Why do boys want good-looking girls?

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Looks matter to me. I do not lie!

Looks are very secondary to me... They don't matter (and I'm not lying) in terms of a relationship.

I find some extremely beautiful people to be almost replusive... And yet my eyes would single out the quiet nerdy girl, who isn't the best looking... :: shrugs :: I tend to see personality (doesn't always work)

GA

Saying "looks don't matter at all" and "looks are secondary" are 2 *VERY* different statements, kids. You're essentially saying that I should feel horrible about the fact that I'd find dating the Elephant Man or Quasimodo a tad repulsive, because I wouldn't be able to see past their outward appearance? Gimme a break.

A lot of people (myself included) are against including looks as necessary just because they've found that the people they become attracted to can be worlds apart in terms of physical appearance. Putting down a list of physical characteristics that I find attractive is bound to fail for whatever reason. Yes, looks absolutely have to matter in any romantic relationship, but that doesn't mean either person has to look like movie stars. They only have to appeal to the other person.

Ditto.

1. HA! Meh. I rest my case.

2. Who ever said anything to the contrary? Not me! Cripes.

That's almost the same as an Aspie being rejected for his/her eccentricities...

If there's one thing that people like Quasimodo teach us, it is that there is more to beauty than what you see... We should strive to see the inner beauty inside every person, and not focus so heavily on the exterior. I know I fail from time to time, like I said, look are secondary to me, but as you say, that doesn't mean they don't factor in at all. I had internal troubles with myself because my then girlfriend wasn't the best looking girl around. I thought to myself, she's not good looking, I then felt intensly guilt because I couldn't get past the physical...

We're not perfect, we all have our flaws and we all make mistakes. But if you refuse to improve yourself....

(NOTE: Not suggesting that anyone here isn't striving to improve themselves.)


GA

I guess, yet again, I'm an exception...

:: steps back into the shadows ::


GA

I have to disagree, because AS generally doesn't manifest itself as an "abnormality" in a person's appearance.

I never said anything about *requiring* a potential mate to look like a movie star. I guess you're a better person than I, because I can't and don't find myself attracted to or sexually aroused by physical deformities. I'd *like* to be the type of person who's able to overlook disfigurement and the like, but I'm not. La-ti-freakin'-da.

By the way: that wierd phrase about saying how a girl is extra hot in a certain time and place. My friend once said that about his ex-girlfriend because his brother said she was beautiful.


Random. Random. Random.

Looks aren't the most important thing, but they still are important, because without them you won't even care about their personality. If you're not attracted to them, you're not attracted to them, that's just the way it works. But if it was the choice between an attractive woman with a personality I like, and an even more attractive woman that I wouldn't get along with, I'd take the former.

I like your thinking. Then again I like quite a few people's thinking.

...and if I were in a similar situation where the choice was between 2 such guys, I'd also take the former. I'm not *that* shallow; I'd have no interest in hanging out with someone who was utterly incompatible with me just for the sake of his looks.

Unfortunately, nothing like the above scenario ever happens to me, so it's pretty much a moot point.

Oh dear.........

A hot chick with a crap personality would still be good for a one night stand though.

*Slap* Snap out of it, kiddo! Tsk, tsk.

Heh. It's hopeless. Don't *you* fret over it!