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15 Nov 2010, 12:40 pm

People should accept that you're a human being regardless of how you look and treat you as such. As long as you're not purposely rude and belligerent in front of them, they should give you the benefit of the doubt and treat you with a degree of respect. Sex, love, and friendship, however, are not part of the package. If you want any of those, you have to earn them.



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15 Nov 2010, 12:41 pm

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Some of my old "friends" came by the house tonight. Bragging about how much money their making. And how they go to clubs and parties every other weekends. They also talked about the women that they go out with and f**k.


I know they only bought this stuff up just to make me mad and jealous. They're POS, they will get what's coming to them.


Dude, get help seriously.


Why do people keep saying this? I don't need any f***ing help! I don't need "help" to act like everyone in society. I don't want to be like everyone else. They need to accept me the way I am. I don't shun people because they're different from me. I don't talk down to and make of people that I may deem inferior to me.


Again, I'm not the one that need help or needs to function better, it's obvious everyone else do.

I'm not a killer, I don't see or hear things that aren't there, I don't have OCD, I am not a paranoid schizo, I see no need for any "help".

have you considered that if it is "everyone else" that needs help... that they are not actually the problem at all?

i think poeple are suggesting that you get help because you are coming across as paranoid and antisocial to an extreme degree. i wonder if you are different in real life, because you were mentioning that old friends come to visit you or go places with you - in spite of how much you may smell bad or dislike and resent them. they must have a great deal of patience.


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15 Nov 2010, 12:43 pm

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hmmm this sounds strangely familiar to something I already said in this thread!



That doesn't answer the question of what you would do with a girl if you got one. If you think about the kind of relationship you're looking for, it may be easier to set specific goals.



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15 Nov 2010, 12:51 pm

hyperlexian wrote:
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Some of my old "friends" came by the house tonight. Bragging about how much money their making. And how they go to clubs and parties every other weekends. They also talked about the women that they go out with and f**k.


I know they only bought this stuff up just to make me mad and jealous. They're POS, they will get what's coming to them.


Dude, get help seriously.


Why do people keep saying this? I don't need any f***ing help! I don't need "help" to act like everyone in society. I don't want to be like everyone else. They need to accept me the way I am. I don't shun people because they're different from me. I don't talk down to and make of people that I may deem inferior to me.


Again, I'm not the one that need help or needs to function better, it's obvious everyone else do.

I'm not a killer, I don't see or hear things that aren't there, I don't have OCD, I am not a paranoid schizo, I see no need for any "help".

have you considered that if it is "everyone else" that needs help... that they are not actually the problem at all?

No because most people in the world are evil selfish bastards, at least that's what I've been told and I've seen it with my own eyes

i think poeple are suggesting that you get help because you are coming across as paranoid and antisocial to an extreme degree. i wonder if you are different in real life, because you were mentioning that old friends come to visit you or go places with you - in spite of how much you may smell bad or dislike and resent them. they must have a great deal of patience.

They only hung out with me because of my computer and video games, they've never and will never go out with me in public (mall, clubs, fairs, parties, etc) because I would embarrass them, and they've told me as such.



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15 Nov 2010, 1:01 pm

alexptrans wrote:
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hmmm this sounds strangely familiar to something I already said in this thread!



That doesn't answer the question of what you would do with a girl if you got one. If you think about the kind of relationship you're looking for, it may be easier to set specific goals.


If I had a girl? Alright I'll play. Since I hate going outside, we'd probably of the time in my house watching anime and TV and playing video games while cuddling.

Fat chance that I find a girl that likes that stuff as much as I do. Also the girl would probably to have to be "different" like me, and wouldn't make fun of the way I act. The odds of me finding someone like that is slim.



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15 Nov 2010, 1:28 pm

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Do I stand a chance of getting a girl or even real friends that would respect me?



Short answer : no.

A little longer short answer: With your current self, it's impossible.


Well f**k them then. People should be nice to and respect me regardless of how I am.

I haven't done anything to anyone. I try to be nice and respectful to everyone I meet, so people should start treating me the same way.


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=78XrI_2b ... re=related



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15 Nov 2010, 2:35 pm

Subotai wrote:
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The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
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Do I stand a chance of getting a girl or even real friends that would respect me?



Short answer : no.

A little longer short answer: With your current self, it's impossible.


Well f**k them then. People should be nice to and respect me regardless of how I am.

I haven't done anything to anyone. I try to be nice and respectful to everyone I meet, so people should start treating me the same way.


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=78XrI_2b ... re=related


What is this supposed to mean exactly?



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15 Nov 2010, 2:41 pm

I'm not exactly a genius, but I'd say that it means that you're life could be pretty much f*****g worse.



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15 Nov 2010, 2:49 pm

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I'm not exactly a genius, but I'd say that it means that you're life could be pretty much f***ing worse.


Yeah so what? Is that supposed to make feel better? My life could be a whole lot better as well.



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15 Nov 2010, 2:53 pm

Hey, don't ask me. I didn't post any videos. :roll:



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15 Nov 2010, 4:17 pm

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Hey, don't ask me. I didn't post any videos. :roll:


heh that wasn't aimed at you



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15 Nov 2010, 6:56 pm

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Why do people keep saying this? I don't need any f***ing help! I don't need "help" to act like everyone in society. I don't want to be like everyone else. They need to accept me the way I am. I don't shun people because they're different from me. I don't talk down to and make of people that I may deem inferior to me.


