Dating profile, part 2

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Thanks very much!

Well, I'm doing it because its an option available to me at the moment. While I've heard that on-line dating isn't successful for a lot of people, I've also heard that it also depends on presentation and on-line social skills. That's partly why I started a previous thread asking for opinions on a draft profile and why I've continued to ask questions here. It's not taking up all my time and will try it. It'll either work or it won't.

Also, just to not that I've chatted with three women already and I've gotten as far as giving one of them my e-mail address.

No more updates yet. I still need to get round to getting new pictures to put up on my profile. Although I know that I may or may not eventually get any dates from the site, I still think it will be somewhat disappointing if I don't. Anyway, I'll let you know if anything new happens.

Cool, keep it churning. If anything else, it's a learning experience.

Weirdly, someone got in touch with me on OKcupid recently. I don't think it's a coincidence. So even if your account lies fallow for months, there's still a chance of hooking someone.

Do you mean that you haven't logged in to OKCupid for months and someone has send you a message? I've been hesitant to send messages to people who haven't logged in for a long time because usually felt that there's little likelihood that they would log in and reply.

Okcupid sends an email out when you receive a message. So as long as they signed up with an email account they actually use on a regular basis, they should get a notification.

I've noticed that I get notification every time someone messages me, although if I see that someone hasn't logged in for months or even a year, I get the feeling that they've lost interest and moved on, probably also forgot to delete their profile.

That's perfectly possible.

I haven't had messages this whole week, or even had anyone visit my profile. I wonder it's because this thread appears as a google hit when my OKCupid user name is searched for. It was originally a google hit because my user name appeared in the link to my OKCupid profile in the opening post which is why I asked Tinky to change it for me about a month ago. However, this thread still appears as a google hit when my OKCupid user name is googled even though the cached version of this thread, dated at 23 October, only contains the changes that Tinky made. Does anyone know how I can solve this problem? Otherwise everyone I chat to on OKCupid can just google my user name and find this thread. So much for not letting people know I've got AS until I'm ready.

Oops. That's kinda not good. Though saying that, I never bothered to google anyone from OKcupid. Is there anything to suggest that anyone has googled you and seen this thread?

I can't think of anything, except perhaps getting a new account with a new user name. You can keep checking your old one for a little while just in case.

There's nothing obvious to suggest that anyone on OKCupid has googled me. Although, it is a privacy concern.

I could start a new profile, though I could also wait to see if I get any more messages. Or I could also message more people and see if they reply to me.

I've got sort of an update but it's not really exciting. I've worked out why I haven't been getting Icebreakers. I've enabled the Icebreakers feature on OKCupid and I'll see how that goes.

In the meantime, maybe I should start a thread asking Alex about the pros and cons of Google's cached content of Wrongplanet. I can't be the only one who's had problems like this with hits showing up on Google.

It really looks like you need to change your OKCupid user name if you want to be sure that people won't discover your WP connection with a Google search.

Be brave and message the women you are interested in,it's your best chance for success. Only a small percentage of women will reply so don't get discouraged, it just the way it is for most guys.

If a girl decided to google your username then that most probably means she already has a crush on you, it's unlikely to happen at this stage , not before meeting the girl for real. It's not like hordes of girls would google your username either, you're not Hollywoodly drop dead gorgeous or famous.

So stop being paranoid, it won't happen anytime soon. Focus on how to meet a ONE girl for real thro this OkCrap instead.

You know what Boo? I actually think you're right this time. I haven't deleted or changed my profile and for now I'm not going to. Occasionally, I do worry too much about silly things in real life.

Last edited by Jono on 01 Nov 2010, 2:40 pm, edited 1 time in total.

Thanks.