My gf seems to be bothered that I am 'white and privileged'.

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19 Feb 2022, 4:54 pm

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It's amazing this discussion has gone on for so long. The whole idea of White Privilege is so triggering to many people, which is one reason Trump remains so popular.

You should find a TV producer and propose a reality show starring yourselves.

White privilege is a false narrative. I’m not buying it.

I actually was on a reality show some years back. There’s nothing real about it!



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19 Feb 2022, 5:51 pm

I don’t deny the existence of “white privilege.”

I deny that it applies to all white people.

It bothers me because it is assumed that I am a certain way because I am white—that I, as a white person, bear some sort of responsibility for the terrible things that happened to non-white people throughout history.

Most Jews have moved on from the Holocaust. We have to move on from history.

Yet, we have to seek to prevent things like the Holocaust, the slave trade, the Native American Genocide, etc., from occurring in the future. And we have to be adamant, and absolute, that we acknowledge the monstrosities which have occurred throughput history.

I wish Donald Trump would fall off the face of the Earth.



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19 Feb 2022, 5:52 pm

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White privilege is a false narrative. I’m not buying it.

Fine. I'm not buying what Mr. Trump has to sell.


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19 Feb 2022, 6:23 pm

AngelRho wrote:
My mistake. CRT is not exclusively related to African Americans, but holds pretty much that white people are the scum of the earth.
Where did they say that? Have you studied CRT?
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Not just goals, but in their means of achieving them. If we accept the premise that all whites are racist...
Who's premise? Is this a premise of CRT? Where did they say that's their premise?
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White privilege is a false narrative. I’m not buying it.
This whole CRT hates white people thing is a false narrative funded by the Koch brothers. Sorry Rho but you've been had.


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19 Feb 2022, 7:13 pm

Well if my girlfriend has a problem with me being white and male, why did she even pick me then do you think?



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19 Feb 2022, 8:07 pm

ironpony wrote:
Well if my girlfriend has a problem with me being white and male, why did she even pick me then do you think?


Since you and your g/f are both autistic then that may give you a hint one reason she is drawn to you. It also may be the source of the issue. Both of you seem hyper-focused (as sweetleaf correctly pointed out) on this which is probably not healthy.

What exactly are your plans ironpony? do you see the two of you staying together for a long time? is there enough in the relationship physically/mentally for the both of you to stay together? If the answer is yes then both of you (not just you) need to put some effort in compromising on your beliefs. In marriage or in a long-term defacto relationship it's quite possible for two people to have diagonally opposing views on some issues but it requires work to be tolerant of one another's beliefs/attitudes.

If on the other hand this is an intractible issue that the two of you can't agree on then it might be a portent of things to come.

The third option is if you really like her enough and she's not willing to budge then you could just suppress your own beliefs/attitudes in order to keep her happy. Tell her you are sorry and you will work on it because you only want to keep her happy. But this is entirely up to you. She does sound like a nice girl and to be honest a 1 in a 1000 type.



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19 Feb 2022, 11:03 pm

Oh well she is hyperfocused for sure, not that this is an insult, I kind of like that about her on a lot of things, and I think it's cute.

I can see us being in a long term relationship so far. I like everything else about her, it's just she is really touchy about these issues, and I hope she can agree to disagree. I can compromise to an extent, but I don't think I can change my opinions and believes fully. So as long as she can agree to disagree to an extent.



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20 Feb 2022, 12:07 am

ironpony wrote:
I can see us being in a long term relationship so far. I like everything else about her, it's just she is really touchy about these issues, and I hope she can agree to disagree. I can compromise to an extent, but I don't think I can change my opinions and believes fully. So as long as she can agree to disagree to an extent.
If you think she's touchy now, just wait 'til the next election! 8O How are you two doing to handle THAT? There are many things that could drive a wedge into your relationship and become a source of misery for you. The Wuhan Virus Lab could make another new virus, courtesy of George Soros and Anthony Fauci. And your girlfriend will start worshipping that virus like the Sadducees worshipped Jesus in 30 A.D. A staunch conservative could run for prime minister. And your girlfriend might make your life an endless, soul-killing hell if you vote for him, if her emotions say it's OK to do it to you.

When it comes to your patience with the women in your life, you're an angel compared to me! I adopted a rule where I permanently kick people out of my life the minute they disagree with my politics. In 2020 alone, I eliminated 6 friends for their liberal Covid-worshipping beliefs. And mind you, I used to vote Democrat! 8O

Keep her as a friend if you wish, but don't stay in a relationship with that woman. Find someone conservative instead.



