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06 Jan 2017, 2:40 pm

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We all take risks. Men risk being mistaken for a threat. Women risk being faced with a threat. Both of these scenarios are dangerous.

I've been mistaken as a threat more than once, and a couple people have even told me I can be hard to approach because theres something intimidating about me. Also I worry about things like if I saw someone abusing an animal I'd come at them with the first object I can find to beat them with, as opposed to calling cops and waiting around.

Also pretty sure men risk being faced with threats as well.


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06 Jan 2017, 3:18 pm

wilburforce wrote:
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ya, there is one girl i have known for a few years now that i'm quite very jealous of, she also has Aspergers, and she has been known to make social errors, but yet it hasn't stopped her from getting a boyfriend, and she has had lots of boyfriends in her life, she was an early bloomer as well too, she had her first boyfriend at age 15.
I'm jealous of her too!

I'm even more jealous of a couple of aspie girls I know who've been with the same boyfriends for the last 7 or 8 years.

(because longevity of relationships is more important that quantity of relationships).


ya, because social-awkwardness is much worse in men than it is in women, a socially-awkward guy can get labelled creepy or stalkerish, meanwhile that label won't be thrown to women.

If you think women always have it easy than you don't know them very well.

Both sexes face problems in life.


i know that, it's just that the problems women face are different from men, and rarely do i hear of women having problems being able to get a date or get a boyfriend, and the reason why women don't get labeled the creepy or stalker label for being socially-awkward, is because women don't have to take social risks like men do, and even if women did take social risks, they would not get labeled that, because since men are physically stronger than men, it means women won't be perceived as a threat.


Wrong, wrong, and wrong. Women can definitely be seen as threats to other women (and sometimes to men; not all men are stronger than all women, some women are tall and strong), and get labelled all kinds of things when we are socially awkward. Stop spewing lies and sexist BS.


Making ignorant generalizations does not equate to sexism. You really need to stop screaming "sexist" any time anyone says anything. It trivializes real sexism and makes you look like a complete git.



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06 Jan 2017, 3:29 pm

Sabreclaw wrote:
wilburforce wrote:
WantToHaveALife wrote:
RetroGamer87 wrote:
WantToHaveALife wrote:
RetroGamer87 wrote:
WantToHaveALife wrote:
ya, there is one girl i have known for a few years now that i'm quite very jealous of, she also has Aspergers, and she has been known to make social errors, but yet it hasn't stopped her from getting a boyfriend, and she has had lots of boyfriends in her life, she was an early bloomer as well too, she had her first boyfriend at age 15.
I'm jealous of her too!

I'm even more jealous of a couple of aspie girls I know who've been with the same boyfriends for the last 7 or 8 years.

(because longevity of relationships is more important that quantity of relationships).


ya, because social-awkwardness is much worse in men than it is in women, a socially-awkward guy can get labelled creepy or stalkerish, meanwhile that label won't be thrown to women.

If you think women always have it easy than you don't know them very well.

Both sexes face problems in life.


i know that, it's just that the problems women face are different from men, and rarely do i hear of women having problems being able to get a date or get a boyfriend, and the reason why women don't get labeled the creepy or stalker label for being socially-awkward, is because women don't have to take social risks like men do, and even if women did take social risks, they would not get labeled that, because since men are physically stronger than men, it means women won't be perceived as a threat.


Wrong, wrong, and wrong. Women can definitely be seen as threats to other women (and sometimes to men; not all men are stronger than all women, some women are tall and strong), and get labelled all kinds of things when we are socially awkward. Stop spewing lies and sexist BS.


Making ignorant generalizations does not equate to sexism. You really need to stop screaming "sexist" any time anyone says anything. It trivializes real sexism and makes you look like a complete git.


Stereotyping is sexism though to be fair



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06 Jan 2017, 3:37 pm

Alliekit wrote:
Sabreclaw wrote:
wilburforce wrote:
WantToHaveALife wrote:
RetroGamer87 wrote:
WantToHaveALife wrote:
RetroGamer87 wrote:
WantToHaveALife wrote:
ya, there is one girl i have known for a few years now that i'm quite very jealous of, she also has Aspergers, and she has been known to make social errors, but yet it hasn't stopped her from getting a boyfriend, and she has had lots of boyfriends in her life, she was an early bloomer as well too, she had her first boyfriend at age 15.
I'm jealous of her too!

I'm even more jealous of a couple of aspie girls I know who've been with the same boyfriends for the last 7 or 8 years.

