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The_Face_of_Boo
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20 Jan 2013, 9:43 am

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Have you ever been in a physical type relationship? Not trying to find out if you are gay. Trying to find out what attracts you. Seems like you find them physically attractive but it never goes to the physical stage in the dating arena. Do you make any appropriate physical contact during the date. E.g. touching or accidental brush of each others' arms or hands while walking... do you feel anything within that context ? Do you fear getting kissed? Or do you just stand there and let the guy do what he wants?

None of that is a problem. It's just that if they try to kiss me and I'm not into it, it's awkward and a hassle. Same with if I get asked how I feel about them (on the spot). I'm a serial rejector but I still suck at it!

And those things are more likely to happen on the second date, because by going on it I'm suggesting that I'm still interested, when really I might be just giving them another chance.


I think you are probably a victim of having too much choice

If your options were narrowed down to the extent mine have been, I think you'd have been forced to develop strategies to deal with this.

As it is you have an endless stream of attractive people to choose from and no clear-cut strategy for choosing.

You seem very similar to Boo in this respect and I think there's a spark between you two so I suggest you date each other!

There - problem solved! :D



She wouldn't go for someone shorter.



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20 Jan 2013, 9:58 am

Dibs



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20 Jan 2013, 10:02 am

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Dibs

there's enough Boo to go around!! !! :P


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20 Jan 2013, 10:27 am

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I think you are probably a victim of having too much choice

If your options were narrowed down to the extent mine have been, I think you'd have been forced to develop strategies to deal with this.

As it is you have an endless stream of attractive people to choose from and no clear-cut strategy for choosing.

You seem very similar to Boo in this respect and I think there's a spark between you two so I suggest you date each other!

There - problem solved! :D

Boo's dating a cute chick in a red dress now :( I'm too late!



See what happens when you're too picky? All you had to do was to reply me on okcupid :P.



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20 Jan 2013, 1:12 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
yellowtamarin wrote:
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I think you are probably a victim of having too much choice

If your options were narrowed down to the extent mine have been, I think you'd have been forced to develop strategies to deal with this.

As it is you have an endless stream of attractive people to choose from and no clear-cut strategy for choosing.

You seem very similar to Boo in this respect and I think there's a spark between you two so I suggest you date each other!

There - problem solved! :D

Boo's dating a cute chick in a red dress now :( I'm too late!



See what happens when you're too picky? All you had to do was to reply me on okcupid :P.


I cant imagine what you sent her considering she replied to my joke message :p



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20 Jan 2013, 1:21 pm

spongy wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
yellowtamarin wrote:
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I think you are probably a victim of having too much choice

If your options were narrowed down to the extent mine have been, I think you'd have been forced to develop strategies to deal with this.

As it is you have an endless stream of attractive people to choose from and no clear-cut strategy for choosing.

You seem very similar to Boo in this respect and I think there's a spark between you two so I suggest you date each other!

There - problem solved! :D

Boo's dating a cute chick in a red dress now :( I'm too late!



See what happens when you're too picky? All you had to do was to reply me on okcupid :P.


I cant imagine what you sent her considering she replied to my joke message :p


-__- she replied me elsewhere, don't brag too much, long story.



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20 Jan 2013, 1:26 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
spongy wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
yellowtamarin wrote:
nessa238 wrote:
I think you are probably a victim of having too much choice

If your options were narrowed down to the extent mine have been, I think you'd have been forced to develop strategies to deal with this.

As it is you have an endless stream of attractive people to choose from and no clear-cut strategy for choosing.

You seem very similar to Boo in this respect and I think there's a spark between you two so I suggest you date each other!

There - problem solved! :D

Boo's dating a cute chick in a red dress now :( I'm too late!



See what happens when you're too picky? All you had to do was to reply me on okcupid :P.



I cant imagine what you sent her considering she replied to my joke message :p


-__- she replied me elsewhere, don't brag too much, long story.


I was trying to keep the joke going boo, nevermind I ll be more careful joking around you



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20 Jan 2013, 1:41 pm

spongy wrote:
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The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
yellowtamarin wrote:
nessa238 wrote:
I think you are probably a victim of having too much choice

If your options were narrowed down to the extent mine have been, I think you'd have been forced to develop strategies to deal with this.

As it is you have an endless stream of attractive people to choose from and no clear-cut strategy for choosing.

You seem very similar to Boo in this respect and I think there's a spark between you two so I suggest you date each other!

There - problem solved! :D

Boo's dating a cute chick in a red dress now :( I'm too late!



See what happens when you're too picky? All you had to do was to reply me on okcupid :P.



I cant imagine what you sent her considering she replied to my joke message :p


-__- she replied me elsewhere, don't brag too much, long story.


I was trying to keep the joke going boo, nevermind I ll be more careful joking around you


:lol: you aspie! I was joking too by playing the serious tough guy, just chill dude, you should know how I act by now.


That's why I've used the tough face " -__- ".



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20 Jan 2013, 3:34 pm

That kinda looks like a roadkill face.



