Has anyone never had a GF/BF before?

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Never had one...
who cares?I don't

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I don't want to end up like my mom
who gOt preGnant at the aGe of 19
and had an irresponsible x-husband
and now...
her daUghter is suffering froM
Loneliness
I don't want my kids to experience
The same thing
It's very hard

The hormones that were supposed to go off at puberty never did for me. I'm about as single as it gets. I don't experience "attraction" to people based on looks, though there are some features (e.g cigarette smoking, overweight) that would turn me off completely.

I've been told that some people are attracted to me, but I'm usually unaware of it (or maybe the people telling me are lying). If I did get a girlfriend, I would like one who accepted me (and my quirks) for who I am

I feel that I do need to get one someday as loneliness is not healthy.

I was in two weird relationships with married men when I was underage, but no legitimate non f-ed up anything for me yet. I've never had sex- I said no the first time, but with the second guy he wouldn't have sex with me even though I begged him to. My first kiss was forced on me. I've never been out on a date, or in a real relationship. I feel very lonely.

Never had a 'real' girlfriend - now 24

Does it bother me? Not at all - do I want a girlfriend? Simple answer is Yes!! Will it happen? Who knows

I have had several sexual partners and kissed many girls - but tbh i regretted most of them since I was drunk at the time!! !

I don't drink anymore as a result of depression and suspected aspergers Its not a good thing for me i know that!!

I joined a dating site earlier in the year and have been out on a few dates but it has led to nothing - TBH i think another Aspie would be ideal!! !!

jesus....


i just stumbled upon this forum tonight. i was diagnosed with asperger's about 3 weeks ago. i'm 30 years old, never been in a relationship, matter of fact i only lost my virginity about 6 months ago to a guy who turned out to be the biggest piece of s**t on the planet. i'm sure i did my part to drive him away, back then i had no idea what my issue was... but i guess it's for the best cuz he ended up being some arrogant dick, and that's not what i need.

other than that, i've fooled around here and there with a couple of guys. there was only one guy who i really connected with on that level, and he sure knows how to talk a good game but that's all he does for the most part is talk. sigh. oh well, i could never have a relationship with him anyways for several reasons

i don't even really care about the sex right now, my sex drive flew out the window a while back and i have no idea where it's gone but that's fine with me i just get really lonely sometimes. at my age if you don't have a partner then you're screwed because all your friends are shacked up with other people and it's either you have an SO to hang out with or you spend most of your time alone (like me).

I haven't... And I'll be 31 next week.
I wonder if I should feel bad about this. But at least I recently had what can be counted as dates.
I am quite shy and it doesn't help that I never got interested in sex until I was 20.

Also I would like to have a boyfriend, but I am very... guarded about my territory. I don't know how I'm supposed to have kids when I'm like that so I'll have to do something about that.

20 year old who's never had a girlfriend, been kissed, been on a date, the whole 9 yards.

Admittedly I've taken taken a swing due to apathy but you get where I'm coming from.

Never had a girlfriend before. I would have one if I was neuro-typical.

Only once and it didn't last long enough to be over a year.

I'm preparing to be alone for the rest of my life. I don't seem to do well even in prospective relationships.

- inserts general Aspie answer to the question asked in the title-

Nay for me to all of the above at 19. I suppose if I tried a littler harder I could have in the past. It just seems like it'd be so time consuming, and they're so many damn variables. Plus there's that whole awkward getting to know you bit, given my non existent social life at the moment there's almost nothing to say that doesn't seem like boring jargon to the average female my age.

I had one ... and it was a very strange kind of relationship.
Me - an aspie, together with a schizophrenic boy. The relationship lasted around 9~12 months. I had to visit him at weekends in some kind of psychiatry.

But I never "really" fell in love - the only exception is my imaginary boyfriend. He's just perfect. I'm not kidding - this is the best relationship ever. *sigh*

I was stupid enough to think so when i was 5, a girl who was the child of some friend of my moms'. One time she used to beg me to share her milkshake, but i refused. I was just too young to have to have one anyway, i have wanted one since i was 13-14, the ones i asked out found me charming, but i was, too self-centered around MY interests and MY life, i tried buying them candy, but..

I had a silly "boyfriend" relationship with a friend of mine in high school. We never went on dates, never kissed, and we only ever held hands sometimes when other friends were around and expecting us to. He recently said that he's gay on Facebook and it all makes sense, but it doesn't really make me feel better.

I don't know what it feels like to be completely loved by anyone outside of my family. And everyone in my family acts like there's something wrong with me because I'm still single and a virgin. *sigh* It's not easy!

Careful throwing the "single" and "female" words when describing yourself as it may cause an irrevocable curiosity in the single males toward you. Especially in the Love n Dating forum. (Fair warning)