(because longevity of relationships is more important that quantity of relationships).


ya, because social-awkwardness is much worse in men than it is in women, a socially-awkward guy can get labelled creepy or stalkerish, meanwhile that label won't be thrown to women.

If you think women always have it easy than you don't know them very well.

Both sexes face problems in life.


i know that, it's just that the problems women face are different from men, and rarely do i hear of women having problems being able to get a date or get a boyfriend, and the reason why women don't get labeled the creepy or stalker label for being socially-awkward, is because women don't have to take social risks like men do, and even if women did take social risks, they would not get labeled that, because since men are physically stronger than men, it means women won't be perceived as a threat.


Wrong, wrong, and wrong. Women can definitely be seen as threats to other women (and sometimes to men; not all men are stronger than all women, some women are tall and strong), and get labelled all kinds of things when we are socially awkward. Stop spewing lies and sexist BS.


Making ignorant generalizations does not equate to sexism. You really need to stop screaming "sexist" any time anyone says anything. It trivializes real sexism and makes you look like a complete git.


Stereotyping is sexism though to be fair


No it isn't. Sexism is a based on oppressing and/or despising a particular gender. Stereotyping is not hatred, it's a completely different thing and people need to stop calling it sexism or racism or whatever other isms you can think of.



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06 Jan 2017, 3:39 pm

Sabreclaw wrote:
Alliekit wrote:
Sabreclaw wrote:
wilburforce wrote:
WantToHaveALife wrote:
RetroGamer87 wrote:
WantToHaveALife wrote:
RetroGamer87 wrote:
WantToHaveALife wrote:
ya, there is one girl i have known for a few years now that i'm quite very jealous of, she also has Aspergers, and she has been known to make social errors, but yet it hasn't stopped her from getting a boyfriend, and she has had lots of boyfriends in her life, she was an early bloomer as well too, she had her first boyfriend at age 15.
I'm jealous of her too!

I'm even more jealous of a couple of aspie girls I know who've been with the same boyfriends for the last 7 or 8 years.

(because longevity of relationships is more important that quantity of relationships).


ya, because social-awkwardness is much worse in men than it is in women, a socially-awkward guy can get labelled creepy or stalkerish, meanwhile that label won't be thrown to women.

If you think women always have it easy than you don't know them very well.

Both sexes face problems in life.


i know that, it's just that the problems women face are different from men, and rarely do i hear of women having problems being able to get a date or get a boyfriend, and the reason why women don't get labeled the creepy or stalker label for being socially-awkward, is because women don't have to take social risks like men do, and even if women did take social risks, they would not get labeled that, because since men are physically stronger than men, it means women won't be perceived as a threat.


Wrong, wrong, and wrong. Women can definitely be seen as threats to other women (and sometimes to men; not all men are stronger than all women, some women are tall and strong), and get labelled all kinds of things when we are socially awkward. Stop spewing lies and sexist BS.


Making ignorant generalizations does not equate to sexism. You really need to stop screaming "sexist" any time anyone says anything. It trivializes real sexism and makes you look like a complete git.


Stereotyping is sexism though to be fair


No it isn't. Sexism is a based on oppressing and/or despising a particular gender. Stereotyping is not hatred, it's a completely different thing and people need to stop calling it sexism or racism or whatever other isms you can think of.


It is literally one of the definitions

sexism
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prejudice, stereotyping, or discrimination, typically against women, on the basis of sex



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06 Jan 2017, 3:41 pm

i like to think of stereotyping and more "traditional" discriminating sexism as different beasts, but both with ugly heads that rear themselves in these kinds of threads all too often.

stereotyping is useful sometimes, but here it's just bigotry all the same.

who gets to decide if stereotyping is the same thing as sexism? how much does it matter?


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06 Jan 2017, 3:42 pm

Alliekit wrote:
Sabreclaw wrote:
Alliekit wrote:
Sabreclaw wrote:
wilburforce wrote:
WantToHaveALife wrote:
RetroGamer87 wrote:
WantToHaveALife wrote:
RetroGamer87 wrote:
WantToHaveALife wrote:
ya, there is one girl i have known for a few years now that i'm quite very jealous of, she also has Aspergers, and she has been known to make social errors, but yet it hasn't stopped her from getting a boyfriend, and she has had lots of boyfriends in her life, she was an early bloomer as well too, she had her first boyfriend at age 15.
I'm jealous of her too!

I'm even more jealous of a couple of aspie girls I know who've been with the same boyfriends for the last 7 or 8 years.

