Why do guys hate fat chicks?

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Yeah, I actually was having a meltdown during a lot of those posts. I had to run and take my antidepressant to make it stop. D:

Bugzee, I apologize if I offended you. Remember, as an Aspie I sometimes am not aware of how outlandish some of my comments can be.

Can we stop arguing about racism now? It's making my head hurt. >.<

Most people have racial preferences when it comes to dating. I'm white, and I don't find most black girls particularly attractive either. Some of them are pretty hot (Alicia Keys and the like), but on average they're not as attractive as white, hispanic, or Asian girls. I don't see why it's so taboo to have a romantic or sexual preference for one race over another. It's no different from a girl not wanting to date a guy who's under five feet tall.

I can see where Erisad is coming from, and I think it's perfectly valid. It isn't hypocritical to have preferences and want at least some guys to not have a preference against her. She is frustrated not because she wants all guys to be attracted to her, but because she feels that no one is attracted to her. This can be a difficult situation to deal with, and those who have always had an easy time with the dating scene are not able to appreciate this.

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Thank you. This is what I was trying to get across.

being an Aspie is no excuse for outlandish comments. But I am tired of arguing as well, and it is becoming like beating a dead horse now.

But I'm good at outlandish comments.

Anyway. Yaaaaaay truce.

I think the Weight Watchers idea is a very good one, as is increasing the distance you walk every day. I lost a lot of weight after my son was born by going for long walks every day with him in his pushchair. I would walk for about 7 - 10 miles a day and I got to know my area very well.

I remember going to use their site but it required me to pay to become a member. Was I doing it wrong or something? I think I may have clicked the wrong link. >.>

y the way Erisad, I don't think your unattractive. You got a pretty face, you just haven't met the right guy.

Awww, thanks Bugzee. ^_^

I'm sure you're a swell guy too. Emotions just make communication difficult sometimes. >.>

A lot of guys don't. I think the guys who are nasty about fat women tend to have masked self esteem problems themseleves.

Guys don't have to be attracted to fat women, but some are openly nasty about them.

I personally prefer a man with a bit of wobble.

Probably. I would prefer it if people weren't as nasty about it. We has feelings too. >.<

I am more concerned with interests and beliefs than looks.

It's is a pay service. You can also go to meetings (or do both meetings and on-line). In some instances, your medical insurance may cover part of the costs. I do recommend going to meetings - especially when you first start. That way you can ask questions and get feedback from the class leader (usually a "successful" WW member who's now teaching the classes). For me, going to meetings keeps me accountable. It's just too easy to put off weighing if you do it on your own using just the on-line membership. The one thing that really helps is to keep track of what you eat - their "points" system makes it really easy to do that. Based on your activity level and body weight/frame, you get a certain number of points for the day to "spend" how you like. It can be on ice cream, or a more healthy choice. Really, what it does is makes you accountable for your choices, shows you how much a "poor" choice costs (e.g., high points) and how much food you can eat using your points wisely. I really didn't feel deprived while doing it. I did have to make "choices", and I wasn't always happy about that, but it might be that if I wanted a cup of icecream for dessert, I had to make the choice to plan for it in advance by eating heathly all day and setting aside the points for that treat.
And, to be honest, the reason that I decided to lose weight was because I felt like crap. I did it for me - not for anyone else. And, there have been studies that show that a "fit" person who exercises and eats well and still carries some extra pounds can be just as heatlhy as someone who's not overweight.
Please don't let other's opinions of your weight beat you down - there are a lot worse things in life than being overweight. Stupid can't be fixed........

How much does it cost though? I'm an unemployed college student so I really don't have much to spare. Not making an excuse here, just stating fact. D:

I think that you can buy 1 month at a time for $40-$50. If you buy 12 weeks, I think that it is $179.00. Some people try the month to get themselves started/understand the plan and then try to go it alone. Maybe someone could "gift" it for you? Also, if you are a student and covered under your parents' health plan, you can sometimes get a discount. I think that HAP (Heath Alliance Plan) covers 1 12-week session per individual per lifetime. My insurance Blue Cross gives a $20 discount of the 12-week plan. Hope this helps!

I would get off the antidepressants or at least switch to another one and see what happens. I take prozac and it hasn't caused any sort of weight side effects. You said something about not wanting to talk to your doctor about this, just find another doctor if you don't like this one. I think if you struggle as much with weight as you say, ask your doc about gastric bypass or lap band surgery. Even if you can't afford it, don't want to do it, etc etc....asking about it makes your doc realize that you seriously want to lose weight, and he may start taking you seriously.