Why not just date the same sex?

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I've thought about doing this, but I decided against it for the following reasons:


-I'm attracted to men, even if it's mostly just androgynous ones.
-The likeliness of finding another straight female partner that would want to act as a mate is VERY slim.
-It seems unfair to get into a relationship with a gay woman when I know I can not want her in the way she will want me to want her.

-I want children, which is still doable with a female mate, BUT, by not being in a relationship with the father first, I would not feel I could make a good judgement about who the father of my children should be.
-Biological parents are more likely to have more commitment to a child, thus it might end up badly if only one of us was the biological parent and we weren't even intimate in a physical, sexual way.
-If I can't find a man suitable to be best friends and mates with, how can I really be ok with him fathering my child?
-It I had a child with a man I was not married to with the intention of raising the child with my female partner, I would probably feel a sense of jealousy, or..ill feelings towards the man since he was able to pass on his genes without the responsibly that should come with it.
-I would want the father of my child to be the type that would want to commit to the child, but I wouldn't want this person to have that much control if they weren't marriage worthy.

-It would appear as if I was gay even though I am not. If I was gay, then I'd let them all know it... But, I don't want to give people the wrong idea about me, lesbians, etc...
-Having a man would be a nice feeling and I'd feel more like I am completed and have my ideal family.
-I don't think my drive to find a male would disappear with a female companion and I don't want to complicate things or feel empty.

Biological reasons, Religious Views.

And the fact I think it's just wrong. I'd never stop any one from being Gay Or Bi, but keep it to yourself and outta my sight.

well, I have to say that bisexuals have it easier than gays and straights, the "plenty of fish" term works more on them.

And no, what is the point on dating someone from the same gender if you are attracted to the opposite? It doesn't make sense. I rather date someone imaginary from the opposite sex rather than someone real from the same sex.

Girls aren't interested in me

So OP, have you dated girls?

Yeah... my friends are great guys... but dudes just aren't that attractive hahaha