(because longevity of relationships is more important that quantity of relationships).


ya, because social-awkwardness is much worse in men than it is in women, a socially-awkward guy can get labelled creepy or stalkerish, meanwhile that label won't be thrown to women.

If you think women always have it easy than you don't know them very well.

Both sexes face problems in life.


i know that, it's just that the problems women face are different from men, and rarely do i hear of women having problems being able to get a date or get a boyfriend, and the reason why women don't get labeled the creepy or stalker label for being socially-awkward, is because women don't have to take social risks like men do, and even if women did take social risks, they would not get labeled that, because since men are physically stronger than men, it means women won't be perceived as a threat.


Wrong, wrong, and wrong. Women can definitely be seen as threats to other women (and sometimes to men; not all men are stronger than all women, some women are tall and strong), and get labelled all kinds of things when we are socially awkward. Stop spewing lies and sexist BS.


Making ignorant generalizations does not equate to sexism. You really need to stop screaming "sexist" any time anyone says anything. It trivializes real sexism and makes you look like a complete git.


Stereotyping is sexism though to be fair


No it isn't. Sexism is a based on oppressing and/or despising a particular gender. Stereotyping is not hatred, it's a completely different thing and people need to stop calling it sexism or racism or whatever other isms you can think of.


It is literally one of the definitions

sexism
ˈsɛksɪz(ə)m/Submit
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prejudice, stereotyping, or discrimination, typically against women, on the basis of sex


Then you need a new definition. If you ever met a true woman-hater you'd realize how asinine it is to compare stereotyping to sexism.



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06 Jan 2017, 3:43 pm

Sabreclaw wrote:
Alliekit wrote:
Sabreclaw wrote:
Alliekit wrote:
Sabreclaw wrote:
wilburforce wrote:
WantToHaveALife wrote:
RetroGamer87 wrote:
WantToHaveALife wrote:
RetroGamer87 wrote:
WantToHaveALife wrote:
ya, there is one girl i have known for a few years now that i'm quite very jealous of, she also has Aspergers, and she has been known to make social errors, but yet it hasn't stopped her from getting a boyfriend, and she has had lots of boyfriends in her life, she was an early bloomer as well too, she had her first boyfriend at age 15.
I'm jealous of her too!

I'm even more jealous of a couple of aspie girls I know who've been with the same boyfriends for the last 7 or 8 years.

(because longevity of relationships is more important that quantity of relationships).


ya, because social-awkwardness is much worse in men than it is in women, a socially-awkward guy can get labelled creepy or stalkerish, meanwhile that label won't be thrown to women.

If you think women always have it easy than you don't know them very well.

Both sexes face problems in life.


i know that, it's just that the problems women face are different from men, and rarely do i hear of women having problems being able to get a date or get a boyfriend, and the reason why women don't get labeled the creepy or stalker label for being socially-awkward, is because women don't have to take social risks like men do, and even if women did take social risks, they would not get labeled that, because since men are physically stronger than men, it means women won't be perceived as a threat.


Wrong, wrong, and wrong. Women can definitely be seen as threats to other women (and sometimes to men; not all men are stronger than all women, some women are tall and strong), and get labelled all kinds of things when we are socially awkward. Stop spewing lies and sexist BS.


Making ignorant generalizations does not equate to sexism. You really need to stop screaming "sexist" any time anyone says anything. It trivializes real sexism and makes you look like a complete git.


Stereotyping is sexism though to be fair


No it isn't. Sexism is a based on oppressing and/or despising a particular gender. Stereotyping is not hatred, it's a completely different thing and people need to stop calling it sexism or racism or whatever other isms you can think of.


It is literally one of the definitions

sexism
ˈsɛksɪz(ə)m/Submit
noun
prejudice, stereotyping, or discrimination, typically against women, on the basis of sex


Then you need a new definition. If you ever met a true woman-hater you'd realize how asinine it is to compare stereotyping to sexism.


woah that isnt my definition i was just pointing out whats in the dictionary :lol: :lol: Oh my good cool it



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06 Jan 2017, 3:47 pm

Alliekit wrote:
Sabreclaw wrote:
Alliekit wrote:
Sabreclaw wrote:
Alliekit wrote:
Sabreclaw wrote:
wilburforce wrote:
WantToHaveALife wrote:
RetroGamer87 wrote:
WantToHaveALife wrote:
RetroGamer87 wrote:
WantToHaveALife wrote:
ya, there is one girl i have known for a few years now that i'm quite very jealous of, she also has Aspergers, and she has been known to make social errors, but yet it hasn't stopped her from getting a boyfriend, and she has had lots of boyfriends in her life, she was an early bloomer as well too, she had her first boyfriend at age 15.
I'm jealous of her too!

