What is your ideal man/woman?

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30 May 2011, 11:46 am

Lists can be good for organizing your head and mindfully keeping away from people that you know would not be good for you. If writing things down and making lists really helps you work through something, it could be exactly what you need to do to realize the kind of person you're looking for. I don't think a list should be a checklist and one has to really, really avoid the ridiculous.



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30 May 2011, 12:10 pm

wefunction wrote:
Lists can be good for organizing your head and mindfully keeping away from people that you know would not be good for you. If writing things down and making lists really helps you work through something, it could be exactly what you need to do to realize the kind of person you're looking for. I don't think a list should be a checklist and one has to really, really avoid the ridiculous.

Agreed.

My list is extensive, but not etched in neutronium. It is a listing of Ideal qualities, and if I ever met a woman who met all of them, it seems likely that she would want to have little, if anything, to do with me.

I've settled for much less on many occassions ... and it seems that "settling for" something less than ideal is the best that the average person can hope for.

For the record, if anyone wants to know the kind of woman that I'm married to, read the thirty-first chapter of the Book of Proverbs.



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31 May 2011, 5:06 am

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Hard to imagine why someone wouldn't consider you a catch. According to the saps, someone who calls them nasty names and mistreats them is exactly the type of guy women want.


Oh, see. He must be poor.

We want someone who will buy us shoes and purses and boob jobs and all the things we like (~snort~) who's still man enough to fracture a few ribs and detach a few retinas.


As if every single woman with an iota of self esteem (and good, safe, common sense!) wouldn't go running from someone who considered a relationship with women to fulfill the same purposes as "porn" and their "hand".


Um, I was kind of using hyperbole there. You know how people always say "Use your hand." and "Find some porn.", etc. I've just recently made my first real attempt at establishing a relationship with a woman, and the end result was her telling malicious lies about me that could cost me my job and/or result in me doing prison time and being a sex offender for life. Because of her, my future is threatened and my friends have all turned their backs on me. So yeah, my trust in the opposite sex is somewhat shaken, needless to say.

I'd like to think that not all or even most women are like this, and that I just happen to be attracted to sadistic, sociopathic types or vice versa, but it seems most of the people in my life are intent on destroying me.


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31 May 2011, 11:02 am

How is it acceptable for a man to decide that ALL women are sociopathic, greedy b*tches hell-bent on lying about and destroying men (and that men are better off degrading women as sex objects in magazines for masturbation purposes) because they had one bad relationship while a woman is degraded as a "man-hater" because she doesn't warm up to fellas after being brutally beaten by an ex?



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31 May 2011, 11:03 am

wefunction wrote:
How is it acceptable for a man to decide that ALL women are sociopathic, greedy b*tches hell-bent on lying about and destroying men (and that men are better off degrading women as sex objects in magazines for masturbation purposes) because they had one bad relationship while a woman is degraded as a "man-hater" because she doesn't warm up to fellas after being brutally beaten by an ex?


I know right? It's BS, that's what that is. :x



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31 May 2011, 12:46 pm

I don't do lists about my ideal partner, 11 years ago I did
After heartbroken for years I had drunken satori one night with a female friend taking about my dating problems at the time!
I set my list on fire & vowed to never look for love to let it find me.
Two months later I started my first long term relationship that lasted for about five year. :D



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31 May 2011, 6:18 pm

wefunction wrote:
How is it acceptable for a man to decide that ALL women are sociopathic, greedy b*tches hell-bent on lying about and destroying men


Not all women. Just the ones who seem most eager to associate themselves with me (romantically or otherwise). Maybe I just look vulnerable.

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(and that men are better off degrading women as sex objects in magazines for masturbation purposes)


I don't see how it's degrading, considering that women go into porn of their own free will and are paid generously to do so.

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because they had one bad relationship while a woman is degraded as a "man-hater" because she doesn't warm up to fellas after being brutally beaten by an ex?


I've never heard anyone say this.


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31 May 2011, 6:20 pm

My ideal man is Josh Homme from Queens of the Stone Age 8O That is all.



