Where can i find a AS girl at???

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Being significantly older than you and having been exposed to innumerable NT women in my life and career, I can tell you that you are wrong that they all want manly types who abuse them. In fact, hardly any of them are with those types. All you are seeing is high school and even NTs see what you are seeing in high school and commenting on how much it hurts them. You are too close to your own situation to see what is really going on.


Here's what I know of NT women from the ones I've known all over the US and much of Europe. They want someone they feel is interested in them just like you want someone who is interested in you. Guess what? Hardly anyone they meet makes them feel special or understood either. They complain about it all the time. They date and marry all kinds of body and face types. All kinds of personalities. Built abusers? Rarely see those as boyfriends or husbands once you are in the real world (meaning outside high school).


Most people are extroverts and feelers so they do want to connect with you. But if you scare them acting the way you are on here, they won't. They won't understand that behavior and they will run. That behavior is going to guarantee you that the women in the above paragraph will also run.


Not all women want to go to the mall or hang with friends. In fact, research has shown for years that girls tend to give up friends when they have a boyfriend. If you don't want to go to the mall, say so. Do something else and let her go to the mall sometimes with her friends. You are not going to like 100% of the things any woman likes and vice versa. That will never happen in any relationship you have NT, Aspie or otherwise. So what? You are both individuals. Be yourself without the anger. It's not doing you any good and all you are doing is wasting your minutes. There's no rollover minutes plan in life. Don't waste your minutes.


NT women usually (and I mean usually) are more naturally nuturing and affectionate than AS women. (It's the same with NT men actually. My husband is the nuturing and affectionate one. I wouldn't notice if he starved.) Aspie women are going to have less tolerance for your behavior than NT women because they are thinkers. No thinker is going to put up with these endless hate ravings. They have to watch how they spend their own minutes. Also, if neither of you shows affection has issues with touch, it going to be pretty boring at your house. I don't know why these researchers think AS/AS is such a hot combination. Sounds like a recipe for disaster to me. Who is taking care of who in that relationship? I can't see that lasting.


You need to chill, unknown. Any chance you have of meeting a girl you are killing with this attitude, justified by the past or not. You are clearly not happy being single. I don't see AS women upping the odds for you. Either way, to be with a girl, you are going to have to get over this hate. If you don't, you are going to have serious issues later on.


And last, you need to ask yourself this. If these girls treated you so badly, why are you spending so much of your precious time reacting to what they did? You're just letting them still have control. Don't you think it's about time you stopped letting them control you? Do you really want to spend the rest of your life on their strings? You need to think about that long and hard. Is it your life or theirs?

*sighs*

Well i'll stop hating ALL NT's,but i still hate the american NT's because they are too influenced by evil pop culture (you know what i'm talking about) and the mental damage the NT girls did to me in the past is impossible to repair,in fact unless i was to go to a foreign country like japan or russia,i'll just give up on finding love,if what you say about a AS/AS couple is true,then i'll stop looking for a AS girl.

Right now i'm pretty content with dying alone and unloved...

You think a Russian or Japanese girl would accept you? They are more picky than NT girls in the US (I know from experience). Dude, you're f****d if you're a westerner in Japan. Russia is no picnic either. Keep looking for an AS girl if you want, but don't discount NT girls.

I'm Russian and I'm a bit picky.

Where in Russia?

Don't live in Russia but dad's Russian. Wish I did though.

Fine then i f*****g give up.

Unknown,


Stop this right now. You are handing all the power for the rest of your life to those NT girls who mistreated you. You're going to hand them your entire life? Are you reading this? Why would you do that? You are going to let the evil pop culture on MTV ruin your life? Why give evil pop culture so much power over your life?


Not all NT girls are alike or ruled by MTV. They are not. You are obsessing on what has happened to you to the point that you are blocking out the reality of what is. You need to hit the reset key now. You have put yourself completely into overload with this. I promise you that what you feel now will not be what you feel in two years unless you are unwilling to give up this obsession and move on. Those girls who hurt you are not worth that. They are not. They are probably silly, vain twits, so don't let them turn you into a bitter, sarcastic, foul-mouthed woman hater. You will get nothing out of that but loneliness. Just be more careful, take your time to get to know them and proceed with caution. That's all.

Now, take a deep breath and exhale all that anger. Just let it go. You are in control of that anger, unknown, it does not control you. You need to see that, think it, touch it and believe it. Then, get rid of it. Anger is a useless emotion. You will never get a single thing out of it but pain. I think you've had enough pain and anger. Don't you? It's time to put it away and move on. Now, you take that deep breath and just exhale it out. Every time you feel it taking you over, do it again. Each time you take one step free of that pain and anger, celebrate. One day you will have more of those steps than the exhales. I promise. Just let it go.

The evil pop culture already has influence over 95% of NT girls,so it already has a lot of power.

Even if what you say is true,it'll be VERY hard to get a NT girl for a gf because i'll have to socialize ALOT just to get her,and all of her friends,to like me and respect me and i suck when it comes to socializing and DON'T recommend me to get social skills training because IT WON'T DO s**t,so really i'm just gonna give up now and i'll ask the mods to lock this thread soon.

You do not have the context to make a statement that it has affected 95% of NT girls. Where is this survey? Show me your proof.


You make many assumptions based on high school and the fact of the matter is that they are not always true even then. If you don't want to socialize, stop hanging around those girls who do that non-stop. There are plenty of groups who do not, for example nerds, strongly religious groups, different cultures, etc. You control who you hang out with. Take control and do it.

And no matter what you say, it comes back to why are you letting them control your life?

First off, that's not going to get anything done if he's not in a good / positive mood.

He's made it clear that he's not changing his beliefs any time soon. So what's the point of lecturing him? He said he wanted this thread locked. Oddly enough, only the other (recent) thread has been locked. People could have let it die. Nobody has. Why? Is everyone convinced they can "save" him? He doesn't want to be "saved," and forcing change on him won't do any good in the long run. Just let him vent for a while. He may be more willing to think about things differently in the future. He may not.

Go to a average american high school,there you will find your proof.

The people who made fun of me throughout my life have damaged my brain,if you know what i mean...

Highschool and the real world are two different things.

Unknown: I can't fully understand your pain as I was hoiked out before I reached high school but trust me when I say this: your scars will heal if you let them. It might take a few years but they will slowly heal and you'll start to feel better.

There are scummy people throughout life. There are also lovely people. You just need to slowly mend yourself, get up off the floor and go and look for them.

My scars can NEVER be healed,i don't know why alex locked the OTHER thread and NOT THIS one...

People tried to make fun of me and then I told them I didn't care what they thought about anything. I guess it put a damper on it for them.

By the way, the people that made fun of me? Their lives didn't turn out so well. It was probably a good thing I didn't care what they thought.

They haven't damaged your brain, just your feelings.


Every high school has the people I pointed out. I suggest you find them.