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20 Feb 2022, 12:10 am

Oh but why would she worship the covid virus? Also, we are Canadian so would the 2024 American election hit her that much? As for conservative women, well in my experience they are too I guess you could say 'girly-girl-ish, or too 'ladylike', where as I one thing I really like about my gf is how she is not too feminine if that makes sense?

I mean I don't have to have someone who is too liberal either perhaps, but maybe neither democrat or conservative, rather than conservative? And this is just my experience but usually the more conservative a woman is, the more she is not as good in bed, but maybe that's TMI. Just trying to say why I am not as attracted to conservative.



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20 Feb 2022, 12:15 am

(I edited my post after I remembered you weren't American. ;))

Maybe the 2024 US presidential election won't affect you, even if Big Bad Orange Man wins. But the next Canadian prime minister election certainly will. Your girlfriend will retaliate against you very hard if you vote for a conservative/right-wing candidate. As for worshipping the Covid virus, it's a Democrat/liberal thing; they all worship it. It's basically a religion for them.

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And this is just my experience but usually the more conservative a woman is, the more she is not as good in bed, but maybe that's TMI. Just trying to say why I am not as attracted to conservative.
I don't think the stereotype is accurate. When I went to a QAnon party for the first time in May 2020---which is as conservative as it gets!---I nade out with a woman I met there. Her French-kissing skills were out of this world! That, and the way she touched me (with clothes on) in the process. It was like a time-war back to high school, only as a football quarterback, rather than an ugly loser like myself. (Then again, perhaps she was just lonely from 2 months of social isolation, and took it out on me. ;))



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20 Feb 2022, 12:22 am

Oh okay. Well I guess as for the Canadian election I will have to cross that bridge when I come to it. I am not sure who she would vote for depending on who the other candidates are. When you say they worship the virus, do you mean they love how the virus is spreading around or hate it?



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20 Feb 2022, 12:25 am

Aspie1 wrote:
(I edited my post after I remembered you weren't American. ;))

Maybe the 2024 US presidential election won't affect you, even if Big Bad Orange Man wins. But the next Canadian prime minister election certainly will. Your girlfriend will retaliate against you very hard if you vote for a conservative/right-wing candidate. As for worshipping the Covid virus, it's a Democrat/liberal thing; they all worship it. It's basically a religion for them.

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And this is just my experience but usually the more conservative a woman is, the more she is not as good in bed, but maybe that's TMI. Just trying to say why I am not as attracted to conservative.
I don't think the stereotype is accurate. When I went to a QAnon party for the first time in May 2020---which is as conservative as it gets!---I nade out with a woman I met there. Her French-kissing skills were out of this world! That, and the way she touched me (with clothes on) in the process. It was like a time-war back to high school, only as a football quarterback, rather than an ugly loser like myself. (Then again, perhaps she was just lonely from 2 months of social isolation, and took it out on me. ;))


Oh okay. Maybe I am generalizing, but conservative has it's flaws too, but maybe in the middle or someone who subscribes to neither side would be better?



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20 Feb 2022, 12:27 am

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When you say they worship the virus, do you mean they love how the virus is spreading around or hate it?
It means they treat the virus like a god, and fervently obey all "mitigation" rules: staying home 24/7 even when perfectly healthy, wearing a mask even when driving alone with windows up, refusing to come within 10 feet (3 meters) of another person, trashing anyone who disagrees with her (cf. heresy in the Middle Ages), and treating Anthony Fauci as Covid's divine prophet.



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20 Feb 2022, 12:29 am

Oh well I'm not sure how she feels about Fauci but she has been hanging out with me a lot, so I guess that's a good sign rather than refusing to because of the virus?



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20 Feb 2022, 12:42 am

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Oh well I'm not sure how she feels about Fauci but she has been hanging out with me a lot, so I guess that's a good sign rather than refusing to because of the virus?
I don't know her, so it's hard to say. Plus, Fauci is American; in which case, he might be irrelevant in Canada altogether. But it still doesn't mean she won't blindly do everything the Canadian "epidemiologists" :roll::roll: say.

As Mikhail Gorbachev once said, "trust, but verify". (This is often erroneously attributed to Ronald Reagan.) That is, take your girlfriend's word at face value, but don't take it as gospel. Find out where she heard them and from who, and search her words on DuckDuckGo. Not Google! The liberal media pretty much owns it now, thanks to George Soros's money..



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20 Feb 2022, 12:53 am

ironpony wrote:
I like everything else about her, it's just she is really touchy about these issues, and I hope she can agree to disagree. I can compromise to an extent, but I don't think I can change my opinions and believes fully. So as long as she can agree to disagree to an extent.


Just out curiosity is she close to her native heritage? or is she more an 'Elizabeth Warren" type in that she is 1/100 or 1/1000 indigenous and has kind of adopted the identity?