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01 Jun 2011, 6:33 pm

Bethie wrote:
A leftist:
Vegetarian (preferably vegan), a real feminist (not a guy who just gives it lip service), atheist, socialist, humanist

With a Conservative Lifestyle:
Doesn't drink, smoke, or do drugs, not highly-sexed, wants marriage and children, and a life that's relationship-centered



Hello :wink:

No mention of money or looks :D


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01 Jun 2011, 6:34 pm

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Someone who does not find me repulsive

Finding that is actually my biggest obstacle. :cry:


Why ? care to explain , on looks alone I would have thought their would be plenty of takers ?


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01 Jun 2011, 8:09 pm

LordoftheMonkeys wrote:
I don't see how it's degrading, considering that women go into porn of their own free will and are paid generously to do so.


:lmao:

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03 Jun 2011, 4:59 am

The perfect woman for me would be all these things, but i'm afraid i'll never find someone like this...

My age or slightly older (17-22)
Shy
Cute
Smart
Kind
My height or higher
Cute hair
Happy
Calm/Chilled
Romantic
Someone I could just be with
An individual
Free thinker
Open minded
Good Music Taste

Edited.



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03 Jun 2011, 9:57 am

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The perfect woman for me would be all these things, but i'm afraid i'll never find someone like this...

My age or slightly older (17-22)
Shy
Cute
Smart
Kind
Tomboyish (but still looks and acts female)
Also Aspie
My height or higher
Cute hair
Happy and loving
Average weight
Calm
Romantic
Someone I could just be with
An individual
Free thinking / Hippy like ideas on things
Open minded
Liberal
Atheist
Doesn't drink or smoke tobacco, or does harmful drugs (coke, heroin etc)
Similar music tastes


LMAO See >this thread< especially my first comment. I think you'll find it familiar to this ridiculous list. Also, love that you want her to be open minded but then specify what kind of music, politics, and religion she has to be into. That's a nice oblivious touch to an unrealistic and over-demanding list. You might want to sneak on that list that she not want someone open minded.

Spoiler: delete "tomboy" because you obviously don't mean it.



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03 Jun 2011, 2:59 pm

wefunction wrote:
ScientistOfSound wrote:
The perfect woman for me would be all these things, but i'm afraid i'll never find someone like this...

My age or slightly older (17-22)
Shy
Cute
Smart
Kind
Tomboyish (but still looks and acts female)
Also Aspie
My height or higher
Cute hair
Happy and loving
Average weight
Calm
Romantic
Someone I could just be with
An individual
Free thinking / Hippy like ideas on things
Open minded
Liberal
Atheist
Doesn't drink or smoke tobacco, or does harmful drugs (coke, heroin etc)
Similar music tastes


LMAO See >this thread< especially my first comment. I think you'll find it familiar to this ridiculous list. Also, love that you want her to be open minded but then specify what kind of music, politics, and religion she has to be into. That's a nice oblivious touch to an unrealistic and over-demanding list. You might want to sneak on that list that she not want someone open minded.

Spoiler: delete "tomboy" because you obviously don't mean it.


She doesnt have to be all of those things, these are just prefered qualities. I realise a woman being ALL these things is unrealistic, we aren't talking about "real life" here. Yes, I did kinda make a slip up while typing it but I was very tired at the time. Editing.



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03 Jun 2011, 3:53 pm

ah give the kid a break. it does say your 'ideal' partner. I'm sure he doesn't carry a clipboard round



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03 Jun 2011, 5:24 pm

OneStepBeyond wrote:
ah give the kid a break. it does say your 'ideal' partner. I'm sure he doesn't carry a clipboard round


This is where it starts. I'm not saying it's all his fault that he feels this way, but he's at a point in his life right now where he can realize different things and not fall into the same ol' boring "she's gotta be like a genius talented awesome tomboy supermodel who's into everything I'm into and loves me for me" ideal that becomes almost every man's ideal. I say "almost" because a lot of men, after enough years of being disappointed that their ideal doesn't exist, start to get a clue and figure out what kind of partner they really need.



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