To the men: What us women face.

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Not for me, at least not for the foreseeable future. And I don't think I'd get along well with a woman who doesn't agree with me here



I don't see any of these wrong--and it wouldn't bother me if any of these were true of a woman I was dating. Or, to clarify, 3) would be disappointing if I were romantically interested in her, but if I was only interested in sex and/or friendship, it wouldn't be. Scenarios 1) and 2) would not get in the way of me liking a girl, much less insult me.

I'm not trying argue you out of your opinion, I'm just explaining why a lot of women have a problem with it.

Uh. Where are you getting that from? The guy in the picture looks like he works out, and he has long hair. However, that doesn't imply that he's always on his way either to or from some all-night rave party where he poured a bottle of Vodka over his head and had crazy wild sex with coked-up sorority girls.

That picture looks like over half the guys I'm friends with who live here, most of whom are generally calm, laid back, down to earth guys. That guy doesn't even really look "scene" - he doesn't have full sleeve tattoos or the multiple facial piercings that almost all scene guys have these days. He just looks like your standard California surf kid.

Maybe the problem is that you see a guy who looks like that, and automatically assume that he's going to be some kind of hedonistic egomaniac, simply by virtue of being a good looking guy. Just the same way that there are plenty of very attractive young women who are calm, sensible, and down to earth, despite the probability of many guys who seem them out dancing at a club wearing a miniskirt and heels and automatically assume that they're shallow, materialistic gold diggers.

Finally - From my past experience in Los Angeles and Miami, even the shallow scene kids who go to clubs these days think that people who wear Ed Hardy shirts are massive toolbags. So more than anything else, maybe just the Ed Hardy shirt would be the dead giveaway.

We also have to have blonde hair, blue eyes, and a 28 inch waist. That nonsense makes me feel proud to look the way that my favourite Kink did, in the Summer of 1964. Dark hair, dark eyes, 45 inch waist.

They're never going to be number one.
Even if they were the only one, they're at most my fifth priority.
And they aren't ever the only one, so making them think they are is just going to make them overly confident in my interest in them.

That's fine, Ursa, but knowing you're #5 is a pretty big ego blow for a lot of people, so it may be hard for you to find someone interested. You might end up with someone who can't get a relationship with anyone, and would take #5 over nothing at all.

actually i think the whole "men only like blonde blue-eyed bombshells" stereotype to be utterly cliche .
For example, i don't even like blondes that much, my preference is brunettes .
My girlfriend has brown hair & hazel eyes .
& i think it's a shame that so many girls try to be blonde these days by bleaching/dyeing their hair, etc

Actually it's common knowledge now days that 98% of men like brunettes.
So any man claiming to like brunettes isn't unique, just one of the majority.

I think being biased against hair colour is bloody pathetic in general tbh. Some people look bloody awful as a brunette, (usually natural blondes) but dye their hair anyway to be "more appealing", which I think its sad - changing hair to try and be "hot" instead of doing what suits them..

I've only just let bleach grow out of my hair so it goes back to it's natural dark brown recently, I'm going with what suits me from now on regardless of what others think.

YES!



Good on ya.


So...who takes places 1-4?



You've just answered your own question. Lots of women are looking for a boyfriend who won't be looking at other girls while they are a couple, and they aren't interested in you because that's not your approach. They are romantically interested in you in exactly the way you described.


Obviously in the case of friendship, but some people prefer to save sex for when they are in a monogamous relationship.



Scenarios 1) and 2) might not bother you, but they will probably bother a lot of women (again I'm open to correction by the ladies here).