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03 Jun 2008, 5:09 pm

LePetitPrince wrote:

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Finding a female Aspie in or around Austin or San Antonio who wants to start a family, and has the same interests and beliefs as me is nearly impossible.

yea because they are extremly few in number, what I was talking about in this whole thread again? :roll:

Why not try to find a girl with similar interests regardless of her inborn brain ? It won't be bad, at least you would decrease so much the risk of having a classic autistic kid,no?

Why the hell she must be a f***ing aspie??

you are starting pissing me with your discriminative attitude!

It's because I dated an NT for a year, and she cheated on me.

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03 Jun 2008, 5:10 pm

^^ and an aspie girl might cheat on you like a b***h too :lol:

Such risk always exists

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03 Jun 2008, 5:11 pm

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^^ and an aspie girl might cheat on you like a b***h too :lol:

I was in a relationship with an Aspie as well, and she didn't cheat on me.

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03 Jun 2008, 5:14 pm

^^ so it's like say 'I was in a relationship with a blonde and she didn't cheat on me so all blondes don't cheat' :lol:
hmmm

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03 Jun 2008, 7:26 pm

I do think aspies are more likely to be faithful, but asperger's certainly isn't a magic bullet for fidelity.

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03 Jun 2008, 7:29 pm

Tim_Tex wrote:

For example, what if I eventually want to start a family, but she doesn't?

Find that out to start with, and don't go any further if she doesn't.

Tim_Tex wrote:

If there are fetishes involved, what if they don't get fulfilled?

Find that out relatively early on, and don't go any further if you're not compatible.

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How will I know if she's "the one"?

Well, from my current experience: being together will seem like the only reasonable alternative. The thought of being apart will seem ridiculous.

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What if she is wanting to save herself until marriage, but I can't hold in my urges?

If she's the one, then marry her!

If not, then since you want to start a family, you should next her anyway.

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03 Jun 2008, 7:34 pm

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pretending to be something you're not actually can work, if you're any good at it. The problem is, it wont create a long lasting and stable relationship.

The difference between an attractive man and an unattractive man is rarely just looks. I get overlooked for less attractive men all the time, and more importantly, equally attractive men. The difference between us was that they knew how to act in the company of others to make women want them.

And this isn't just self-help advice. I've tested it. It wasn't difficult, given my photographic memory and mimicry talent, to spend a week or two observing the behavior of "attractive" men, and then duplicate it and refine it in the presence of others. It was a resounding success. By acting like those people I loathe, women are finally paying attention to me. As a result of this revelation, I have decided I do not wish to date anymore. I'll be staying single for as long as it takes for me to naturally meet a woman who is actually compatible with me. I'd rather die single than participate in this farce.

Don't expect a compatible woman to fall into your lap. It could happen tomorrow, in ten years, or never.

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03 Jun 2008, 7:46 pm

juliekitty wrote:

I do think aspies are more likely to be faithful, but asperger's certainly isn't a magic bullet for fidelity.

The fact that we're less concerned with socioeconomic status is another reason I levitate toward other Aspies.

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03 Jun 2008, 10:06 pm

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Nobody will tolerate an unemployed (even if it's because of school) 28-year-old liberal in Texas.

That's why nobody wants to date me.

Tell them you are a conservative: You support the death penalty for former Gov. Bush (infamous for his death penalty zealotry).

Bush was a way better governor than president. Our current governor, Rick Perry, is a total idiot.

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04 Jun 2008, 1:17 am

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04 Jun 2008, 4:33 am

Tim_Tex wrote:

LePetitPrince wrote:

Tim_Tex wrote:

Finding a female Aspie in or around Austin or San Antonio who wants to start a family, and has the same interests and beliefs as me is nearly impossible.

yea because they are extremly few in number, what I was talking about in this whole thread again? :roll:

you are starting pissing me with your discriminative attitude!

It's because I dated an NT for a year, and she cheated on me.

So, that was ONE person! I'm sure there are others who would be decent and not cheat on you.

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04 Jun 2008, 9:24 am

Hey ... from a chicks perspective.

You are a nice looking guy. Weight is irrelevant, Height is Irrelevant.

Unfortunately, NT's are uhm...... or can be ..........cruel. I have never been alone for as long as I can remember. However it doesn't mean I was HAPPY at all. I am Dx'd AS 10 years ago, but in denial for the past 10 years. I have been married 3x's & Divorce X2 all NT's :oops: . My current DH (dear husband) is able to do one this neither of the others was able to... And that is ACCEPT ME THE WAY I AM (period) We refer to my fatal honesty as "not having a filter" . If I say something out owhack he just rolls with it. I don't need to conform, I don't need to assimilate. I don't need to blend. I am just me. AND HE LOVES ME BECAUSE OF IT.

I have AS but even though he is NT he realizes he is far from PERFECT. We are perfect for each other because we realize no matter what we accept and love each other not in spite of our flaws but because of them.

The thing is you gotta get out there. And do the one thing we loathe. MEET NEW PEOPLE. lots of them. Date them. Look at them. talk to them.

JMHO

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04 Jun 2008, 12:44 pm

I still feel that Aspies are my only option. Even then, there is only one that I am truly interested in. But she doesn't want to be in a relationship with anyone for several years.

And I haven't heard from her in over a month.

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04 Jun 2008, 7:55 pm

Tim_Tex wrote:

I still feel that Aspies are my only option. Even then, there is only one that I am truly interested in. But she doesn't want to be in a relationship with anyone for several years.

Do you think she means that or just wants to gently give you the brush off?

You could tell her you're happy not to have a relationship but just like spending time with her. Of you could say you don't want a relationship either, that uncommitted sex will do fine - lol

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04 Jun 2008, 7:59 pm

I don't know.

All I know is that my geographical location and less than perfect personality has doomed it so far.

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05 Jun 2008, 9:51 am

Tim_Tex wrote:

I still feel that Aspies are my only option.

How about an NT with traits? That's what I've got, and it works great.

Tim_Tex wrote:

Even then, there is only one that I am truly interested in. But she doesn't want to be in a relationship with anyone for several years.

And I haven't heard from her in over a month.

She ain't that interested in you, then. Sorry.

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