pretending to be in a relationship to look more attractive

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Some guys might be able to put this to use. I can't think "A girl is a girl is a girl" and I really have to wonder if I wouldn't be deeply adding to my own misery dating the type of woman who'd chase guys in relationships. Seems like with any activity that's aimed at taking advantage of society's vices you'll get exactly what you went after which generally won't leave you better off.

hahaha that's why i essentially abandoned the idea! it occurred to me that anyone who uses this advice will get exactly what they wish for. who wants a person who has trouble committing because they are always chasing after people who are already attached? oy vey.

Last edited by hyperlexian on 22 Feb 2013, 8:09 am, edited 1 time in total.

There's a difference between subconscious attraction and going for it.

That's fair but I'd think self-assurance and having an air of 'having your thing going on' (ie. projection of being a catch) would suffice. Any girl who'd only chase after a guy with a ring or a girl by his side who she'd have to compete with IMHO is a little twisted.

Apes are twisted.

Possibly. I'm getting selfish and "Me! Me! Me!" enough these days though where, in my opinion, the prime directive can suggit.

i can not be bothered reading much in this thread because either i fail to understand it or i do not identify with it.

however i will contribute.

of course i do not "pretend" to be in a relationship because i am in a relationship

my girlfriend tammy comes to stay with me for about 3 days per month (she lives 100km away from me now i live in the mountains), and i go to a takeaway shop in wentworth falls occasionally. i was a patron of that shop for about six months before tammy accompanied me into the shop.

there is a girl who serves in the shop who is about 20 years younger than me (probably 20 years old), and she was sheepish in her reactions to me. i simply ordered in a monotonic voice what i wanted (which can be quite a complicated description of what i want)
and i never looked directly at her, but i did notice a kind of interest she had in me.

i watch people who cook my hamburgers to monitor their progress, and i can tell when they look at me because my visual focus is only a few degrees away from their faces, but they can tell i am not looking at them, and they deduce i am simply monitoring how they are cooking my burger.

this girl was always very polite and sterile with me (the way i like it) until i went to the shop with my girlfriend tammy.
tammy was all over me (as she usually is) and she put her arms around me and wanted to kiss my mouth, and i kept turning my face in different directions away from her lips (as one might do when a puppy tries to lick one's face), and she finds my behaviour amusing and she tries to outsmart me and kiss me suddenly when i am not expecting it and it becomes a game of "kiss me if you can" in her mind.
i unwrapped her arms from around my torso but she is impossible to extricate myself from because she immediately puts her arms around me again as soon as i take them off me, and after a while she started laughing, and a smirk broke out on my face as well (i kind of enjoy the game even though i really do not like to be kissed and hugged).

the girl who was working in the shop was watching us and smiling in a suppressed way. tammy noted it and she said "i think the girl behind the counter likes you" and i said "for goodness sake tammy! just settle down".

after we got home, tammy continued to remark that the girl was looking at me in a fond way, and she started to become less than happy about it, but i have no interest in discussions of that type and i told her that the girl was young enough to be my daughter and i was not interested in the matter.

the next time i went to the shop on my own, the girl was very much more direct in her interaction with me when i placed my order, and i got the impression that she was wanting to get to know me because she asked me where i lived and what i did for a job, and she asked where my girlfriend was and why she was not with me.

i curtailed the situation by reporting that tammy lives in eastern sydney, and i stepped back from the counter and read the local pamphlets that were in their pamphlet holsters. i gave her the clear impression that i only entered the shop to buy food, and she backed off, but i think it is true that other girls are more interested if they see a male in the act of interacting with their girlfriend who loves them.

Apes....

apes what? what is the meaning of your post?

are you replying to my post? i think not. maybe you are drunk and not think of anything else to say.