The value of men

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That's pretty good actually. I should live like that instead of living by a guilt complex.

I was a bit drunk when I made that post but posted it with the all do honesty at the bottom of my heart with deep passion, to hell with guilt of being a man society is brainwashed these days and encourages men to be ashamed. Be strong, be proud, be kind, be caring, be compassionate, take charge of your own responsibilities and do not be afraid to speak up for those you care about! Stand up against bullies and do the right thing! It is not down to being nice guy or bad boy but down to being the good guy who does good things and doing the right thing, if a woman or girl that you like does not look for that in a man she is not the right one for you and will not respect you the right one will look for those qualities and respect you but you must respect her in return. Stand tall, stand strong, be confidant just not cocky, kindness and gentleness followed by compassion and responsibility wins in the end.

Right, I shouldn't try to live by other people's standards because if I try to please everyone I'll try to do contradictory things. Those who shame me for not being a casanova or not having a masters degree seem to say more about what I should've done than what I can do.

That's a bit hard for me, my self-esteem alternates between two extremes. I go from self-loathing to narcissism but I find it hard to find the space between those.

When I started to recover from depression people started saying I was arrogant. They were not wrong. It was the same thing that happened to a friend of mine a few years ago. He became extremely cocky after he started taking anti-depressants.

To resolve this conflict I'm trying to work a model of personality where I can compliment people without mentioning how I don't have those accomplishments and I can mention my own achievements without pointing out they don't have them. This is based on my observations that the most liked people manage to be quite complementary without being fawning.

The most well-liked people I know spend more time talking about other people's good qualities than their own but always in a way that's genuinely applicable. Also I want to try and drop the habit of false-modesty.

Can't wait to see my sweet, loving, listening, understanding, helping boyfriend. I make my own money but I still want to marry him.

I hope he likes cats!

Seriously. I'm glad you're doing well with your boyfriend.

Thanks kraftie I really hope we will last long. Unfortunately his grandpa died today so a bit of a rough time for him. I try to support him

Is his mother still being nasty and racist to you?

Lol hi Boo :p No, she was never really racist with me, although my boyfriend had told me before I met her that he would 'prefer her date a girl of his own culture/background'. I think she quite likes me now. In fact, when my boyfriend jokinly told his mom that he had turned me in for another girl, she said: 'Nooo, Adam, you're not doing that. Bad boy!' LOL. They make a lot of effort for me and really try to 'incorporate' me into their family; invite me to events, etc. To be honest I think my boyfriend is a much more attractive person than I am. Then again I tend to think that I have great taste and that all women must like the men I like. Can't imagine my boyfriend not being seen as attractive by many many women, but appearantly that's being 'in love'.

and yet people still stubbornly think us men have it easier

We men have value, we aren't just sperm doners and sex toys for women, we are protectors we are compassionate we are there to get things done and do what is right, we are the inventors and innovators, without us men around women would be screwed! Vica versa as well without women we men would be screwed but you get my point! Don't let those man hating women get to you they are morons they are slow learners and wont come into realization until they are alone and nobody wants em. Natural selection takes its place and those man haters die off and their genes get eliminated from the gene pool as both men and women get back together knowing they need each other to make off spring and keep their genes alive!

Culture/background? You mean he's ethnic?

He is 'white', I am 'multiracial'

Women can do that, too.

I hear you op. Sometimes people make males seem like they are emotionless, but I have met many caring men. If anything, in the past when I was going out with some guy he was a lot more affectionate and filled with emotion than I was. He said I was too distant for him so that was when that all ended.

Protection is just not necessary any more. Compassion is valuable for everyone, not just men. And as was illustrated invention and innovation are not solely the domain of men.

The value of a person does not come from other people wanting them. You are using male approval as a manipulative tool here.


That is just the reproductive act. I think men have more to offer than that.

Then in other words men have no value and are totally useless?