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20 Dec 2018, 8:41 am

Yeah, sure...why not :P



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20 Dec 2018, 8:42 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
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You know what would be interesting. Find someone on a dating site anywhere in the world that you assume would be in my league.

I'm a chubby lady Gaga, Jennifer Aniston, Barbara Streisand type, with British teeth.

Do you go for chubby men or just average/slim men?


I'm not meeting that many chubby men. There was one I really liked, but we didn't click. He was very shy and I was really ill at the time and it didn't go anywhere. I even got his cousin to put in a good word for me. He is adorable. He's going out with a really petite girl now. They look very happy. I'm well jealous.

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Chris Farley or Benedict Cumberbatch?


I adore Benedict Cumberbatch. He has a quick wit and is rather charming.

I've never heard of Chris Farley. I googled him. He's a bit chubby for me, but he has really nice eyes, so not a no, but not my first choice, but really not a no.



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20 Dec 2018, 9:03 am

hurtloam wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
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hurtloam wrote:
You know what would be interesting. Find someone on a dating site anywhere in the world that you assume would be in my league.

I'm a chubby lady Gaga, Jennifer Aniston, Barbara Streisand type, with British teeth.

Do you go for chubby men or just average/slim men?


I'm not meeting that many chubby men. There was one I really liked, but we didn't click. He was very shy and I was really ill at the time and it didn't go anywhere. I even got his cousin to put in a good word for me. He is adorable. He's going out with a really petite girl now. They look very happy. I'm well jealous.

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Chris Farley or Benedict Cumberbatch?


I adore Benedict Cumberbatch. He has a quick wit and is rather charming.

I've never heard of Chris Farley. I googled him. He's a bit chubby for me, but he has really nice eyes, so not a no, but not my first choice, but really not a no.


Now, do you think you're too chubby for a Benedict Cumberbatch lookalike?
(There's always a hidden agenda behind my questions :mrgreen: ).



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20 Dec 2018, 9:07 am

No, coz he's a little odd looking.



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20 Dec 2018, 3:34 pm

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You know what would be interesting. Find someone on a dating site anywhere in the world that you assume would be in my league.

I'm a chubby lady Gaga, Jennifer Aniston, Barbara Streisand type, with British teeth.

You’re pretty. Out of my league I don’t bother messaging women who look like you.
I’d spguess people would say you’re a 7/8



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21 Dec 2018, 3:40 am

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I'm not meeting that many chubby men. There was one I really liked, but we didn't click. He was very shy and I was really ill at the time and it didn't go anywhere. I even got his cousin to put in a good word for me. He is adorable. He's going out with a really petite girl now. They look very happy. I'm well jealous.

Right, well that might be part of your problem. I don't think it's a secret that most people prefer slim/average partners to chubby/fat ones, and when you are slim/average weight yourself, you have a higher chance of being able to attract a slim/average weight partner, so the prospect of a chubby/fat partner is in general less appealing to you. Obviously it's not impossible for a chubby person to attract a slim person, but the odds of it happening are lower than a chubby person attracting a chubby person or a slim person attracting a slim person. I'd suggest trying to seek out men of a more similar body type, whether you decide to lose some of the chub and go for average weight men, or stay the same and go for chubby men, your odds will be better.



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21 Dec 2018, 3:56 am

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I'm not meeting that many chubby men. There was one I really liked, but we didn't click. He was very shy and I was really ill at the time and it didn't go anywhere. I even got his cousin to put in a good word for me. He is adorable. He's going out with a really petite girl now. They look very happy. I'm well jealous.

Right, well that might be part of your problem. I don't think it's a secret that most people prefer slim/average partners to chubby/fat ones, and when you are slim/average weight yourself, you have a higher chance of being able to attract a slim/average weight partner, so the prospect of a chubby/fat partner is in general less appealing to you. Obviously it's not impossible for a chubby person to attract a slim person, but the odds of it happening are lower than a chubby person attracting a chubby person or a slim person attracting a slim person. I'd suggest trying to seek out men of a more similar body type, whether you decide to lose some of the chub and go for average weight men, or stay the same and go for chubby men, your odds will be better.


