Reasons why you're a bad catch

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I have a culture of my own.
I have never been, and don't know how to live with other people.
I am invisible.

It looks like I am simply un-catch-able.

Slightly off-topic question
Is someone really a catch if they cant be caught

-No job (even when I do have jobs, I'm underemployed since I've never really used my degrees)
-Live with parents
-Weak social network
-Very introverted
-Passive around women
-Slightly overweight (been losing some lately though)

For the most part, I don't think looks are my problem.

-Ugly face
-Not the sharpest tool in the shed

1. Perfectionism
2. Pride
3. IED which is Intermittent explosive disorder ive got a really nasty temper
4. Hypomanic episode
5. Obsessive–compulsive disorder

Those are a few things I have to deal with I spend a lot of time in therapy as a child an I don't go any more but I really need to

Most of you are way way to much in to yourself , most people would find that revolting.

Also I haven't seen any "iritating " ot " Pitiful, " according to one lady here that was her opinion of the asd men at the Meet Ups sounds about right to me or perhaps it was an anomaly?

I cut and paste her words on a "lack confidence" thread and she apologized apparently she's just hooked up with a aspie mate and things are going great and they would be wouldn't they ? she's a hot aspie (aspie men lie when they say it's not about the looks it's always about the looks.

Since she's so good looking she can exploit her sexuality and set her standards high , so i presume she hooked up with a annoying overeducated overachiever, not saying she did that though she would be no different to most of the good looking women of this world., actually she would be no differant to most of the women of this world .

1. Only have time for myself once the initial attraction wears off.
2. No job.
3. Highly opinionated and high standards with regards to other peoples opinions.
4. Kinda lazy.
5. Spend huge amounts of time engrossed in videos/movies/games/books, forgetting the world exists. Then i go to the toilet/ have something to eat and start again.
6. Find sex a little boring/too much like hard work and would rather read a book/ eat some chocolate/eat some cake/watch a movie/ play a computer game/ smoke weed/ sleep/(other things).
7. Prefer to sleep alone.

I don't think there are any fixes for most of those. I personally would like a gf in theory but in practice I find the whole thing a little suffocating. A gf that shared my interests and was equally anti social would probably suit me best.
[edit] This list keeps getting bigger!

1.} No Job

2.} I'm 21 & still living with family

3.} I'm a Virgin

4.} I look like a 16-year-old

5.} Never been in a relationship

6.} Overweight

7.} Often seen as "anti-social", "rude", and the like just by looking at me

8.} Introvert

I think I've found out why guys run after they get to know me better aside from the guys who just aren't interested from plain janes.

1. I don't contact or respond their phone calls/messages for days.

2. I'm a little uncomfortable going public with physical affection. I don't like to be cuddled in public much and that probably gives them the wrong idea.


3. I come off uninterested when I have something I want to do. Naturally I'm going to be more in love with my interests than I am with the guy or....


4. I'm too quirky and have no sex appeal. Guys don't like to admit but it helps if you're outgoing and good at flirting or coming up with sexy ways to turn a guy on. This has never come natural to me and as much as I've tried, I've never felt comfortable with it.


5. I'm hot good looking but as I said above, I also don't have sex appeal. This is a big downer since it's the appeal and the physical beauty that's going to turn a partner on.


6. Mmmmm I really don't want to talk about it but it's much like AA's and other guys. Guys on this forum seem to think men are more accepting to this issue if you're a female but I've seen differently.

I could write a long list in here but would it help? I get tired of feeling bad about being single, and it seems pointless to put so much energy into feeling angsty about something that I cannot change.

Here goes:

1. I'm not liberal, automatically making me an intolerant prick in the eyes of others.

2. I'm a Christian, same scenario as #1.

3. I'm an Aspie, making it very difficult to understand NT social cues, especially non-verbal ones (and finding a female Aspie is very difficult).

4. As of yesterday, I am unemployed (I was laid off because the contractor hired too many workers).