Bigotry against involuntarily celibate men

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If you're a size 44 you're probably bigger than a 29. What's your height and weight?

I have a 30 BMI.

Or you could take an interest in learning something new.

I think we have very different perspectives on how we experience life.

Sly's quite tall.

I didn't realize that. I suppose my ideal figure would be about 28-30, then.

And I'm rather short....Sly is about 10 inches taller than me.

You must have wider interest, which is odd for aspies since we tend to have a special interest we solely obsess about.
I have limited interest, I don’t like music instruments, kinitting, sewing,arts and crafts etc
Women don’t tend to like guns, shooting, video games, coins, swords and knives, camping,hiking etc
So if I go to a art class it’s fake. I don’t like art I have no interest in it. It’d be as bad as me going to a library.

I look like the 29 guy. I have a bell but my fat doesn’t expand sidways. You can feel my ribs in my side and chest.i have what they call a beer belly. I don’t have much fat on my legs or arms. My fingers are pretty thin.
People I consider obese tend to have fat everywhere

Women don't just like knitting, sewing, arts and crafts.

It's not impossible for aspies to like new things and enjoy something different. You aren't trapped by your special interests.

Most women do stereotype women stuff
Most men do stereotype men stuff
It’s why there stereotype gender stuff.
Some won’t but majority do.
Most women I’ve met do thst stuff or go shopping st the map on weekends for fun. I wouldn’t find shopping for clothes every weekend fun. They wouldn’t find video games fun or camping fun. I’ve only met one woman who said they’d go camping the rest avoid it like the plague, or will do it only if the place has bathrooms and showers.
Would yo go camping in the woods with no bathrooms or running water?
It’s impossible to like stuff you don’t like.
Suggest something women do I’d like thsts nit a stereotypical women’s activity .cause I can’t think of anything

I agree that we shouldn't just go around spreading hopelessness and telling people nothing will ever get better. Personally, I want more than anything to find a reason to hope and believe things will improve. But the reality of my situation simply does not support that. The reality of my life is as follows: I am 36 years old. I still have no career or career prospects. I'm buried in student loan debt, have terrible credit, and am always broke. I suffer from autism, anxiety disorder, and major depression; and am emotionally unstable and prone to emotional meltdowns. And I'm overweight. Essentially, anyone who dates or marries me will end up having to take care of me much more often than the other way around. Think about it: would you want to date someone who fits that description?
And add to that the fact that the supply of single women is dwindling, and that the vast majority of women who are still single are so likely for a good reason: either they are so unpleasant they push any potential suitor away, or they have unrealistic expectations which nearly nobody can live up to. I mean, if she isn't one of these two, there is no reason for her to still be single. And the few who are for one reason or another will always have better options than me available.
Additionally, as an atheist I fail to conform to the cultural standards of my local community. The vast majority of women won't touch me because of that alone.
Now, if it was someone possible for me to meet every woman in the world at a stage in her life when she was still single, then would I be able to find someone I'm compatible with? I'm fairly certain I could in theory. But that's not how reality works.

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I have a very wide range of interests so I'm not your typical autistic.
Autism doesn't mean one set thing, we're all individuals with varying traits.

Well in many ways I'd rather be built that way than the way I am. Even if it's not muscle, a bigger guy is invariably stronger. Certainly I think a woman looks best in the category listed "slightly overweight" here, and I think I'm not alone in thinking this.

Perhaps women think similar things about men. It's not nice to be too thin.

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Being obsessed about one topic is part of the aspergers diagnosis
That we get stuck on things and go on and on and on about them for years.

I don't know that many women who sew these days. My friends come to me if they need alterations because they don't know how to do it.

Things all genders like:

Learning a new language
Learning first aid
Genealogy (researching your family history)
Cooking
Improving computer skills
Table top gaming (there's a group near you with female members)
Walking clubs "get outside"
Film clubs
Fictional writing
Improv
Catovers flu
Dog walking club (May need a dog for this one though)
Dance
Dodgeball
Mix n mingle group (there's one near you)
Recycling/environment/beach clean/
Rowing/canoeing
Puppeteering
Comics
Cycling
There's a lot of programming groups near me (hmm when I'm feeling a bit better I might investigate)
Pub quiz (No sure if this is just a British thing)
Craft beer lovers

Most want a 22-24 BMI guy. Probably same for most men about womem