Lol. I'm not not fat. I'm only a UK 12 -14. I used to be a 10, so I feel like a heffalump now.

I'm chubbier than I once was and I'm not an apple, I'm an hour glass. I'm more Kim Kardashian shaped, bit no where near as fat.

Try again.

I know this is hard without photos.



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21 Dec 2018, 3:22 pm

The Grand Inquisitor wrote:
hurtloam wrote:
I'm not meeting that many chubby men. There was one I really liked, but we didn't click. He was very shy and I was really ill at the time and it didn't go anywhere. I even got his cousin to put in a good word for me. He is adorable. He's going out with a really petite girl now. They look very happy. I'm well jealous.

Right, well that might be part of your problem. I don't think it's a secret that most people prefer slim/average partners to chubby/fat ones, and when you are slim/average weight yourself, you have a higher chance of being able to attract a slim/average weight partner, so the prospect of a chubby/fat partner is in general less appealing to you. Obviously it's not impossible for a chubby person to attract a slim person, but the odds of it happening are lower than a chubby person attracting a chubby person or a slim person attracting a slim person. I'd suggest trying to seek out men of a more similar body type, whether you decide to lose some of the chub and go for average weight men, or stay the same and go for chubby men, your odds will be better.


She’s not chubby
She’s thin to average.
She’s have a bf real quick in my city
I think you’re close to the problem though
Chubby men like me know thin women go for thin men so we don’t even bother trying



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21 Dec 2018, 4:58 pm

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I think you’re close to the problem though
Chubby men like me know thin women go for thin men so we don’t even bother trying

I'm the same as you in this respect. My search for a partner has been on hold to some degree because I'm not happy with how my body is, and I figure if I'm not happy with it, why would a potential partner be?

At the same time though, I'm coming to realise how little opportunity I actually have to meet women in a real-life setting given I don't really go anywhere recurringly, or where the purpose is socialising where there's a lot of women. I don't really expect to find a girlfriend now, I'd be satisfied with just making some female friends, but I'm considering that maybe I should be a bit fairer to myself and actually give myself the opportunity to meet women before I conclude that I have no chance with them. Online dating is not an accurate reflector of real-life social dynamics.



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21 Dec 2018, 6:54 pm

I’m fine being chubby, I just know most women won’t date chubby men, they want thin men, especially thin women.



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21 Dec 2018, 7:10 pm

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I’m fine being chubby, I just know most women won’t date chubby men, they want thin men, especially thin women.

So try for chubby women then. Women who are fatter than you will be even more likely to be interested in you, so if you want to maximise your chances of finding someone, go for women who are fatter than you.



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22 Dec 2018, 12:28 am

The Grand Inquisitor wrote:
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I’m fine being chubby, I just know most women won’t date chubby men, they want thin men, especially thin women.

So try for chubby women then. Women who are fatter than you will be even more likely to be interested in you, so if you want to maximise your chances of finding someone, go for women who are fatter than you.


You think I haven’t?
Chubby women want handsom athletic thin men too. I’ve seen quite a few obese women with thin men, though I assume they were obese when first met.
Like I’ve aaid I don’t ask out or message thin women I know there’s no way in hell they’d date me but chubby women won’t either so I’d have to get thin and athletic to just be attractive to chubby women how’s that for fair?
Yes I know life’s not fair I’m very awar if it it’s been unfair to me my whole life, but it pokes holes in the whole go for women like you logic.



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22 Dec 2018, 12:32 am

I'm slim and I don't want a thin guy. So, there!


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22 Dec 2018, 12:39 am

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I'm slim and I don't want a thin guy. So, there!

You already have a guy so don’t want one .
Most women’s profiles say guy have to be thin and athletic even ones bigger then me.



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22 Dec 2018, 12:47 am

Nope, I don't have a steady boyfriend.
I was seeing someone a few months ago and we are still friends, if that's what you're thinking.


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22 Dec 2018, 12:57 am

IsabellaLinton wrote:
I'm slim and I don't want a thin guy. So, there!

And I know a tall Chinese guy! An exception doesn't disprove a trend.

Even if you don't want a thin guy though I doubt you'd want an obese one.