If you're 27 and never had a girlfriend, is it too late?

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25 Apr 2015, 4:59 pm

CoffinCrawler wrote:

I am a female and I have approached a few men and gotten rejected when I made advances. I'm not sure what it was that caused the rejection... maybe they thought I was ugly, they weren't interested in seeing anyone, they thought I had no "game" or maybe they found me intimidating for making the moves. I don't know. In any case, getting rejected does suck, but I've never gotten bitter towards men about it.

Thanks for acting out of societal gender norms.

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25 Apr 2015, 9:33 pm

At birthday party. Pretty girl, spotted at 2 o'clock. What is the procedure to flirt with her?

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25 Apr 2015, 9:38 pm

You have a lot of different "openings" that are available (speaking in chess-move terms).

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At birthday party. Pretty girl, spotted at 2 o'clock. What is the procedure to flirt with her?

One of my personal-favourites is to just walk up and gaze into the girl's eyes whilst HAPPILY and IMMEDAITELY saying:
"Hey ! Let's have a random hug for today's « National Hug Someone at Random » day ! =D"

Most of the time I can usually get hugs out of girls I just met this way. /nod /nod

P.S.: Your arms need to be open towards her like you're ready to receive a hug from her whilst saying this of course.

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26 Apr 2015, 4:31 am

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That's just crazy, but if it works for you, fine. :wink:

Personally, I think hugs are relationship markers or friendship markers, so I wouldn't spoil a potential relationship by immediately getting her into the friend zone. In fact, I wouldn't hug anybody I had even a remote romantic interest for unless we had a relationship.

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26 Apr 2015, 6:44 am

314pe wrote:

Thanks for acting out of societal gender norms.

I try.

Although my past rejections have made me doubt myself more.

But I'm an androgynous female. I think that confuses and intimidates a lot of guys who are so used to society's standards for women.

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26 Apr 2015, 9:29 am

RetroGamer87 wrote:

At birthday party. Pretty girl, spotted at 2 o'clock. What is the procedure to flirt with her?

Is Birthday Party Girl sitting at a table with gaggle of friends? Liking like she's having a ball chatting and drinking with them?

Maybe she doesn't wanna talk to random strange men, period. Even if the guy is hot, even if she's single.

Failed efforts to flirt with Birthday Girl may well have everything to do with her being otherwise occupied that night & nada to do with your flirting ability.

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26 Apr 2015, 9:44 am

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Maybe she doesn't wanna talk to random strange men, period. Even if the guy is hot, even if she's single.

Why do you think flirting means talking? Aren't you too focused on the PUA strategies you despise so much?

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26 Apr 2015, 9:52 am

rdos wrote:

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Maybe she doesn't wanna talk to random strange men, period. Even if the guy is hot, even if she's single.

Why do you think flirting means talking? Aren't you too focused on the PUA strategies you despise so much?

Nope. There are times when I'm happy to chat or dance with strangers in bar, other times not so much. A birthday party where I'm happy chatting with the folks I arrived with falls into the latter category. That being said, if some guy tries & quietly accepts getting reflected, that's fine. Can't blame a polite person for trying :-)

(I'm not really up on my PUA strategies...but if it involves walking up to strangers, saying it is Hug Day and expecting a hug. Ugh. Gross. Never. I am not a tactile-with-strangers-person. Icky).

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26 Apr 2015, 9:52 am

rdos wrote:

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Maybe she doesn't wanna talk to random strange men, period. Even if the guy is hot, even if she's single.

Why do you think flirting means talking? Aren't you too focused on the PUA strategies you despise so much?

(I'm not really up on my PUA strategies...but if it involves walking up to strangers, saying it is Hug Day and expecting a hug. Ugh. Gross. Never. I am not a tactile-with-strangers-person. Icky).

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26 Apr 2015, 10:27 am

Not to worry, you can leave the hugging of all of the hot girls to me, I don't mind having more hot chics to myself !

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Diningroom wrote:

(I'm not really up on my PUA strategies...but if it involves walking up to strangers, saying it is Hug Day and expecting a hug. Ugh. Gross. Never. I am not a tactile-with-strangers-person. Icky).

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26 Apr 2015, 11:10 am

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Not to worry, you can leave the hugging of all of the hot girls to me, I don't mind having more hot chics to myself !

Sure, you can have them for friends, while I keep one for a relationship. :wink:

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26 Apr 2015, 1:44 pm

Ban-Dodger wrote:

Not to worry, you can leave the hugging of all of the hot girls to me, I don't mind having more hot chics to myself !

Diningroom wrote:

rdos wrote:

Diningroom wrote:

(I'm not really up on my PUA strategies...but if it involves walking up to strangers, saying it is Hug Day and expecting a hug. Ugh. Gross. Never. I am not a tactile-with-strangers-person. Icky).

I'm a girl. Don't know many girls who appreciate random hugs from skeevy PUA wannabes!

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26 Apr 2015, 2:56 pm

these links right here go to prove and show you that being socially-isolated, introverted, will hurt guys a lot more than it will hurt girls chances in the dating/relationship, world of sex, etc., it's from a site called AdultSocialSkills.com:
http://www.adultsocialskills.com/dating.htm

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26 Apr 2015, 3:34 pm

Sure, you can have fun with your one partner, whilst I shall proceed to grow my harem(s) instead ! :wink:

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Ban-Dodger wrote:

Not to worry, you can leave the hugging of all of the hot girls to me, I don't mind having more hot chics to myself !

Sure, you can have them for friends, while I keep one for a relationship. :wink:

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26 Apr 2015, 4:45 pm

Diningroom wrote:

RetroGamer87 wrote:

At birthday party. Pretty girl, spotted at 2 o'clock. What is the procedure to flirt with her?

She wasn't in a big group of friend's. She was with one other girl. Also pretty but known to be not single.

I never said it was her birthday. I was at a friend's birthday. She was one of his friends. I talked to her. She didn't mind. She didn't accuse me of being a PUA. I thought I should abandon my efforts when I noticed she had her arms crossed. I thought this might be a sign she wasn't into me. I backed off.

She laughed at my jokes but girls always laugh at my jokes so that doesn't mean anything. No dancing. It wasn't that kind of party.

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26 Apr 2015, 6:41 pm

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I think you are making a false assumption here. I can think of many men I know who I think are good people, but I wouldn't date them.

if you think they good men why wouldn't you tell them why you won't date them?

Why should I? You don't get a free psychological examination every time someone rejects you.

because saying I'm sorry I'm just not that attracted to you only takes 2 seconds out of your life and helps another from spending weeks upset about it.

anyways done with this, before I get too upset and say something that might hurt your feelings.

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