Do you feel sympathetic for somebody who can not have sex?

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i was confused because there were too many hints without full information. i think i might understand. thank you for explaining.
there are further tests and treatments that can be done for that. some causes are physical in origin, some are mind-based, and some seem to be a combination of the two. SSRIs play a big role in that:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Anhedonia
http://www.sex-pharm.com/sex.com/News/Sexual-anhedonia/

it is treatable, so there is definitely hope for you. a second opinion with a new urologist, and possibly a referral to a neurologist could maybe help.

How come? Because I'm emotionally challenged? Because I think sex is gross? :X curious as to why you'd feel that way...

I mean, relationshipwise... it'd be unfair of me to date someone if I'm that disgusted by sex, which is why I'm avoiding it, but otherwise... there's nothing particularly upsetting about being me... don't want it, don't need it... *shrug* (goes for both emotions and sex)

I'll check out those pills. I was like this before SSRI's

No, it sounded like you were trying to get something off your shoulders.

i meant exactly what i said. the sympathy is not caused because you cant get sex. i dont find lack of sex to be that sympathetic of an issue. but i generally like people, i try to see the good in them, i wish good things for them. i believe people to be good and therefore want them to be happy. that means i want people to get the things they desire in life that would make them happy. but i dont wish for you to get sex, i wish for you to get the things that allow you to be happy. i think the vast majority of people deserve to be happy.



i think the reason people feel sympathy is important to understanding whether or not they feel sympathy. how to incorporate that into a poll, i cant tell you.



i do not equate human contact with sex. they are not the same. we humans, most of us anyway, need human contact. we may need it in varying amounts, some more or some less, but we mostly do need it. isolation is bad for our psyche. it can drive you crazy. at young formative ages, the lack of human contact is devastating to our development as humans. we NEED human contact in our lives. we do not need sex in the same way. sexual contact can be fulfilled by ourselves or non-human objects, whereas friendship, aka human contact, cannot.

for the person with the soul crushing job, again i would ask, WHY do they want sympathy? the job they hold is in their control, so no, i wouldnt have sympathy for that. they can choose to not work that job. i may feel sympathy that they are not happy, but i am not sympathetic because they dont like their job. see my previous explanation about the source of sympathy.



this has nothing to do with male or female issues, nor did i ever say my personal opinions took that into account. my response to the poll question was not gender specific.

and no, in general i would feel LESS pity or sympathy for being a degenerate crackhead. they chose to put themselves in that situation, they choose to continue it. however, it also depends on what we are giving sympathy for. for being a crackhead? no. for living in a flop house, losing their kids, getting diseases for sharing needles, and dying young? yes, that would garner my sympathy as those are sad circumstances for anyone. would it be more or less than the non-crackhead citizen? i have no idea, what kind of issues does the non-crackhead have?

i didnt say "bigger problems", i said the lack of basic life necessities. those are REAL problems. ones that can kill you, or make you sick, or maim you. is not having sex a problem to the same degree that not having food to eat is a problem? NO. is it the same as a child going to school without a winter jacket in the middle of a cold winter? NO. how about the same as not being able to afford to move out of the neighborhood you are in thats filled with violence and shootings? NO. in the grand scheme of things, in the requirements that we need to live, sex is not on the list.

now, all that being said, this is a moot point anyway. we are each the sum of our experiences. we each operate only from what we know of life. what one person feels is a tragedy in their life, another may think is nothing. thats based on how we each interpret and feel about something, and the other things we have experienced in life.

and i will offer that i have been in the position of not being able to do something that i felt was vital to my life, something that i had no physical control over and i was devastated at the failure to accomplish. absolutely emotionally devastated. and i have had people who accomplished it tell me "you arent missing anything", which was a slap in the face. but i am adult and mature enough to realize that how i perceive things is not always how others perceive things, and the value i put on things may be different than how someone else values it.

in essence, whether others feel sympathy for me doesnt change or validate my own feelings. nor should anyone else use sympathy or lack thereof to validate their own emotions about something.

and thank you to anyone who made it to the end =)