Again, I'm not the one that need help or needs to function better, it's obvious everyone else do.

I'm not a killer, I don't see or hear things that aren't there, I don't have OCD, I am not a paranoid schizo, I see no need for any "help".

BECAUSE YOU EFFIN' NEED HELP, DAMN IT!

w/e

Listen, all this stuff you do - not taking care of yourself or giving a damn about your self-image, isolating yourself with video games and anime, seeking revenge with your NT acquaintances because they are socially more adept than you IS NOT HELPING YOUR CAUSE A SINGLE DAMN BIT.

You're marinating in self-pity buddy. I'm not the most socially adept person I know. I've never had a girlfriend and I'm still a virgin - I know TMI. Just work on the best damn person you can be.

Me being my so called best self won't work. People still won't accept me because I will still be an uneducated, ret*d looking fool who's annoying to be around for an extended amount of time.

Damn, why are most Aspie males so damn SELF-DESTRUCTIVE?!?!

How am I self-destructive? I wouldn't feel this way and have this attitude if people treated me differently throughout my life





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15 Nov 2010, 7:02 pm

MR20 wrote:
nthach wrote:
MR20 wrote:

Why do people keep saying this? I don't need any f***ing help! I don't need "help" to act like everyone in society. I don't want to be like everyone else. They need to accept me the way I am. I don't shun people because they're different from me. I don't talk down to and make of people that I may deem inferior to me.


Again, I'm not the one that need help or needs to function better, it's obvious everyone else do.

I'm not a killer, I don't see or hear things that aren't there, I don't have OCD, I am not a paranoid schizo, I see no need for any "help".

BECAUSE YOU EFFIN' NEED HELP, DAMN IT!

w/e

Listen, all this stuff you do - not taking care of yourself or giving a damn about your self-image, isolating yourself with video games and anime, seeking revenge with your NT acquaintances because they are socially more adept than you IS NOT HELPING YOUR CAUSE A SINGLE DAMN BIT.

You're marinating in self-pity buddy. I'm not the most socially adept person I know. I've never had a girlfriend and I'm still a virgin - I know TMI. Just work on the best damn person you can be.

Me being my so called best self won't work. People still won't accept me because I will still be an uneducated, ret*d looking fool who's annoying to be around for an extended amount of time.

Damn, why are most Aspie males so damn SELF-DESTRUCTIVE?!?!

How am I self-destructive? I wouldn't feel this way and have this attitude if people treated me differently throughout my life




The ball's in your court dude. Play it. Or you're gonna be a sore, video game playing and anime viewing slob for the rest of your life.



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15 Nov 2010, 7:07 pm

the world changes for nobody, either you change or it will pass you by

(hey come on, I got to second base with a girl at an anime convention, and she was cute! its not all bad :lol:)



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15 Nov 2010, 7:13 pm

Kilroy wrote:

(hey come on, I got to second base with a girl at an anime convention, and she was cute! its not all bad :lol:)

Hey, if you find girls with the same interests as you and you manage to go somewhere with it, all the power to you.

But in the OP's case, it's whats holding him back.



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15 Nov 2010, 7:15 pm

nthach wrote:
MR20 wrote:
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Why do people keep saying this? I don't need any f***ing help! I don't need "help" to act like everyone in society. I don't want to be like everyone else. They need to accept me the way I am. I don't shun people because they're different from me. I don't talk down to and make of people that I may deem inferior to me.


Again, I'm not the one that need help or needs to function better, it's obvious everyone else do.

I'm not a killer, I don't see or hear things that aren't there, I don't have OCD, I am not a paranoid schizo, I see no need for any "help".

BECAUSE YOU EFFIN' NEED HELP, DAMN IT!

w/e

Listen, all this stuff you do - not taking care of yourself or giving a damn about your self-image, isolating yourself with video games and anime, seeking revenge with your NT acquaintances because they are socially more adept than you IS NOT HELPING YOUR CAUSE A SINGLE DAMN BIT.

You're marinating in self-pity buddy. I'm not the most socially adept person I know. I've never had a girlfriend and I'm still a virgin - I know TMI. Just work on the best damn person you can be.

Me being my so called best self won't work. People still won't accept me because I will still be an uneducated, ret*d looking fool who's annoying to be around for an extended amount of time.

Damn, why are most Aspie males so damn SELF-DESTRUCTIVE?!?!

How am I self-destructive? I wouldn't feel this way and have this attitude if people treated me differently throughout my life




The ball's in your court dude. Play it. Or you're gonna be a sore, video game playing and anime viewing slob for the rest of your life.


You're evil, just like them outside. Judging the choice of hobbies that I like. I don't care if people think it's uncool, I love and enjoy it. I won't change for the evil people outside.

I'd rather still stay inside instead of having people point, laugh, giggle at me because of how my face look. Why do so many people stare at me? Do I look that bad to them? Quite frankly it's f*****g annoying and I know they wouldn't like it if someone stared at them. I'm so sick of it.



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