have been learning various social skills in group therapy that I feel will make me a more desirable person. I like anime, video games, classical music, and coming up with storylines for my future career.

I am looking for a female that is at least my intellectual equal, an intellectual superior is a huge plus. She most also be warm, caring, and open to mt hobbies and I in turn will be open to hers. Her physique is an important thing, I want her to at least take some care of herself and I want her to feel good about herself. Other than that, it doesn't matter what they look like. I am however partial to beautiful eyes accompanied by a great smile with long flowing hair.

My dreams for the future include becoming a video game designer and bringing my storyline masterpiece to life! And, in memory of my dad (who I suspect also had Asperger's), I want to become just as strong as he was and to become as successful as he was.

If you are interested and/or require more information, please by all means pm me.

Name: Brandon
Age: 18
Hair: kinda blonde, long at the moment
gender: Male
Eye: Blueish green
height: 5'8
weight: 147
build: lower body strength mainly, I do running and swimming

personality type: INFP
Location: San Jose, California, south bay area

Orientation: straight
I'm pretty funny for the most part. I'm also quite flexible and I do a lot of stuff.
Love anime (mainly deep and involving series) and video games (RPGs, FPSs, action games in general). I like being outside too, so I'm not a total geek. I'm quite passionate about certain issues that are close to my heart, sometimes political ones. I'm about to graduate high school and go into college, so I'm kinda looking into that range. I plan to major in history and maybe literature. I'm an artistic person for the most part, but I am interested in some technical stuff though and I'm willing to learn more. I started drawing to complement my writing and I hope to start drawing comics.
I'm open to a lot of solutions, but I do tend to speak my mind an awful lot, I'm making for a childhood of remaining silent about my feelings.

Looking for someone kind, loving, yet not afraid to lay it down hard. Must be open-minded about a lot of things in life. Someone who enjoys deep personal relationships rather than sex. An intellectual equal is appreciated, I'm more interested in someone teaching me instead of the other way around. I like a wide variety of music, anything with a good beat. I don't place lyrics as top priority.
I would like someone tall and a little skinny, kinda like me with beautiful eyes.

Gender: Male
Age: 27
Location: NYC
Orientation: Straight
Occupation: Grad student

I have a wide range of intellectual interests, mostly scientific in nature. I work in scientific computing, so I get to mathematically model (some of) those interests. I'd really like to work on modelling the human brain, especially for the purposes of understanding autism and intelligence. I'd also really like to work with quantum physics, or astrophysics, but more quantum. Oh, and AI and game theory. For someone who doesn't like to work much (hey, I'm a grad student, what do you expect?) I really have a lot of fields I'd like to work in.

When I'm not pretending to work, I like to play games of all sorts, go out with friends, play sports, go to concerts, just about anything really. I prefer active entertainment to passive; I'm not much into movies or TV or tech gadgets. Even when I listen to music, I usually do it online so I can search for similar music I might like, or read about the band while I listen to them.

So I'm looking for a woman who's very smart, has some sort of intellectual passion that she pursues seriously, is a little geeky, is in good shape physically, competent in most matters, and generally nice and caring and understanding.

I'm 24 about to be 25 next month. My name is Jacob and I'm 5'6". I live in Fremont which is near San Francisco. I like to visit the malls and hang out in the city. I'm also a very silly person who likes to tickle escecially belly buttons. I never act my age it's not worth living a lie since I don't tell lies why live one. I'm not sexually active so it's more a companion hunting thing. I'm looking for people I will meet and hangout with in my area. I don't drive so I know the bus system well. Alameda and San Francisco counties preferred.

I go to Creative Groth Art Center whoes address I'll give at the end. I'm an artist, paint, pottery and some wood work. I'm very nice and like to hug everybody I like. I'm a little shy in person so the internet help fix that. I'm religious but not with any church it doesn't work with my beliefs.

Hi, my name is Daniel. I'm 36 years old and have Asperger's. Superficially I look very high-functioning, i.e. I hold a job and live independently, I have no problems coping with the material aspects of life. Underneath the surface though, there are some problems: I find it difficult to cope with my emotions and to make friends. Although I appear to be "normal", my way of relating to the world is definitely Aspie! I compensate for AS difficulties by using my very high intelligence.

I'm facing a dilemma.
On the one hand, I don't have any close friends and live on my own. I feel lonely, and the loneliness often gets at me.
On the other hand, I find it overwhelming to have to cope with living in society, and relating to other people all the time. I need some peaceful and quiet times on my own to recover.
I'm sure that many of you Aspies out there will identify with that!