I'm even more jealous of a couple of aspie girls I know who've been with the same boyfriends for the last 7 or 8 years.

(because longevity of relationships is more important that quantity of relationships).


ya, because social-awkwardness is much worse in men than it is in women, a socially-awkward guy can get labelled creepy or stalkerish, meanwhile that label won't be thrown to women.

If you think women always have it easy than you don't know them very well.

Both sexes face problems in life.


i know that, it's just that the problems women face are different from men, and rarely do i hear of women having problems being able to get a date or get a boyfriend, and the reason why women don't get labeled the creepy or stalker label for being socially-awkward, is because women don't have to take social risks like men do, and even if women did take social risks, they would not get labeled that, because since men are physically stronger than men, it means women won't be perceived as a threat.


Wrong, wrong, and wrong. Women can definitely be seen as threats to other women (and sometimes to men; not all men are stronger than all women, some women are tall and strong), and get labelled all kinds of things when we are socially awkward. Stop spewing lies and sexist BS.


Making ignorant generalizations does not equate to sexism. You really need to stop screaming "sexist" any time anyone says anything. It trivializes real sexism and makes you look like a complete git.


Stereotyping is sexism though to be fair


No it isn't. Sexism is a based on oppressing and/or despising a particular gender. Stereotyping is not hatred, it's a completely different thing and people need to stop calling it sexism or racism or whatever other isms you can think of.


It is literally one of the definitions

sexism
ˈsɛksɪz(ə)m/Submit
noun
prejudice, stereotyping, or discrimination, typically against women, on the basis of sex


Then you need a new definition. If you ever met a true woman-hater you'd realize how asinine it is to compare stereotyping to sexism.


woah that isnt my definition i was just pointing out whats in the dictionary :lol: :lol: Oh my good cool it


You are completely missing the point. It is ridiculous to compare what WantToHaveALife said to real sexism, ie another thread where the guy said something along the lines of "women are sub-human".



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06 Jan 2017, 3:50 pm

Sabreclaw wrote:
Alliekit wrote:
Sabreclaw wrote:
Alliekit wrote:
Sabreclaw wrote:
Alliekit wrote:
Sabreclaw wrote:
wilburforce wrote:
WantToHaveALife wrote:
RetroGamer87 wrote:
WantToHaveALife wrote:
RetroGamer87 wrote:
WantToHaveALife wrote:
ya, there is one girl i have known for a few years now that i'm quite very jealous of, she also has Aspergers, and she has been known to make social errors, but yet it hasn't stopped her from getting a boyfriend, and she has had lots of boyfriends in her life, she was an early bloomer as well too, she had her first boyfriend at age 15.
I'm jealous of her too!

I'm even more jealous of a couple of aspie girls I know who've been with the same boyfriends for the last 7 or 8 years.

(because longevity of relationships is more important that quantity of relationships).


ya, because social-awkwardness is much worse in men than it is in women, a socially-awkward guy can get labelled creepy or stalkerish, meanwhile that label won't be thrown to women.

If you think women always have it easy than you don't know them very well.

Both sexes face problems in life.


i know that, it's just that the problems women face are different from men, and rarely do i hear of women having problems being able to get a date or get a boyfriend, and the reason why women don't get labeled the creepy or stalker label for being socially-awkward, is because women don't have to take social risks like men do, and even if women did take social risks, they would not get labeled that, because since men are physically stronger than men, it means women won't be perceived as a threat.


Wrong, wrong, and wrong. Women can definitely be seen as threats to other women (and sometimes to men; not all men are stronger than all women, some women are tall and strong), and get labelled all kinds of things when we are socially awkward. Stop spewing lies and sexist BS.


Making ignorant generalizations does not equate to sexism. You really need to stop screaming "sexist" any time anyone says anything. It trivializes real sexism and makes you look like a complete git.


Stereotyping is sexism though to be fair


No it isn't. Sexism is a based on oppressing and/or despising a particular gender. Stereotyping is not hatred, it's a completely different thing and people need to stop calling it sexism or racism or whatever other isms you can think of.


It is literally one of the definitions

sexism
ˈsɛksɪz(ə)m/Submit
noun
prejudice, stereotyping, or discrimination, typically against women, on the basis of sex


Then you need a new definition. If you ever met a true woman-hater you'd realize how asinine it is to compare stereotyping to sexism.


woah that isnt my definition i was just pointing out whats in the dictionary :lol: :lol: Oh my good cool it


You are completely missing the point. It is ridiculous to compare what WantToHaveALife said to real sexism, ie another thread where the guy said something along the lines of "women are sub-human".


