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07 Mar 2014, 6:59 pm

But when you are socially impaired, the problem is two-fold

Part 1 of the problem: recognise when the flirting is
a) aimed at you
b) intended to engage you in a romantic sense

Part 2 of the problem: know how to and employ appropriate response to achieve the desired outcome

And if your brain works like a binary yes/no tree like mine, you just have no hope in hell, like ever, because the actual contact is made on some other plane of existence to which autistic brains have no access as far as I have come to understand

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07 Mar 2014, 7:19 pm

We can certainly have had different experiences of this, but my deep sadness about my failures held me back from playing that particular game until I got it right. It didn't keep me from learning to play other games (except chess), or learning to make jokes.

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07 Mar 2014, 9:18 pm

Yuzu wrote:

What is this "flirting with the same gender (when you're straight)" thing?
Is it something different from just being friendly?

For some reason I see women flirting with other women more than I see straight men flirting with other men but I also see straight women kiss each other on the cheek when meeting women friends which is something a straight guy won't do to another guy so I think it's more a woman thing.

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07 Mar 2014, 9:53 pm

nick007 wrote:

Yuzu wrote:

What is this "flirting with the same gender (when you're straight)" thing?
Is it something different from just being friendly?

A straight guy won't do to a straight guy, where?

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07 Mar 2014, 10:28 pm

nick007 wrote:

Yuzu wrote:

What is this "flirting with the same gender (when you're straight)" thing?
Is it something different from just being friendly?

Women flirt with each other how exactly?? What do you guys consider flirting between two straight women?

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07 Mar 2014, 10:31 pm

straight women flirting with each other will probably be more touchy-feely with each other than they would when they're flirting with a guy, or than a lesbian couple would be.

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07 Mar 2014, 10:34 pm

Where?!

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07 Mar 2014, 10:48 pm

do you mean, 'where do women engage in this behavior'?

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07 Mar 2014, 10:54 pm

Ohhhh I see.
I never understood why they were doing that because I don't like to be touched.

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07 Mar 2014, 11:08 pm

Yuzu wrote:

nick007 wrote:

Yuzu wrote:

What is this "flirting with the same gender (when you're straight)" thing?
Is it something different from just being friendly?

Women flirt with each other how exactly?? What do you guys consider flirting between two straight women?

They use words like Sweetie, complement each other on their looks, hug

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08 Mar 2014, 12:59 am

LKL wrote:

do you mean, 'where do women engage in this behavior'?

Sorry, "where" geographically?

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08 Mar 2014, 1:17 am

nick007 wrote:

Yuzu wrote:

nick007 wrote:

Yuzu wrote:

What is this "flirting with the same gender (when you're straight)" thing?
Is it something different from just being friendly?

Women flirt with each other how exactly?? What do you guys consider flirting between two straight women?

They use words like Sweetie, complement each other on their looks, hug

I wouldn't call that flirting, that is just them bonding and being friendly. Also when women hug guys etc, that is just being friendly to.

Maybe it is flirting though. :chin:

I have been told that all women are closet lesbians.

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08 Mar 2014, 1:36 am

jrjones9933 wrote:

LKL wrote:

do you mean, 'where do women engage in this behavior'?

Sorry, "where" geographically?

evidently not in Texas :lol:

I flirt like a pro when I want to ingratiate myself with someone so that they wouldn't hate me and be horrible to me, it doesn't matter the gender, age, sexual orientation or whatever. It's purely done to flatter their ego so that they will be well disposed to me. Yes, it is completely manipulative but if I could achieve the same effect with simply asking people to not be nasty to me, believe me I would.

On the other hand, I am terrible at flirting with people I actually find attractive. I get all self conscious (I mean what if they do something?! or worse, don't do something!?) and end up going the opposite way. So, couple of years ago I was told by a mutual friend of someone I was heavily crushing on at the time that she has never seen me be that mean to another person before. Whoops. I guess I am like those boys in school that pull girl's pigtails because they like them :oops:

Which is NOT TO SAY that if I am mean to someone that automatically means I am attracted to them. Because some people really ARE stupid enough to think like that.

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08 Mar 2014, 1:54 am

jrjones9933 wrote:

LKL wrote:

do you mean, 'where do women engage in this behavior'?

Sorry, "where" geographically?

That's a good point. I've only ever actually seen it demonstrated on tv. It might happen locally in bars, but I don't go to bars so I can't actually say one way or another.

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08 Mar 2014, 2:12 am

My second mistake: I actually intended to convey a question about where men wouldn't kiss each other on the cheek.

Where geographically would men never display their affection for each other with a kiss?

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08 Mar 2014, 2:50 am

France? Russia, maybe?

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