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20 Sep 2012, 9:06 am

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On a second note, I'm sick of being painted as the "bad guy" on this board because I put into clear writing what people are literally saying.


thats why i like your posts. They cut through the layers of BS to the core product while giving a logical and realistic answer/approach to things.

Also wolfy, you dont need to post pics of your chats. They prove nothing, heres literally the first and one of few women i messaged online.
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What you are not realizing is that you are showing an example of flirting in this photo which some people on the spectrum may not be aware of, even as something as breaking the ice can be difficult for some people or understanding when something isn't literal so you need to realize there are different levels of the spectrum and for all you know, it can help someone

As I have mentioned before, having good conversational skills on a website is very different to real life and I have encouraged people to real life as a first choice because it is more practical. Many of these forums prefer to use the internet though and for some reason, I'm not sure why they don't do random approaches as girls that don't use dating websites only get approached a few times a week whereas girls on dating sites get hundreds of messages a week.


By the way im bringing this up again because I missed the begining. my chat was exactly like yours. it showed flirting which was just as hard to pick out. If not harder cause we dont even see where you applied any of the things you mention in your threads (minus posting your abs, cause you had to post them twice)


Yes, it involved flirting which is an expression but what you are not getting is that some guys on the spectrum don't even get flirting so even that small sample could help them because it's coming from your perspective. For some people, getting advice from someone else on the spectrum is better than say some pick up artist guy. You need to realize that some people on the spectrum even struggle to hold a conversation or to even start one, it's only because me and you have had more experience in social situations.

You keep devaluing yourself when in fact you clearly know how to pose in a camera shot, write positively about yourself, how to open and hold conversations and those are good attributes in themselves. We can either sit about, complain and be negative or try to make a positive difference, I know which I would rather do.



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20 Sep 2012, 9:10 am

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The most popular has almost a million posts compared to bodybuilding.com forum which has one forum with over 50 million posts.

then again i doubt people over in body building forum will do anything but make silly photoshops of you and your advice, lol. You posted it in one of the few forums that people in itmight actually be desperate enough to consider as the only truth.


You clearly haven't been to bodybuilding.com to know they have a very good and respectable relationship help section which offers a good amount of advice if you think it's simply about making silly photo shops. Again there are a lot of trolls in the misc section, not as bad as 4chan but it still has a good amount of advice on it.


my profile on said site, you know cause obviously ive never been there :roll:
http://bodyspace.bodybuilding.com/vfrmaverick/



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20 Sep 2012, 9:34 am

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Yes, it involved flirting which is an expression but what you are not getting is that some guys on the spectrum don't even get flirting so even that small sample could help them because it's coming from your perspective. For some people, getting advice from someone else on the spectrum is better than say some pick up artist guy. You need to realize that some people on the spectrum even struggle to hold a conversation or to even start one, it's only because me and you have had more experience in social situations.

You keep devaluing yourself when in fact you clearly know how to pose in a camera shot, write positively about yourself, how to open and hold conversations and those are good attributes in themselves.


so in other words, your pics have the exact same flaw as mine. Now you see why i dont post such things? They serve only to gloat, im here to be realistic in my help. Its why i dont make generalized threads, I reply to specifics. Because thats the best way to give actual help. So i think i realize the broadness of the spectrum better than you, but I only base that on my actions.

Its good youve noticed that I dont have to rely on cheap parlor tricks or an act to promote myself. My only reason to have stayed on these forums so far has been to get people to use some of the things ive learned to their advantage. Because I know that there isnt enough real advice in here for them to pick what to follow.



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20 Sep 2012, 9:38 am

I can sum this up for all of you. Everybody, I mean everybody, that includes animals, wants something, that could be anything, that they cannot have.

A monkey will play with a pebble, and will even fight off anybody trying to take it from him. Yet when he sees another monkey with something else, then he drops his pebble.

Supply and Demand!



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20 Sep 2012, 10:27 am

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Yes, it involved flirting which is an expression but what you are not getting is that some guys on the spectrum don't even get flirting so even that small sample could help them because it's coming from your perspective. For some people, getting advice from someone else on the spectrum is better than say some pick up artist guy. You need to realize that some people on the spectrum even struggle to hold a conversation or to even start one, it's only because me and you have had more experience in social situations.

You keep devaluing yourself when in fact you clearly know how to pose in a camera shot, write positively about yourself, how to open and hold conversations and those are good attributes in themselves.


so in other words, your pics have the exact same flaw as mine. Now you see why i dont post such things? They serve only to gloat, im here to be realistic in my help. Its why i dont make generalized threads, I reply to specifics. Because thats the best way to give actual help. So i think i realize the broadness of the spectrum better than you, but I only base that on my actions.

Its good youve noticed that I dont have to rely on cheap parlor tricks or an act to promote myself. My only reason to have stayed on these forums so far has been to get people to use some of the things ive learned to their advantage. Because I know that there isnt enough real advice in here for them to pick what to follow.