I wasnt claiming he was being sexiest though



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06 Jan 2017, 6:24 pm

Alliekit wrote:
Sabreclaw wrote:
Alliekit wrote:
Sabreclaw wrote:
Alliekit wrote:
Sabreclaw wrote:
Alliekit wrote:
Sabreclaw wrote:
wilburforce wrote:
WantToHaveALife wrote:
RetroGamer87 wrote:
WantToHaveALife wrote:
RetroGamer87 wrote:
WantToHaveALife wrote:
ya, there is one girl i have known for a few years now that i'm quite very jealous of, she also has Aspergers, and she has been known to make social errors, but yet it hasn't stopped her from getting a boyfriend, and she has had lots of boyfriends in her life, she was an early bloomer as well too, she had her first boyfriend at age 15.
I'm jealous of her too!

I'm even more jealous of a couple of aspie girls I know who've been with the same boyfriends for the last 7 or 8 years.

(because longevity of relationships is more important that quantity of relationships).
ya, because social-awkwardness is much worse in men than it is in women, a socially-awkward guy can get labelled creepy or stalkerish, meanwhile that label won't be thrown to women.
If you think women always have it easy than you don't know them very well.

Both sexes face problems in life.
i know that, it's just that the problems women face are different from men, and rarely do i hear of women having problems being able to get a date or get a boyfriend, and the reason why women don't get labeled the creepy or stalker label for being socially-awkward, is because women don't have to take social risks like men do, and even if women did take social risks, they would not get labeled that, because since men are physically stronger than men, it means women won't be perceived as a threat.
Wrong, wrong, and wrong. Women can definitely be seen as threats to other women (and sometimes to men; not all men are stronger than all women, some women are tall and strong), and get labelled all kinds of things when we are socially awkward. Stop spewing lies and sexist BS.
Making ignorant generalizations does not equate to sexism. You really need to stop screaming "sexist" any time anyone says anything. It trivializes real sexism and makes you look like a complete git.
Stereotyping is sexism though to be fair
No it isn't. Sexism is a based on oppressing and/or despising a particular gender. Stereotyping is not hatred, it's a completely different thing and people need to stop calling it sexism or racism or whatever other isms you can think of.
It is literally one of the definitions

sexism
ˈsɛksɪz(ə)m/Submit
noun
prejudice, stereotyping, or discrimination, typically against women, on the basis of sex
Then you need a new definition. If you ever met a true woman-hater you'd realize how asinine it is to compare stereotyping to sexism.
woah that isnt my definition i was just pointing out whats in the dictionary :lol: :lol: Oh my good cool it
You are completely missing the point. It is ridiculous to compare what WantToHaveALife said to real sexism, ie another thread where the guy said something along the lines of "women are sub-human".
I wasnt claiming he was being sexiest though
These matrioska quotes make pretty patterns :lol:

Can we all just say sexism is relative? Can we say that mild sexism is less harmful than real hatred of the opposite sex but it's not all that great either?

I don't think WantToHaveALife really hates women but saying his own sex has it bad and the opposite sex has it easy can still be harmful because it invalidates the problems faced by the opposite sex (women).

It's just as bad as some feminists who say their sex has it bad but the opposite sex has it easy due to male privilidge. This also invalidates the problems faced by the opposite sex (men).

The fact of the matter is that both sexes face problems in life and it's wrong to claim only your own sex faces problems while claiming the other sex cruises through life on easy mode.


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06 Jan 2017, 6:30 pm

He clearly said in one of the first posts that the problems women face are different from the ones men face. Uhhhhh so outrageous, someone hang him immediately.



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06 Jan 2017, 7:30 pm

Tbh I haven't ead the whole convo j was just being a geek about words.



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Tbh I haven't ead the whole convo j was just being a geek about words.


I get that. Technically speaking, you're right. But I think the connotations of words are more important than their strict definitions.



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07 Jan 2017, 8:46 am

No idea, I've always found all my boyfriends online. In 'real life' it only worked once. Now I'm just used to online dating so much, I wouldn't even try finding anyone the usual way, well... maybe if I joined a themed/activity club, maybe.
The idea of going out to a pub/club and just pairing with someone scares the... out of me. Many times people were just hitting on me very... intensely and I hated that.
Finding someone online, exchanging messages for weeks, then meeting up in town and talking - then the usual relationship stuff :) that's my preferred way.