Possible ways to help many autistic people find love?

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Do you also believe that comforting someone is more important than correcting them?  While the former may make them feel better about themselves now, correcting their behavior will make them feel better about themselves later (and longer).

I was born with major physical & mental disabilities besides autism that majorly interfere with things like school learning & the physical work I can do. I very well knew that those things majorly limited me with relationships & I was doing my very best to find a job when I was single. When I was employed I was working 9 & a half hour days(not counting hour lunch breaks) 6 days a week whenever I was allowed overtime because I was trying to better myself. I was also a member of some offline support groups & seeing a psychiatrist regularly for 5 years & I tried some counseling as well. I got very frustrated that my effort was NOT paying off but I honestly did not know how I could do any better. When I was unemployed & single, I was working with voc-rehab & putting in apps for most any job I thought I could get to that I might could do. My voc-rehab councilor was useless & just kept telling me that I needed to keep asserting myself which I already was doing. I called the employers after I submitted my apps & asked them to check on my apps & was told how they get hundreds of apps & don't have time to go through em all. I also went to job fairs the couple times a year my area had one. I'm from the deep south where any individual needing any kinda government assistance is automatically considered to be a lazy leech sucking on the teats of the hard-working American taxpayer. I wanted & knew I could potentially do better but I was VERY PAINFULLY AWARE that I was just running in place. I posted about things a lot sometimes on here & on non-autism sites like about my loneliness & frustration with being single & I was constantly getting told how I needed to do better & improve my living & financial situation which I already was trying to do but nobody had a roadmap on HOW I could accomplish that. Getting told that BS when I was already trying my best really rubbed me the wrong way. I was VERY willing to be with a woman who was in a bad situation like I was & I sought them out but they were going for guys who were independent even thou they were not. Or they were going for guys who were bad people. I think it is understandable that I got frustrated & when I complained about that I was accused of being a misogynist when in reality I am a male feminist. I'm pro-choice, I strongly support birth control access & other feminine health care, I support feminine hygiene products being non-taxable, I support the Violence Against Women Act, I support pay equality, I support free child-care, I support the Family & Medical Leave Act, I support laws against revenge porn(I forget what they are called), & when I was working & had some extra money I contributed to Emily's List. That stuff was off the top of my head just now. Yet I was still accused of being a misogynist If anything I am a Misanthrope not a Misogynist. It is impossible to appease some people. I would of been much more willing to consider advice if it would of been actual advice & support from somebody who I knew was really trying to understand my situation & be more supportive. Advice about this kinda stuff is NOT a one size fits all thing. What works for some will NOT work for all.

This is awesome, lol. It certainly captures me very accurately. I actually set up a meeting with a girl and we planned to do wc stall stuff but she ghosted me bc im too crazy and she thought I wouldn't do what I said and I didn't want to get in her car alone to go to the beach because I don't know her.
I think I would actually prefer the tight spaces between buildings and abandoned buildings, though. I don't actually meow either, I'm a T-Rex, or a hound on best days.


But yes, my tummy is open for every fish in the sea. Mmm, I'm hungry...

This time, apparently, I am the one missing out a lot

- Fnord: Hits the "Report" button and selects a reason at random.
- A random moderator: About your report, Fnord...

We're just trying to improve transparency of moderation process.

IMO it's good to do both. One should try to avoid being arrogant and condescending when "correcting" someone.

Lack of what you call "arrogance" (and what I call "self-assurance") makes anyone's statements seem wishy-washy.

This is priceless Boo!! ! I'm rolling on the floor

- rdos: All these are NT preferences, they don’t matter, you can make a ND to fall in love with you by admiring her via telepathy without the need to speak one word over a year.
Fnord: And HOW exactly that is supposed to work?
hurtloam: Oh no, here we ago again.
cyberdad: this is not what I did to get my wife’s attention.
Rexi: [random sexy cutie anime pic]
jamesey: I still don’t know why women like roid mushers.

I am a wolf in bed

You sure are getting some smileage out of this one, Boo!

From me, too!

The story about the 500-pound man and the average-weight woman is absolutely true.

Another thing: the guy had an effeminate voice.

- Kraftie to rdos: Back in the 70s, I did once long eye contact with a lovely lady in the subway, she dragged me to the abandoned dark tunnel and we had sex wildly!
- Rexi: Let’s be wolves then and let’s make strong wolf puppies like you! Woof! Woof!
- Boo: Please get a room you two.
- hurtloam: .... (browsing silently and awkwardly)
- Pepe: What about skunks?
- Boo: Pepe is supposed to be into cats, not wolves.
- Pepe: You are just a jealous blobfish

You're jealatinous

That’s so Pepe like, nailed it!