04 Oct 2018, 1:46 pm
sly279 wrote:
Fuzzyair wrote:
sly279 wrote:
Fuzzyair wrote:
Fnord wrote:
sly279 wrote:
Fuzzyair wrote:
... I followed the advice you guys gave me.
What advice? The improve yourself despite you can’t advice?^ This.
I doubted it would work out, I'm scared everytime that I'll screw up but you know what? I'm tired of letting myself down and as this thread proves, listening to others advice does actually help
. I know I am a better person because of this.I don’t get why you won’t anws my questions but whatever I’m going assume it’s kist luck that and your probably better looking and less disabled.
I don’t fail cause of lack of trying. So I’m not Afraid to try I message lots of women. Society lets me down.
I don't think anyone is less disabled. My Autism is pretty bad, it goes through phases and at the moment I'm in a good place. Sometimes it's so bad I can't leave my house. I'm just a happy guy and don't list all my problems online, if I told you them then you'd see that I'm probably as bad as many others here.
I came here for help regarding dating not about my IBS, my OCD or other stuff like that.
What was your question buddy? Sorry this thread moves fast I must have missed it
.Edit I wouldn't say I'm good looking either haha
I'm an average looking guy, trust me on that 
I asked where and how your meeting them.
Only women I’ve dated were from dating sites and usually come in pairs but then it’s years before I meet more I’ve never met one Dated been ended then days later meet another.
Thanks for not being aggressive and mean to me like fnord
I know most of the people I knew in school, I stayed in touch and tried to see them as much as possibe because I suffer from being lonely on and off and didn't want to to get socially isolated or depressed.
Following the helpful advice here has also given me confidence so I took the bull by the horns and asked Charlene out. Why not? Life's too short to keep being shy and maybe missing out on the one. Sure I'm scared half to death when we talk and go out, but I think it's worth it. She said yes, we had a good time and then she wanted to go out again tonight...
. Speaking of which I'll have to go soon!I owe you all for your help and advice
. See you later.
04 Oct 2018, 4:10 pm
04 Oct 2018, 6:38 pm
04 Oct 2018, 8:52 pm
Fnord wrote:
The only "trouble" with my advice is that those who refuse to take it often end up failing on their own.
You are right but calm down. Fuzzyair at least got it.
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04 Oct 2018, 9:23 pm
quite an extreme wrote:
Fnord wrote:
The only "trouble" with my advice is that those who refuse to take it often end up failing on their own.
You are right but calm down. Fuzzyair at least got it.
Rdos can be ridiculously frustrating. Any time I think about trying to prove him wrong about something, I just remind myself I’m dealing with someone who believes in telepathy and that getting into a creeper staring contest with a girl across the room means you have a connection. If you do it right, you’ll never actually go out on a date with her because making eyes at her is even better.
So you can either be alone, or you can be alone and creepy.
05 Oct 2018, 12:18 am
I'm going out for a picnic this morning with Charlene and her daughter. I'm driving us to the countryside, nice and peaceful, not crowded... It should be a great day.
Thanks for all your help guys .
05 Oct 2018, 12:46 am
Fuzzyair wrote:
I'm going out for a picnic this morning with Charlene and her daughter. I'm driving us to the countryside, nice and peaceful, not crowded... It should be a great day.
Thanks for all your help guys .
Thanks for all your help guys
.This is a very big thread and I see your question has been answered but I wanted to ask. Does Charlene know about your Autism as well? Good idea with the picnic. Picnics are relaxing and usually had in the sort of places where you're going which are Autistic friendly. It beats eating in a busy cafe. Have a good time Fuzzyair.
05 Oct 2018, 12:52 am
quite an extreme wrote:
Fnord wrote:
The only "trouble" with my advice is that those who refuse to take it often end up failing on their own.
You are right but calm down. Fuzzyair at least got it.
Sounds like some kind of cult lol
Makes me feel even shitter
05 Oct 2018, 12:58 am
sly279 wrote:
quite an extreme wrote:
Fnord wrote:
The only "trouble" with my advice is that those who refuse to take it often end up failing on their own.
You are right but calm down. Fuzzyair at least got it.
Sounds like some kind of cult lol
Makes me feel even shitter
Gives *sly279* a hug
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05 Oct 2018, 1:15 am
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05 Oct 2018, 3:00 am
VictoriaGoose wrote:
sly279 wrote:
quite an extreme wrote:
Fnord wrote:
The only "trouble" with my advice is that those who refuse to take it often end up failing on their own.
You are right but calm down. Fuzzyair at least got it.
Sounds like some kind of cult lol
Makes me feel even shitter
Gives *sly279* a hug
Hugs back. I feel confused though. But thanks.
05 Oct 2018, 4:25 am
sly279 wrote:
At 30 plus a cure if it came that made us nt is too late. Prime years are gone. I’d be able to work full time but I’d end up homeless then. Wish I was born normal. I hope a cure can be found to save future generations of aspies. I don’t view autism as a good thing. I wouldn’t wish it on anyone.
You are normal - we're all normal, just a little different from everybody else. We see the world and act differently, on the outside we're all the same. I think others experience most of what we do, anxiety, depression, etc, but they handle and cope with it better than we do. You're a good person and I enjoy reading your posts, and you've helped out the OP here. Your Autism makes you who you are and I'm sure many here wouldn't change you for the world.
Be proud of who you are!
We should all be proud of who we are.
05 Oct 2018, 5:51 am
05 Oct 2018, 5:56 am
AngelRho wrote:
quite an extreme wrote:
Fnord wrote:
The only "trouble" with my advice is that those who refuse to take it often end up failing on their own.
You are right but calm down. Fuzzyair at least got it.
Rdos can be ridiculously frustrating. Any time I think about trying to prove him wrong about something, I just remind myself I’m dealing with someone who believes in telepathy and that getting into a creeper staring contest with a girl across the room means you have a connection. If you do it right, you’ll never actually go out on a date with her because making eyes at her is even better.
So you can either be alone, or you can be alone and creepy.
I don't care about being alone or creepy. The main objective in the relationship area should be to maximize happiness. Anything that can do that should be the best method, regardless if people view it as creepy or not and regardless if it fits with popular ideas or not.
05 Oct 2018, 7:13 am
rdos wrote:
Fnord wrote:
rdos wrote:
I think the main problem with Fnords "advice" is that he thinks that becoming NT will solve all your problems.
The is a blatant LIE!I do NOT think that becoming NT will solve all your problems, and I have NEVER told anyone to become an NT.
The only "trouble" with my advice is that those who refuse to take it often end up failing on their own.
You try to make it look like people don't need to change and become NT, but everything you post here tells a different story. All your advice basically is about becoming NT. We are supposed to be extrovert, well-groomed, work on our physical attributes, our social skills and accept dating as the method of meeting a partner.
IMO I don't think that's quite the case , everyone on the spectrum has different abilities and people higher functioning have no idea what's it like to be less functioning. Fnord comes across as a love guru and and an all seeing sage, he does have age and experience on his side but that means s**t if you don't have the same functioning level ( what works for one might not work for another ). Of course it is only Fnords opinion ( always good to have lots of opinions ) but he does think it's his way or the highway. I find it hilarious when he tells people not to listen to others as that's a problem but insists you follow his advice
I'm pretty sure this is an ASD thing about not being able to put yourself in other people shoes but he claims he's read and said it all ( problems here ) , so maybe it's really annoying for him seeing the same post again and again because if they follow his advice there would be no problem 
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