Specifics are important to a degree since there is a varying degree but I have met many people on the spectrum and of course, this is vague and broad but the topic is also vague and broad but people can still relate.



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20 Sep 2012, 10:36 am

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Yes, it involved flirting which is an expression but what you are not getting is that some guys on the spectrum don't even get flirting so even that small sample could help them because it's coming from your perspective. For some people, getting advice from someone else on the spectrum is better than say some pick up artist guy. You need to realize that some people on the spectrum even struggle to hold a conversation or to even start one, it's only because me and you have had more experience in social situations.

You keep devaluing yourself when in fact you clearly know how to pose in a camera shot, write positively about yourself, how to open and hold conversations and those are good attributes in themselves.


so in other words, your pics have the exact same flaw as mine. Now you see why i dont post such things? They serve only to gloat, im here to be realistic in my help. Its why i dont make generalized threads, I reply to specifics. Because thats the best way to give actual help. So i think i realize the broadness of the spectrum better than you, but I only base that on my actions.

Its good youve noticed that I dont have to rely on cheap parlor tricks or an act to promote myself. My only reason to have stayed on these forums so far has been to get people to use some of the things ive learned to their advantage. Because I know that there isnt enough real advice in here for them to pick what to follow.


Specifics are important to a degree since there is a varying degree but I have met many people on the spectrum and of course, this is vague and broad but the topic is also vague and broad but people can still relate.


they will relate better if they have options. Thats why theres more than 1 religion



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20 Sep 2012, 2:06 pm

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I can sum this up for all of you. Everybody, I mean everybody, that includes animals, wants something, that could be anything, that they cannot have.

A monkey will play with a pebble, and will even fight off anybody trying to take it from him. Yet when he sees another monkey with something else, then he drops his pebble.

Supply and Demand!


I'll give you a thumbs-up on that one. :thumright:



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20 Sep 2012, 2:36 pm

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20 Sep 2012, 7:38 pm

PUA song? I think so! It's not exactly the same context but it works in some parts.

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vp4v7a7EELA[/youtube]


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20 Sep 2012, 11:44 pm

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...when a woman says she has a boyfriend, in some cases this can be a bluff.

Wtf?? Why bother with her?

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...one girl said she was going to be half an hour late for a date so I didn't respond, she quickly responded with just kidding and turned up first...

Wtf?? Why bother with her?

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Now what if after a girl pulls this manipulative kinda crap, I just don't pursue her anymore?

Sounds like a good idea to me.


I'm with you, Yellow. I'd rather be single then have to deal with that BS day after day.... even if a player like that does choose you, the games only keep on going until she's had enough and ends things one way or another.

I'm guessing this is a major trait of "serial monogamists" as well as those who refuse to commit at all.


Yawn. Plunk down two c-notes and you get the best thing a romantic relationship has to offer.



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21 Sep 2012, 1:13 am

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Yawn. Plunk down two c-notes and you get the best thing a romantic relationship has to offer.


How does it feel that you might be paying for a heroin addiction? Many of the women in prostitution use the money to buy their next fix.



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21 Sep 2012, 5:02 am

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How does it feel that you might be paying for a heroin addiction? Many of the women in prostitution use the money to buy their next fix.


The checkout lady you just got served by at the grocery store might be using the money she makes there to buy her next fix.



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21 Sep 2012, 6:42 am

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How does it feel that you might be paying for a heroin addiction? Many of the women in prostitution use the money to buy their next fix.


The checkout lady you just got served by at the grocery store might be using the money she makes there to buy her next fix.


I thought people that worked in shops had to have criminal record checks.



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21 Sep 2012, 7:13 am

Wolfheart wrote:
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How does it feel that you might be paying for a heroin addiction? Many of the women in prostitution use the money to buy their next fix.


The checkout lady you just got served by at the grocery store might be using the money she makes there to buy her next fix.


I thought people that worked in shops had to have criminal record checks.


You don't have to be arrested to be a criminal.



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21 Sep 2012, 9:43 am

Wolfheart wrote:
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How does it feel that you might be paying for a heroin addiction? Many of the women in prostitution use the money to buy their next fix.


The checkout lady you just got served by at the grocery store might be using the money she makes there to buy her next fix.


I thought people that worked in shops had to have criminal record checks.


a check doesnt mean theyll not hire them for small time things like possesion



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21 Sep 2012, 6:02 pm

Wolfheart wrote:
Shau wrote:
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How does it feel that you might be paying for a heroin addiction? Many of the women in prostitution use the money to buy their next fix.


The checkout lady you just got served by at the grocery store might be using the money she makes there to buy her next fix.


I thought people that worked in shops had to have criminal record checks.


Background checks are spotty at minimum wage jobs, it boils down to risk versus the cost of a background check for the business.



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