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23 May 2007, 9:24 pm

Those chatbots work as answering machines or for consulting machines, right?
I dont think their real porpouse are virtual girlfriends :lol:

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23 May 2007, 9:46 pm

but what if say someone like me-with no hope-can they get a girlfriend

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23 May 2007, 10:11 pm

YES, THEY CAN.
And they can get them to put up with their s**t.

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23 May 2007, 10:19 pm

here's hopin' :lol:

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23 May 2007, 10:36 pm

What does the word girlfriend mean?

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23 May 2007, 10:59 pm

TruenoBlues wrote:

IQ is across the board, from really low to higher than Hawking.

In aspies, no. It cannot be really low. Here are the germane parts of the official definitions:

The World Health Organization's definition

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A. A lack of any clinically significant general delay in language or
cognitive development. Diagnosis requires that single words should have
developed by two years of age and that communicative phrases be used by
three years of age or earlier. Self-help skills, adaptive behaviour and
curiosity about the environment during the first three years should be at a
level consistent with normal intellectual development.

DSM-IV

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E. There is no clinically significant delay in cognitive development or in
the development of age-appropriate self-help skills, adaptive behaviour
(other than social interaction), and curiosity about the environment in
childhood.

Since IQ is defined as intellectual age, "no clinically significant delay" means that someone with intelligence which is markedly below average cannot be diagnosed with AS.

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24 May 2007, 1:05 am

greenblue wrote:

Those chatbots work as answering machines or for consulting machines, right?
I dont think their real porpouse are virtual girlfriends :lol:

Some are. Actually, the best commercially available one
is primarily a sex toy.

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24 May 2007, 1:06 am

Kilroy wrote:

what's the use of that
and how do you hid it if your folks walk in :lol:

Uhm, if you have 10k to spend on a sex doll,
and you're worried about your folks walking in,
let's have a talk.

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24 May 2007, 6:11 am

I think aspies can.
They just have to get in touch with theyr social inner inside.
Inside every aspie human being there is a social inner side just waiting for the right moment to come out.
Throw away the books and shut the comp off.
Concentrate on what NT's are into, study theyr ways and interests.
Than once you do that infiltrate them and pretend to be one of them.
If you can't beat em, join em.

Yeah i know this is bullcrap, but you get the basic idea.

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24 May 2007, 6:13 am

Bart21 wrote:

Yeah. Stop being yourself, pretend to be something
you're not. Build a relationship on lies, and end up
miserable. Sounds great.

No thanks.

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24 May 2007, 6:23 am

Actually once you get the girl you can show her your true self.
Than you wil see if she accepts you for who you are.
It's just a matter of if you care about having a gf or not.

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24 May 2007, 7:04 am

I guess. I certainly have MUCH more
trouble with making the initial contact,
compared with holding them. But, never
dealt with anyone who could truly be
considered NT - two of my three ex's
were almost definitely AS; gods only
know what the third one was.

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24 May 2007, 7:17 am

calandale wrote:

Bart21 wrote:

Yeah. Stop being yourself, pretend to be something
you're not. Build a relationship on lies, and end up
miserable. Sounds great.

No thanks.

I agree. But not just as a matter of principle, in practice whenever I tried to infiltrate, i failed miserably. I cannot pretend to be an average person, nor do I want to. 'The truthful are loveless' (Kurt Vonnegut) - but if you're a bad liar then you might as well be yourself.

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24 May 2007, 2:57 pm

Kilroy wrote:

ewwww

my hand is free :lol:

And the best part is, your right hand won't get jealous if you start using your left hand

Bart21 wrote:

I think aspies can.
They just have to get in touch with theyr social inner inside.
Inside every aspie human being there is a social inner side just waiting for the right moment to come out.

Y'know, it's weird - I apparently have a ladies' man nestled inside me, but I rarely have the confidence or inclination to let him loose. Vague flirting is all I ever let him achieve.

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24 May 2007, 5:18 pm

You're ambidextrous?

I can throw darts well with either,
but some things, it just don't work.

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24 May 2007, 5:29 pm

Any aspie guy can get a girlfriend if they put effort into it. I'm not talking about reading Cosmopolitan magazine with her and watching sex in the city. (And if thats all she does, then run.) But by being polite, interested in the lady, funny and witty and clean.
You can not think "I am aspie, I can only talk about data extraction and politics, sorry." ( I speak from experience.)
You may be able to share interests, but personal interests are just that, personal.

As a female who is dating a AS male I can attest that relationships can work and are hard, but with an understanding person it can be very rewarding.
He is not some Adonis or whatever, there is a picture I put on the members board of us. He is wonderful to me and that is enough.

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