SoulcakeDuck
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06 Feb 2014, 7:47 pm
cavernio wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
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safeword
A word serving as a prearranged and unambiguous signal to end an activity, such as between a dominant and submissive sexual couple
A word serving as a prearranged and unambiguous signal to end an activity, such as between a dominant and submissive sexual couple
That's new to me, like the dominant doesn't know when to stop by his/her own? Her: Fried ch.... fried chic...
Him suffocating her: I can't hear you b***h! Speak up!! MUhahaha!
Her: Frie.... (dies)
Because the sub might want to stop LONG before they're close to dying from it, and this is a way to say 'no' beyond just saying 'no'...(so that saying things like no, please stop, you're hurting me, etc can all be part of the play)
Besides, if the safeword is unable to be uttered, it's not safe BDSM.
I was answering on this before but erased my text and decided not to. I do that sometimes.
Just wanna say that there are not only words but tap-outs as well if you can't speak, or if you are unable to move or see or talk (but that's advanced, for pros). It's about safe and clear signals.
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OliveOilMom
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07 Feb 2014, 9:04 pm
leafplant wrote:
OliveOilMom wrote:
leafplant wrote:
I will never for the life of me understand why people don't think to themselves that if they are turned on by forcing themselves on someone or by suffering of someone that obviously points out to a very messed up mentality and they should stay the heck away from other people. Before we all got civlised as f**k, we used to put down unsafe or feeble members of the tribe. We still do actually, some places still have death sentence and sometimes euthanasia is practiced legally when vegetative state is all that persists. Imagine if we had someone rounding up and putting down everyone who was into sado masochism, though, it would get rid of half the population, maybe? It always profoundly disturbs me when i see someone enjoying the suffering of others, not necessarily in a sexual context. I have experienced it by proxy and know it is like a drug addiction
the only way is to stop permanently forever and never ever let yourself slip once.
I have tried the hands tied to the bed thing couple of times as well as spanking, it made me feel abused/ like I was abusing someone which i suppose is the point but i didn't enjoy it. My partner at the time seemed scarily joyful about the prospect of me restrained and helpless. I didn't care for that at all.
the only way is to stop permanently forever and never ever let yourself slip once.
I have tried the hands tied to the bed thing couple of times as well as spanking, it made me feel abused/ like I was abusing someone which i suppose is the point but i didn't enjoy it. My partner at the time seemed scarily joyful about the prospect of me restrained and helpless. I didn't care for that at all.
Oh, well then. If you tried it once and it made you feel abused and victimized then it's obviously evil and we should all be rounded up and killed. WTF????? I personally like being thrown down on the bed and held down while a man who knows what the hell he's doing goes to town there. It's actually a kind of nice feeling, because I don't do the whole violent takedown scene with it. I like being tied up. Or held down. And I'm sure you want to say how messed up in the head I am over that, but you know what? Go ahead and say it, I don't give a good goddamn. So you just want everybody else to have boring sex lives now? Because you don't like it any other way? So tell us then Yoda, having sex how do it we do? Cause you OBVIOUSLY know all about it, and what is and isn't healthy. Come on, Dr Ruth, balls up and tell two consenting people what they can and can't do in the bedroom.
You actually just proposed killing people who like sex in a different way than you do. Read up, you'll see what you did there. Are you by any chance Southern Baptist, cause thats how a whole lot of them feel about gay people.
yeah, look at that, we have different opinions about stuff.
Yeah well, I don't say that people who have a different opinion than mine need to be killed to rid society of them. What about people who like ageplay, should they die too because they might one day decide to do that with real kids? What about guys who call the girl a b***h and a whore during sex, should they die for being a misogynist and promoting rape culture? Who all else should be exterminated because you don't like what they choose to do with other consenting adults in the privacy of their own bedroom?
I may think something is really gross and would never try it myself, but if it's between adults who want to do that, who and what does it hurt?
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I'm giving it another shot. We will see.
My forum is still there and everyone is welcome to come join as well. There is a private women only subforum there if anyone is interested. Also, there is no CAPTCHA.
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The_Face_of_Boo
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10 Feb 2014, 10:43 am
^ Comparing women to fake steaks? And men to dogs? 
Shame on you, Geeko! 
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