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20 Jan 2013, 3:59 pm

i was thinking more of a okayface.jpg

well guess thats the AS making us all text face blind :lol:



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20 Jan 2013, 4:04 pm

-___- We people here suck at this.

Btw, I pmed spongy and all things sorted out.



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20 Jan 2013, 4:07 pm

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Have you ever been in a physical type relationship? Not trying to find out if you are gay. Trying to find out what attracts you. Seems like you find them physically attractive but it never goes to the physical stage in the dating arena. Do you make any appropriate physical contact during the date. E.g. touching or accidental brush of each others' arms or hands while walking... do you feel anything within that context ? Do you fear getting kissed? Or do you just stand there and let the guy do what he wants?

None of that is a problem. It's just that if they try to kiss me and I'm not into it, it's awkward and a hassle. Same with if I get asked how I feel about them (on the spot). I'm a serial rejector but I still suck at it!

And those things are more likely to happen on the second date, because by going on it I'm suggesting that I'm still interested, when really I might be just giving them another chance.


So you identify with the first 20 seconds in this video clip? The guy falling backwards, that is practically what happened when I got kissed the first time. I didn't know what I was doing and I was trying to get away. I guess the serial rejecter comes to mind. Flight mode.

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FWKOctKUVGQ[/youtube]
anyway, maybe you should watch this before you go on a date :)



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20 Jan 2013, 5:36 pm

What's with the wedding/engagement ring scene, bit random? Lol

The awkward bit I referred to is the bit where I have to say "actually sorry, I'm not interested". I once had a guy hold my hand at a movie on our second date. I had made up my mind sometime after we'd got the tickets that I wasn't interested. It would have been way too uncomfortable to not let him hold my hand (how do you explain during a movie?) so I had to tell him afterwards. I said that I didn't think I'd given him signals that I wanted him to do it, and he said yeah but he thought I was just shy. I know I know, don't see a movie til you are sure you like them!

Also I think I might kinda give off vibes that I am interested even if I'm not, because I'm friendly and enjoying myself, and trying to see if I can get spark happening. This can come across as real interest and is confusing for the other person. So traditionally I've tried to make up my mind as soon as possible, I suppose, partly for this reason.



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20 Jan 2013, 5:44 pm

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What's with the wedding/engagement ring scene, bit random? Lol

The awkward bit I referred to is the bit where I have to say "actually sorry, I'm not interested". I once had a guy hold my hand at a movie on our second date. I had made up my mind sometime after we'd got the tickets that I wasn't interested. It would have been way too uncomfortable to not let him hold my hand (how do you explain during a movie?) so I had to tell him afterwards. I said that I didn't think I'd given him signals that I wanted him to do it, and he said yeah but he thought I was just shy. I know I know, don't see a movie til you are sure you like them!

Also I think I might kinda give off vibes that I am interested even if I'm not, because I'm friendly and enjoying myself, and trying to see if I can get spark happening. This can come across as real interest and is confusing for the other person. So traditionally I've tried to make up my mind as soon as possible, I suppose, partly for this reason.


If you don't want a person to hold your hand you just move it away - you are under no obligation plus it gives the wrong message
as any form of allowed contact gives a signal that you are happy for further touching to occur - that's what the touch test is all about. You are giving very mixed signals.



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20 Jan 2013, 5:59 pm

incorrigible comes to mind...

Seems like Boo will have to set you straight. :P



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20 Jan 2013, 6:02 pm

nessa238 wrote:
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What's with the wedding/engagement ring scene, bit random? Lol

The awkward bit I referred to is the bit where I have to say "actually sorry, I'm not interested". I once had a guy hold my hand at a movie on our second date. I had made up my mind sometime after we'd got the tickets that I wasn't interested. It would have been way too uncomfortable to not let him hold my hand (how do you explain during a movie?) so I had to tell him afterwards. I said that I didn't think I'd given him signals that I wanted him to do it, and he said yeah but he thought I was just shy. I know I know, don't see a movie til you are sure you like them!

Also I think I might kinda give off vibes that I am interested even if I'm not, because I'm friendly and enjoying myself, and trying to see if I can get spark happening. This can come across as real interest and is confusing for the other person. So traditionally I've tried to make up my mind as soon as possible, I suppose, partly for this reason.


If you don't want a person to hold your hand you just move it away - you are under no obligation plus it gives the wrong message
as any form of allowed contact gives a signal that you are happy for further touching to occur - that's what the touch test is all about. You are giving very mixed signals.

Yeah I realise that. But I wanted to enjoy the movie, not watch it sitting next to someone I just rejected. My hand wasn't even in a mutual spot, he just reached over and held it. I set things straight as soon as the movie was over, when we could speak. It wasn't my proudest moment but I've learnt from it. It was an extreme example, and usually it's just a case of me saying straight away that I'm not interested, but somehow I'm still not great at it because they will sometimes want to ask why, and what did they do wrong, and how can they change my mind, and can we hang out again as friends. A simple "sorry not interested" sometimes turns into a huge, headachey saga. I'm too okay with being single to feel like it's worth the risk.