I am looking for a special close friend of the opposite sex, to share experiences and happy times with, and for mutual support. I don't, however, think that I will ever want to live with anyone full-time, and I definitely do not want children.

The person I am looking for will need to be somewhat free of the aspects of Asperger's that interfere with relationships. That is, she'll need to be able to hold a reciprocal conversation and have overcome her tendency to perseverate and monologue, at least to the extent that she doesn't get on my nerves all the time. Having said that, I understand what it is like to be Aspie, and I am prepared to accommodate someone's special needs, just as I will want mine to be accommodated.

I am also an atheist, and keen to understand reality from a scientific and philosophical perspective (but without being dull or boring!); I am looking for someone who shares this worldview. My main hobby is vegetable gardening; I really enjoy it, it makes me feel different when I do it! I'm hoping to do more and more of it, and ultimately run a proper smallholding.

I live on the south coast of England.

If you are interested, please get in touch!

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John
Age 34
near Tallahassee, FL

In the process of getting a divorce. Three kids. Self-diagnosed, so I'm not sure, but I think I'm releativly mild AS. Problably just well therapized from nine years of a rather odd marriage to someone who is cyclothymic . Basically typical AS, except I don't have many glaring OCD traits. Normally I very rarely stim or get over-whelmed. Mostly interested in computers generally and web programming specifically. I more sedentary than not. Even though I'm economically (etc.) stable, I am not ambitious. Physically... tall and thin. (picture)

Looking for someone who is accepting and non-judgemental but at the same time confidant enough in themselves to push me to be better. Along the same vein, preferably someone who is more outgoing than myself. Someone who is sweet and caring. And someone within driving distance (i.e. FL, GA, AL, maybe SC).

Age: 27
Gender: F
Orientation: Straight
Location: Indiana (midwest USA)
Recent jobs: camp counselor for disabled kids, lic. long-term sp. ed. teacher, server, direct care provider, health educator
Education: BS Biology, RN

I like to be outdoors and be active, but I also love to watch movies and read. I like to travel, write, and take photographs. I LOVE having my hands in clay, and perfecting a form. Probably my biggest obsession is texture--in art museums it's SO hard for me to not touch the paintings and sculptures--I fixate on them. I like to have my hands in beads, seeds, stuff like that...like Amelie? Road trips are awesome, I like driving a stick shift fast with the windows down. I can listen to the same song/CD/sound bite over and over again. I tend to make a lot of lists. Two cats are likely the closest I'll ever get to having children. They make me laugh, so do Conan and Seinfeld, among other things. I crack myself up too. I'm pretty sarcastic, but often I can't judge when other people are going between literal and figurative things. I'm kind of a "culinary adventurer," yet I'm strange about texture. I can't eat raw plant matter...I find lettuce revolting. I'm passionate about anthropology; I'm super nerdy, in the academic way. I like to laugh and to make others laugh.

I'm a pretty outgoing person most of the time. When I was younger I was miserable and depressed and a total loner, but I forced myself to socialize, even though it was really difficult, and I like being this way better (even though I still feel alone a lot). I AM shy, and I do have a lot of trouble making eye contact, especially when I first meet someone. I am horrible at small talk.

As for the physical stuff, I'm 5'5" and my BMI is 24. I have long straight-to-wavy brown hair, brown eyes, and tan skin (but it's just that color, I don't go tanning). I'm curvy, and I know this because it's hard for me to find clothes that fit.

Maybe I have more relationship experience than some people who are on this board, and I've learned a lot from those relationships. One thing I've realized is that I'm just sick of trying so hard, ALL the time. It's one thing to be sure I'm not exhibiting any odd behaviors at work, at school, in the community, with friends...but I guess I'd like to be able to kinda relax at home, and not worry so much. I talk to myself, I do. I've been yelled at by ex-boyfriends when they realize that I'm talking to myself, or get annoyed by some stim thing that I'm doing. I don't want to get "in trouble" for just being me...so I'd like to find someone who can understand that I AM HOW I AM.

Asperger s. doesn't define me, it just explains a portion of me.

I don't think that I'm looking for anyone in particular, only hoping that maybe, just MAYBE, there's someone else out there who...that the two of us can interrelate to each other, and just BE.

Relationship experience something I also have as well. However, I'm trying to focus on my education (med school) then dating at this time. What was nursing school like?