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23 Aug 2020, 2:38 am

cyberdad wrote:
Looks like I'm Alex's defender today :?:

That's not what Alex said! he said that passing a parchment of paper with writing on is not the best approach, I agree 100% that talking to a girl is much healthier for both the OP and the girl.


I can not see how I miss interpreted his words. I have re-read his comment and my response, and I cannot find where I misunderstood since I used his words.



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23 Aug 2020, 2:42 am

Sweetleaf wrote:
cyberdad wrote:
Looks like I'm Alex's defender today :?:

That's not what Alex said! he said that passing a parchment of paper with writing on is not the best approach, I agree 100% that talking to a girl is much healthier for both the OP and the girl.


well passing it silently could be weird, but if he was to say something like 'hey do you want to maybe meet up sometime, here's my number. Or just something to indicate he'd like to maybe see her more with passing the number that I don't think should be too problematic...so long as he accepts if she turns it down.


Nope! passing a girl a phone number without permission is weird



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23 Aug 2020, 2:44 am

AuroraBorealisGazer wrote:
cyberdad wrote:
Looks like I'm Alex's defender today :?:

That's not what Alex said! he said that passing a parchment of paper with writing on is not the best approach, I agree 100% that talking to a girl is much healthier for both the OP and the girl.


I can not see how I miss interpreted his words. I have re-read his comment and my response, and I cannot find where I misunderstood since I used his words.


Did you delete your post?



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23 Aug 2020, 2:45 am

The guy did nothing wrong. He liked a girl, wanted a date with her. He did nothing creepy.

He passed a note—so what?

The girl had a boyfriend. Nothing he could do about that.

This should be the end of it.

There’s other fish in the sea.

GUYS HAVE DONE THIS SINCE THEY COULD WRITE NUMBERS.



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23 Aug 2020, 2:46 am

cyberdad wrote:
Did you delete your post?


No she did not.



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23 Aug 2020, 2:49 am

It would appear that my post was deleted by someone other than myself.

Can someone please tell me if what I said was disrespectful in anyway?



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23 Aug 2020, 2:50 am

AuroraBorealisGazer wrote:
It would appear that my post was deleted by someone other than myself.

Can someone please tell me if what I said was disrespectful in anyway?


Actually I can't remember now? weird



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23 Aug 2020, 2:51 am

cyberdad wrote:
AuroraBorealisGazer wrote:
It would appear that my post was deleted by someone other than myself.

Can someone please tell me if what I said was disrespectful in anyway?


Actually I can't remember now? weird


It's back now. Strange.



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23 Aug 2020, 2:51 am

kraftiekortie wrote:
The guy did nothing wrong. He liked a girl, wanted a date with her. He did nothing creepy.

He passed a note—so what?

The girl had a boyfriend. Nothing he could do about that.

This should be the end of it.

There’s other fish in the sea.

GUYS HAVE DONE THIS SINCE THEY COULD WRITE NUMBERS.


Yeah but here's what I would do
1. talk to girl
2. ask her out
3. wait to hear her response
4, pass her my number if she says ok



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23 Aug 2020, 3:00 am

That’s what you would do. He did something slightly different.

Now....if he continued to try to talk to her or pass more notes, then there would be a problem.



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23 Aug 2020, 3:09 am

kraftiekortie wrote:
That’s what you would do. He did something slightly different.

Now....if he continued to try to talk to her or pass more notes, then there would be a problem.


He's on another thread so I asked him what happened



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23 Aug 2020, 4:15 am

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Welp, I chose tonight to go see what happened after I gave her the note.

She did see the note, and she has a boyfriend.

Even if she didn't have a boyfriend, giving a note is definitely not the way to go. You gotta be direct and just ask someone out. This isn't high school


If she didn’t have a boyfriend, she would have invented one.



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23 Aug 2020, 4:17 am

Some women aren’t like that. I know that for a fact.



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23 Aug 2020, 4:24 am

cyberdad wrote:
Sweetleaf wrote:
cyberdad wrote:
Looks like I'm Alex's defender today :?:

That's not what Alex said! he said that passing a parchment of paper with writing on is not the best approach, I agree 100% that talking to a girl is much healthier for both the OP and the girl.


well passing it silently could be weird, but if he was to say something like 'hey do you want to maybe meet up sometime, here's my number. Or just something to indicate he'd like to maybe see her more with passing the number that I don't think should be too problematic...so long as he accepts if she turns it down.


Nope! passing a girl a phone number without permission is weird


Well my sister thought it was super cute...when the guy gave her his number, he had been in more than once and seen her more than once so she had had a little dialogue with him before. But yeah its just a number...I don't think initially giving a number like that is bad. In my view what would be bad is if the girl turns it down and then the guy starts like stalking her or something. But giving a number to a person you have interacted with a few times who your interested in itself does not seem inappropriate.


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23 Aug 2020, 4:25 am

cyberdad wrote:
kraftiekortie wrote:
That’s what you would do. He did something slightly different.

Now....if he continued to try to talk to her or pass more notes, then there would be a problem.


He's on another thread so I asked him what happened


You should have asked him here...because that other thread is not about this topic.


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23 Aug 2020, 4:38 am

CubsBullsBears wrote:
Welp, I chose tonight to go see what happened after I gave her the note.

She did see the note, and she has a boyfriend.


So you weren't rejected. :thumright:

As I said earlier, the chances were slim that an attractive young woman didn't have a boyfriend/partner.