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i have friends online whom i've never met who live on the other side of the world and there's almost no chance of us meeting, it's not too much of a problem but it sure is lonely.

i can't even begin to think of the trouble it would be to fly to another country and i might suffer cardiac arrest from the anxiety so if there was a choice to become romantically connected to someone outside the country or stay alone i'd prefer the latter.

i met someone years ago who i think i fell in love with, she lives (or lived) in japan but we spoke almost every night but it just didn't wor out. i couldn't fly to the other side of the world and neither could she.

i think it would work having sub-groups of countries, i can get along with almost any female but i can only meet those who are near enough to travel to.

Name: Danny (or Ryder)
Location: Lakewood Washington United States
Age:22
Appearance: about 5'8 semi long black/brown hair, green eyes, slender about 160 lbs
Likes: Music i love anything and everything about music, i like to read, play my guitar, play video games (I play WoW)
Dislikes: Negative people, arrogant people

About me: Im in the military although i dont plan on making a career out of it 3 years down 3 more to go! Im a quiet reserved person for the most part, unless im around people i trust, Ive had enough relationships in my short 22 years of existence to know what i want in a woman, im not looking for one night stands anymore, i dont like going to bars or clubs anymore. Im looking for a woman that knows what she wants in life, and isnt about to let anyone stop her from achieving her goals. Im a hopeless romantic, i do believe in true love, and im still looking for that one woman that i can share my life with and grow old together. I believe that love is the greatest feeling in the world, and i want to share this feeling with someone that isnt afraid of falling in that grand canyon that we call love.

Pretty much in the same boat as me, then? I'd PM you, but I figured it would be more polite to invite you to PM me. Besides I don't have a clue what to say.

((((hugs))))

~Loving Light~

For those who love travelling (including me), sure. But I met many people for whom a train ride of 2 hours is considered "far away".

Also, I do think for love other standards apply than for friendship. I can talk to a woman in Japan, South Africa or Australia daily if I want and we could be very good penfriends, even maybe have the odd visit. But if you are really in love, you want to see your lover frequently and not just once every half year. The flight to Japan may be affordable once in a 5 months or so, but do I want a girlfriend whom I can see just once every 5 months? It would definitely be not affordable to do it every two weeks, which most people prefer because they want to do all things together than lovers do (going out together, spending intimate moments together, going to an event together, etc - not just calling or emailing daily)

Also, unfortunately your low budget flights are not that easy whenever you leave Europe. Within Europe we indeed get connected to the rest of the continent very cheaply (but having emigrated multiple times and having to book last minute tickets for job interviews in the country I wanted to move to, I experienced those low budgets are often an illusion unless you plan the trip long in advance - a surprise visit to my girlfriend in for example Portugal would still be very expensive) but I seriously wonder how to visit someone in Australia or Brazil for less than half a month's salary. Hotel excluded, because during the early stages of dating you may prefer to not immediately let each other stay overnight ...

Last but not least, some people here (excluding me) are students on a low budget and cannot afford even those low budget flights, or simply find it too time consuming.



I don't mind to travel to some far away place, but many people do. Hence a split of this topic would be easy. Splitting per education would be a lot harder than splitting geographically because where are you going to divide (university level together, secondary school together, etc ??) + it indicates that one would find the level of education of core importance in his/her search for a lover. I think many people have other criteria than the specific degree of someone, educational field may be more important but this often collides with general interests.

A split of this topic is needed, I don't want to read through 200 pages to maybe find 1 or 2 single girls living in this part of the world (and then I am prepared to consider anyone in Eastern Europe, not just the country where I live). A first logical criteria to split this topic would be gender, then orientation, then if a further split is needed geography or age seem the most logical criteria to me.

But anyway, as none of the admins seems to read these posts, I guess it will stay jammed together in one hard-to-overview topic. Pity we cannot flag topics or posts so that admins can look into our proposals.

I live in Texas
28, 6-1, 250 pounds
I am a warehouse worker/student
Life support: Cycling, woodwork, and jewelry making
I like long trips anywhere anyhow with hardly any words between the participants, long pointless conversations that flow naturally from each other (I detest "deep" conversations with NT's), and losing track of time...
I've never been in anything serious, just little flings here and there most notably with girls that are either Bi-polar, Schizophrenic or total ADHD, and one that perceived former drug use as perfectly acceptable.
But whatever. Here I is.

i'm 18 and from eastern canada. suspected to have a high probability of AS. i really don't know... i can appear very nt at times. but it feels like i have social anxiety disorder. i fall into the INTP personality category. i enjoy quiet mental contemplation and reading the thesaurus for fun. my interests are reading(anything), movies (i have good taste..), writing, poetry, philosophy, mild interest in politics and the environment, personal research, guitar, photography, drinking, video games, body modification, and most of all, music. i guess you could say that i prefer to walk on the wild side... i enjoy a lot of different things (expect the unexpected..), the exception being anything to do with team sports, aversion to this becoming ingrained in my head at an early age. i like walking, it helps me work things through. the type of music i listen to ranges from tech metal to gangsta rap, my preference favoring the former. i bite my nails and i'm never going to stop. i don't plan to change the world. i just want to find love. i prefer solitude but i am lonely. i am unpredictable and mercurial. i have long dark brown hair, green eyes, petite but voluptuous figure. i don't see much of a problem with an age difference. as in, i could possibly date someone in their early 30's. i am very mature. i am not very picky, though i'd prefer it if you were in shape. into both guys and girls.




want to know more, pm me.

I still think, regional separation limits too.
It is a long way from getting to know each other, liking each other, building up a friendship to develloping a more intense interest.
When that point is reached, which is rather rare, then some may be willing to travel or even move, others not.
But a lot of people get married and are happy ever after they only met through the internet for a long time and live on different continents....
Liking each other for me is a basically intellectual act, has to do with character and life style etc.... not with seeing each other often and doing things together (anyway, I spend my time at the PC, couldn`t do that together...).
No problem, if some of you are different in that and do not like travelling - but that is not true for all of us!
So I still protest against dividing the list by regions or continents.
And yes, intelligence and education is a much stronger hint at compatibility or base for friendship than region!

That's how I think. But the one I was interested in (who only lived 100 miles away) wouldn't compromise and said I was too far away. She also said I didn't communicate well enough, when she herself suddenly went from being open and friendly and e-mailing me every day, to being secretive and standoffish and only e-mailing me once a month.

WHAT? That's practically nothing...
To me at least.

Exactly. It only takes two hours from where I am.

I am almost 37 years old AS woman.

I like dancing, painting, reading, thinking and flowers.
My life is quite a tragedy.

I am looking for a man who would like to be my friend.

What a cool looking place - where is this?

Where do you live? In Uk or outside