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13 Jan 2011, 3:14 pm

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Why don't you people just understand. There's no hope for a person like me. I stink, I'm poor, I have no friends, I'm ugly, I have 5th grade education, and I'm afraid to be around a large crowd of people. It's too late, I'm a good for nothing bum that's going to be homeless in a few years. No one wants to be around me let alone try to help me. I can see the disdain and disgust in people eyes when they look at me. There is no help for me.

And it might very well be that none of that has to do with AS, but instead are choices that you make since you have AS to blame everything on. You have no idea how high or low functioning I am, all you know is that I am successful so you have to make new excuses for why that may be. Indulging in self-fulfilling prophecies may feel good and may help you excuse yourself from that inner voice who tells you to buck up, get a life and go out there and try - but doing so won't ever actually get you anywhere in this world. The magic "girl-fairy" won't ever drop your soulmate in your lap just because you whined about it enough on a web forum.

I hate when people say "get a life". how? I have nothing. I don't have a car to get me anywhere, I have no education to get a job, I'm ugly and unkept and don't have any money to buy clothes, ( which I don't want to) and I'm too scared to be around other people in public. (they're always laughing, gigling or staring at me from a far)

And like I've said countless times on this board, I do try or have tried. I've tried fitting in when was younger. I tried spending money on clothes, taking bathes, not playing games and watching anime and going outside to be friendly. It never worked, people treated me the same because of the way I acted and they way I may face looked. Besides, it's stupid to be something you're not to impress idiot people in the world. So I said f**k it and went back to doing the stuff I enjoy; Watching anime and playing video games.

I'm sick of passive-aggressive people like you. You don't who I am or what I'm like. These are not excuses, these are reason. I'm not whining, I'm telling the truth. There is no hope, just because you can have normal life, and date, and have friends doesn't mean other person can as well. All people are different.

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13 Jan 2011, 3:17 pm

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So what do you get out of coming on here and complaining about it? What are you hoping to achieve? What is a "win" for you here?

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13 Jan 2011, 3:33 pm

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So what do you get out of coming on here and complaining about it? What are you hoping to achieve? What is a "win" for you here?

When people admit that I should off myself and die. That there's no hope for a person like me regardless of what he does. That I have no place in this world, and that I should stop being a burden to everyone around me.

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13 Jan 2011, 3:44 pm

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Well, whether that be the case or not I am not going to burden my Karma by being the person that finally gives you what you are looking for. There are better sites for that compared to this one. 4Chan maybe?

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13 Jan 2011, 5:15 pm

MR20 wrote:

Why don't you people just understand.

You haven't presented us with something that does not have a solution.

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There's no hope for a person like me.

Why is that?

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I stink

You need help bathing regularly. You also have an infestation of rats in your bathroom. These are fixable things.

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I'm poor

Lots of people are poor. Some of them are aspies.

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I have no friends

That can change if you're open to change.

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I'm ugly

So?

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I have 5th grade education

With time, a tutor and an internet based schooling program, you can gain a greater education in your own time. No rush.

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I'm afraid to be around a large crowd of people.

Me, too! So, don't be around large crowds.

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I'm a good for nothing bum that's going to be homeless in a few years.

It sounds like you've set a goal for yourself. You can probably achieve that goal since you're so determined. I think you should set a different goal, something a little more productive, and see if you can do that instead.

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No one wants to be around me let alone try to help me. I can see the disdain and disgust in people eyes when they look at me. There is no help for me.

The ironic thing about Depression is that it lies so much to us that we become irrational and believe the lie. You're living a lie. What you see is not really there. Your overt irrational thinking is what lets me know that it's not your AS that's holding you back, it's Depression. How often do you see a doctor?

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13 Jan 2011, 5:52 pm

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Your overt irrational thinking is what lets me know that it's not your AS that's holding you back, it's Depression. How often do you see a doctor?

I haven't seen any doctor for mental health since 2006, not that it would help.

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13 Jan 2011, 6:09 pm

I'm tossing in the towel on dating.

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13 Jan 2011, 7:47 pm

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I don't have any hope of meeting or talking to anyone let alone a girl. Part of it is Asperger's, the other part is that I'm a ret*d.

I haven't showered in 6 months, I haven't been outside in two. I have nothing more than a 5th grade education, so I have no prospects for a real job. I spend most of my day watching TV, anime, and playing video games. I am extremely ugly, uninteresting, and don't have anything to offer anyone.

I have no friends other than my grandma and sister, I am also poor and living off SSI and Social Security...

I think I am worse off than you are.

I am not good-looking either. My face becomes hairy as a monkey if I don't shave for two days and I also became quite fat. When I was younger I played football and was quite skinny and healthy but today I'm not. So I can say without a doubt that I'm not exactly the type that good-looking girls are searching for. In high school most of the kids made fun of my looks.

The worst part is not my looks though. The worst is that I am pretty sick and hungry all the time. My health is in serious trouble and I barely manage to wake up early in the morning in order to go to work without feeling incredibly weak and tired and wanting to vomit all the time.

If my father wasn't supportive of me with his income I'd be living in the street with no bed, no food, no water... nothing!

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13 Jan 2011, 7:52 pm

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The worst part is not my looks though. The worst is that I am pretty sick and hungry all the time. My health is in serious trouble and I barely manage to wake up early in the morning in order to go to work without feeling incredibly weak and wanting to vomit all the time.

Why is that? Have you seen a doctor?

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13 Jan 2011, 7:58 pm

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Why is that? Have you seen a doctor?

I went to the doctor many times but she said that she doesn't have any medications for me. My country's healthcare market is not so good and there are shortages in medications.

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13 Jan 2011, 8:05 pm

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Come back when you're 25, and if by then you still feel more or less the same I'll tell you what you want to hear.

Until then, I don't think it's responsible to tell you that there's no hope for a person like you regardless of what he does.

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13 Jan 2011, 9:32 pm

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I'm tossing in the towel on dating.

Does that mean this is the last we will hear from you on the subject?

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13 Jan 2011, 10:35 pm

LikeGreenAndBlue wrote:

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Why is that? Have you seen a doctor?

I went to the doctor many times but she said that she doesn't have any medications for me. My country's healthcare market is not so good and there are shortages in medications.

What condition is it? Can you treat it without medication?

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13 Jan 2011, 11:19 pm

MidlifeAspie wrote:

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I'm tossing in the towel on dating.

Does that mean this is the last we will hear from you on the subject?

For a while, yes. I'm trying to abstain from this god-forsaken forum as well. If you need to talk to me, PM me and I'll give you my email.

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14 Jan 2011, 12:47 am

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Also, are there any qualities that people like about 'spectrumers', e.g. intelligence, knowledge on specific interests, etc.?

I'm a NT gal who is sorry to hear of so much frustration out there with Aspie guys and the dating scene. I wanted to tell share some of the Aspie qualities that I really like in my Aspie pal: his dry wit, his direct, blunt way of communicating (no mind games!) and his saucy text messages.

Of course, I'm a bit cerebral myself so it's great that he's an intelligent man.

I hope that helps

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14 Jan 2011, 3:59 am

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Also, are there any qualities that people like about 'spectrumers', e.g. intelligence, knowledge on specific interests, etc.?

Of course, I'm a bit cerebral myself so it's great that he's an intelligent man.

I hope that helps

omg that describes my crush, who already has a girlfriend...

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