Whys it have to not be ok to ask if a woman likes you?

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06 Aug 2018, 3:07 am

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I would be freaked out if I learned that the guy I was dating was carrying a gun.

Maybe next time you should leave the gun at home.

You’d be more freaked out after being mugged or raped.
Bet you’d be fine with it say you dated a cop.



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06 Aug 2018, 3:08 am

It Would seem I’m better off just not dating



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06 Aug 2018, 3:13 am

sly279 wrote:
You’d be more freaked out after being mugged or raped.

Do you exclusively date people in woods or dark alleys?



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06 Aug 2018, 3:33 am

I guess a man who scares off any would-be mugger or rapist with his sheer brawn and streetwise countenance would be sexier than one who needs a gun.

I wonder how many women there are who carry pepper sprays or tasers, and who wouldn't want anything to do with a man who carried the same on a date. He'd have the double disadvantage of carrying weapons, so he'd be dangerous to her, and that those weapons probably wouldn't be considered very manly.


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06 Aug 2018, 3:43 am

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I guess a man who scares off any would-be mugger or rapist with his sheer brawn and streetwise countenance would be sexier than one who needs a gun.

I wonder how many women there are who carry pepper sprays or tasers, and who wouldn't want anything to do with a man who carried the same on a date. He'd have the double disadvantage of carrying weapons, so he'd be dangerous to her, and that those weapons probably wouldn't be considered very manly.

Probably not pepper sprays, but tasers are also used by the police and I have never seen them associated with effeminacy.



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06 Aug 2018, 6:45 am

I am glad she texted you.

So where to next then?



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06 Aug 2018, 7:31 am

sly279 wrote:
It Would seem I’m better off just not dating
Oh no! has something gone wrong?



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06 Aug 2018, 9:09 am

sly279 wrote:
It Would seem I’m better off just not dating

I'm afraid you are getting way too many opinions hurled at you. I know that would overwhelm me. I encourage you to continue dating . . . but maybe not putting so much of your experience on WrongPlanet.


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06 Aug 2018, 12:06 pm

I hope it's going well, Sly.



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06 Aug 2018, 6:12 pm

fluffysaurus wrote:
sly279 wrote:
It Would seem I’m better off just not dating
Oh no! has something gone wrong?

Seems I have to stop carrying and sell all my guns in order to get a relationship or date. That’s not something I’ll ever do.
If this lady wants to have a relationship she’ll just have to accept I own, shoot, like and carry firearms.

Did you get my pm?



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06 Aug 2018, 6:13 pm

BeaArthur wrote:
sly279 wrote:
It Would seem I’m better off just not dating

I'm afraid you are getting way too many opinions hurled at you. I know that would overwhelm me. I encourage you to continue dating . . . but maybe not putting so much of your experience on WrongPlanet.


The opinions all seem to be the same except one .

I dont know what to do on top of not knowing if she likes me :(



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06 Aug 2018, 6:18 pm

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Good on you for getting a text from her.

Totally aside from the issue of carrying or not, don't take her for a walk on a dark secluded path at night. Why? This kind of thing makes most women nervous, not saying she was afraid of YOU but it's just that we are hard wired to be uncomfortable in situations like that.

So stick to a public venue, well lighted and traveled, if you are walking at night together. You want her to feel comfortable and safe around you.


We’re going walk inside the mall but noticed the path by the river. It was dusk? Around sunset I guess. She could said no and it would been fine.
Path has spaced out lights and went along some restaurants and apartments etc



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06 Aug 2018, 6:53 pm

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Frankly brining a gun along to a date is disturbingly weird and scary , and it could be very much a dealbreaker.
Never heard of the date crimes in the news? A gun makes you very powerful, theortically you can take her life in a second; she still doesn’t know your character well.

How the hell you didn’t envision this would frighten the hell of her (if she finds out at least)? Sly, seriously, no one brings a gun to a date.

You don't know American culture that well. The right to have weapons is Constitutionally guaranteed. Whether it's allowed to be brought into government buildings or private businesses is up to local and federal laws or business owners, but there are actually more rules concerning the proper way to keep guns out than there are procuring them.

I don't personally own a handgun, but that's just a matter of money and priorities. In Mississippi, as an example, guns are relatively cheap and easy to buy. The way our state concealed-carry law is worded, the licensing agency "SHALL grant" a license to anyone who applies. Not "review and make a decision whether to grant" but "SHALL GRANT."

There's nothing wrong with well-intentioned people carrying weapons. Not even on dates. People with criminal and violent tendencies are going to harm others at will without regard to any regulatory law. The kind of person who is open about the fact he HAS a gun and exposes himself is not the kind of person looking for trouble. We like to keep our guns close. We do NOT like to use them. We're not out looking for trouble. It's just that trouble will find us. Someone in sly's situation really DOES need to keep a weapon handy because people like sly are especially vulnerable and very close to people looking to cause harm.


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06 Aug 2018, 7:43 pm

Seems like she likes you at least somewhat.

I don’t feel it’s creepy to walk with her around that promenade. If she doesn’t want to do it, then that’s another story.



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06 Aug 2018, 8:06 pm

sly279 wrote:
BeaArthur wrote:
Good on you for getting a text from her.

Totally aside from the issue of carrying or not, don't take her for a walk on a dark secluded path at night. Why? This kind of thing makes most women nervous, not saying she was afraid of YOU but it's just that we are hard wired to be uncomfortable in situations like that.

So stick to a public venue, well lighted and traveled, if you are walking at night together. You want her to feel comfortable and safe around you.


We’re going walk inside the mall but noticed the path by the river. It was dusk? Around sunset I guess. She could said no and it would been fine.
Path has spaced out lights and went along some restaurants and apartments etc


Sounds like a nice romantic place and time for a walk.



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06 Aug 2018, 9:28 pm

Peacesells wrote:
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People with criminal and violent tendencies are going to harm others at will without regard to any regulatory law. The kind of person who is open about the fact he HAS a gun and exposes himself is not the kind of person looking for trouble.

So even if everybody carries guns and is allowed to do so openly, people with bad intentions will not do it openly because they are evil, like in a bad thriller movie. I guess they'll probably get their guns illegally too because it's more evil, even if they could buy one at the grocery store in front of their house.

Also lol if she wanted him to take off his shirt. :lol:

Ummm...who said anything about evil?

My point is that people with bad intentions aren’t concerned with what the law says. People who plan on killing someone or has a history of violence, or people who have criminal records who aren’t allowed (legally) to buy guns will get weapons, even guns, if they really want weapons badly enough.

Concealed carry, on the other hand, is merely a recognition that individuals LEGALLY possess firearms. If someone is caught with a firearm who is NOT licensed, they get jail time (if you’re innocent of any crime, why would you NOT register? Gun advocates might answer that a different way, but it’s pointless when one has nothing to hide).

A gun owner with a permit, if confronted by police, simply has to keep his hands in sight, alert police that he has a permit, and ask the officer to take his gun if necessary. If you’ve committed no crime and aren’t acting suspiciously, most likely they’ll let you go. Reach for your gun while a gun is pointed at you, and it might well be the last thing you ever reach for.

I recently heard about a guy who shot an intruder. What he did was well within his rights. Sadly there was some confusion and he ended up killed by a police officer. There is nothing “wrong” or illegal about keeping a weapon handy. Just be careful out there. “He who lives by the sword dies by the sword.” There is only just so much faith you can place in a weapon.