Help Tim Tex attract a partner

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The problem is over the last three years he has always talked about not finding a woman and his rigid criteria. Aspies have tried telling him over the years he isn't going to find a woman with his criteria and even my ex tried telling him, I tried. But I have given up now because I know he isn't going to listen.

So when you keep complaining about the same things over and over and then acting like you want to change but instead you slip back to your old self or you don't take anyone's advice, how can you expect them to believe Tim wants to change this time for real?

I am sure others have given up on him as well and it's the newbies that get suckered into this because they are not aware. They were not here in 2006 or in 2007 or in 2008.

do you think you might be misdiagnosed with ADD then?

I really dont think if he met a woman he liked that he would be bothered by any of those criterior, I dont think the women he tried dating met those. As far as I know he does not have a dating profile which excludes people not meeting those criterior. I think they are things he thinks about but in the flesh I bet he does not focus on those things but on whether he likes the woman and fancies her.

I'm just as exasperated by the infamous list as anyone. Plenty of posters advised him for years to drop it, didn't have much success so they moved on. Not being able to deal with Tim's attitude or harassing and attacking him is strictly the problem and failure of those engaging in such behaviour.



It makes the message inefficient as people are not inclined to accept advice from someone who insults them. Plus, such methods will raise questions about a person's character and motivations - opinions that came from such a strong personal bias will usually be dismissed.

i dont know about all these things about relationshps being work. i think if it is too much work than why bother. better to be on your own and comfortable. Im sure tim will find the woman of his dreams one day and he will be so smitten his list will fly out the window.

I'll be the first one to admit, my choice of words could be better, and my personal bias against Tim and Toad shows. But at the same time, I really am trying to offer them advice that is valid.

Someone brought up a good point that you can't change a man into someone he isn't. My problem with Tim in regards to dating is that he has rigid criteria, then expects people to accept him without making any kind of realistic changes in his life or compromise whatsoever.

Michelle brought up a good point - it's the effort, not putting on a show.

Lotusblossom - I'm not going to make this thread about myself, but if you want to know more, feel free to private message me. I am getting re-evaluated by an Asperger specialist to see if I was misdiagnosed.

You're the one doing all the whining. And I tweaked the criteria, and mentioned them only once in this thread.

And for the record, even though I am a Republican, I don't mind dating someone who happens to be liberal. I am mainly a fiscal conservative, but not a social conservative. I have been known for going au naturel at home.

This thread wouldn't have been made (and it wasn't made by me) if you hadn't made countless posts in the past, even before I was a member of the site, about how you can't get a girlfriend.

And the nudist thing...too much information.

This is fourth grade, not something you would expect from a mature 26 year old. You are silly to continue to let this bother you. Your argument doesn't stack up on account of him not being the only person that continually whines about not having a girlfriend. Not every one get a thread dedicated to them. What gets to people is his persistence and single mindedness, but even that can be turned into an advantage. Many successful people have those traits; they are just applied in a more constructive manner.

You may see yourself as an agony aunt, but what you are saying isn't all that profound. You tend generalise, so you can't claim to be a great deal less simplistic than Tim.

Those still bothered by Tim try and get over it and see the funny side. Everyone has preferences, the fact that they are limiting is par for the course.

"Doing it for attention", is rather old hat pop psychology. Humans are attention seekers to a lesser or great extent. It is a completely normal behaviour. You approach isn't working, that is what you aren't getting.

Wear your glasses at all times. Girls make passes, at guys who wear glasses.

This is what I'll agree with, because with someone like him, no approach works, which is why I'm just not going to say anything more unless I'm addressed on this thread.

Hasn't stopped you so far… How hypocritical of you. Just because your approach isn’t working doesn’t mean nothing will work. But it is Tim’s prerogative; it is not about what you consider to be change. Besides you are contradicting your earlier remarks to me.

How you are that different than the other bitter and resentful people, pray tell? You need to get over this big time. Go outside, take in the fresh air.

Tim, how's the goatee coming along? Post a pic so we can critique it in a POSITIVE way. I think it would be the right look for you.

I like this one better than your Avatar. >.< Just saying...

Tim, do you have any family residing in Oklahoma?

From your picture, I had this feeling but
can't really describe it.

I don't know anyone in OK.

I have also ditched the long-held belief that "Aspies don't lie or cheat".