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Using the word in the first place was an act of provocation. Yawn...tell me that I'm wrong.

Well, so it was the case of using the misogynist word. Instead of such slurs, there is a thing called report button in case something is deemed as unacceptable.

Yeah well, I'm choosing to respond instead. Thanx

The calendar method is crap. You might have better luck than I had. My wife has always had irregular cycles off the pill. When she was on the pill, even getting sex was hit or miss. What’s the point of the pill when you don’t even want it anymore? Ridiculous.

Plus we couldn’t really afford b.c. So we just used condoms. Her cycle is a moving target. We ran out of condoms one day and 7 1/2 months later...

Then I had one break. So 8 1/2 months later...

It freaking sucks, because when you’re married you’d think you could have all the unprotected sex you want. Nope. Doesn’t work that way.

What we do is wait a full 24 hours after her period stops. There’s roughly a 7 day window when she’s not going to get pregnant. This much we know and we’ve never conceived when we were keeping up with the days. Beyond that is no-man’s-land. Even if we wanted to, we didn’t dare try to figure out when to have sex the week before.

It’s scary because her last cycle was just over two weeks. I don’t mean random mid-cycle spotting, I mean full-on red. So we’ve avoided unprotected sex in the meantime just in case, because it was really strange.

I’m not saying it can’t be done. I’m just saying even if she’s in perfect health and everything has always gone like clockwork, do you really feel you can gamble on that one time out of 100?

Sperm don’t really live longer than 24 hours. I would say worst case 3 days. I’ve ready somewhere that 7 days is possible, but I highly doubt it. I’d need to see the research on that, but 7 days just sounds fishy to me.

Perhaps you haven't noticed but that was part of a heated discussion where I got quite upset for being called a misogynist for criticizing the behaviour most women had in this thread. So yeah, you are wrong.

You weren't just being upset you were being nasty.

You may choose to respond instead of report, but I have to act appropriately when I spot a breach of rules. Ad hominems are definitely against the rules.

If this unfortunate debate over the use of a word continues, and there is no further discussion of the OP's problems, i'll close this thread.

I didn't even say that to them, I just wanted to say vagina and used slur because I was angry. They instead said nasty things to me, personal attacks, without a justification, but I see that somehow you have no problem with that and you don't care at all.

cool

The many installments of the “Battle of the sexes” rarely have yielded any resolutions.

One which was resolved was Billie Jean King beating Bobby Riggs in a tennis match.

Yes, I believe I see how things work on this site now.

It’s not worth worrying about much. I used to think running to mods was babyish, and then others started reporting me for what I thought were trivial matters. I’m not sure when or how it happened, but reporting users and posts seems to me the norm.

I used to think it was unfairly weighted against people with more conservative views like my own. But I discovered that leftists, at least at that time, had a nasty habit of baiting people like me into expressing something that violated TOS. It always confused me as to HOW exactly I broke the rules. But once I figured it out I realized that people had been baiting and bullying me, at least according to TOS, even though it never occurred to me to be upset or offended by it. Once I started reporting leftist users for their treatment of me, most of the heavy-handed tactics stopped, at least one user got banned while others quietly vanished into the void, and my experience here was much better.

I feel like the mods here lean liberal in the views they express, but they shoot straight down the middle in their moderating. Here are some guidelines I’d suggest for going to mods:

1. Don’t hesitate to report.
2. Know the rules and make sure you stay in the clear; avoid responding to a post if it means you’d be forced to express something that breaks rules
3. Avoid making bs reports/tattling, i.e. don’t insult someone and then report them for retaliating. I’ve actually seen some people “report themselves” when they were at fault and clear up something that was potentially hurtful to someone else.

The mods really are here to help and make every effort to be fair. Based on my experience, I’d say you should be worried if you DON’T get reported at least once for something, no matter how insignificant.

Boo has three official warnings and was even banned for a while. You don't have any, even if you've accused sly of vicious misogyny, ferris (who was supporting someone else who you've also accused of misogyny) and now peacesells has managed to get on your list since they disagree with you.

Yeah, that's how this site is run.

It's just like politics.

And moderating L+D must be a real chore to be fair ......

That was a pertinent question that got looked over

If I "accused sly of vicious misogyny" (quite the misinterpretation of my posts in that thread) why haven't I been warned as well? Perhaps your fellow moderators don't share your interpretation.

And ferris apologized to me in a PM for his sexist "joke" (he admitted that he said what he did to intentionally get under my skin, and he admitted that it was a sexist and patronizing comment and it was wrong to do that.) I didn't accept his apology at the time very gracefully because I was still upset, but I appreciate that he admitted what he did and apologized for it. I should also mention that since then he has been very civil to me.

I don't have any list, so I'm not sure what that comment is about other than your own obvious dislike of me.