How on Earth do you approach & talk to women?

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10 May 2012, 4:17 pm

i don't really get why people think cold approaches should be some sort of goal. every single person i've ever dated or had sex with was familiar to me, or else i spoke to them extensively online. for me, it is just too much of an unknown quantity to date a stranger

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10 May 2012, 4:18 pm

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Because for some we dont have a social circle, thus all our approaches have to be cold approaches.

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10 May 2012, 4:19 pm

Delphiki wrote:

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Approach, one step at a time (left, right, left, right, etc); when close, stop. Say hello

If only it were that easy, apparently our boobs make it super difficult.

They have to overcome their fear of the bewbs and learn to accept them as individuals with hopes and dreams of their own

What makes it difficult is them being individuals and not caring much for meeting a new person. Atleast in my experience

I hate people that are individuals

Ahh twist what i said to make me sound bad, where have i seen that one before :thumright:

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10 May 2012, 4:24 pm

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Because for some we dont have a social circle, thus all our approaches have to be cold approaches.

Then shouldn't making friends or having a social circle be more of a priority. I hadn't known about that cold approach was not a great idea until this site. Cold approach is much scarier.

Twist your words? sure lol

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10 May 2012, 4:25 pm

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i don't really get why people think cold approaches should be some sort of goal. every single person i've ever dated or had sex with was familiar to me, or else i spoke to them extensively online.

It's a right pain in the hole when all the women that you want to have sex with (and that will have sex with you) are taken, amirite?

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10 May 2012, 4:29 pm

Delphiki, that was exactly what i was going to say. it's not easy for anyone to create or expand their social circle, but it doesn't make sense to expect that getting a girlfriend will be significantly easier than that. these things are related

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10 May 2012, 4:40 pm

Delphiki wrote:

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Because for some we dont have a social circle, thus all our approaches have to be cold approaches.

Both are just as hard to do when you're starting from nothing. One will likely bring the other. In the end both will involve cold approaching someone/group, wether it goes to a friend or more status is to be determined later.

Yes twist my words, I was saying how they want to maintain themselves as an induvidual(ie, being alone or in their group) and not let a new person in.

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10 May 2012, 4:42 pm

Here is how I think of it cold approach- meet someone at a bar, some random place, you want to do the sex with me?
Non cold approach- meet people at work, or volunteering, or gym, etc, and slowly get to know them.

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10 May 2012, 4:43 pm

I don't see how letting someone into their life makes them less of an individual

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10 May 2012, 4:46 pm

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I don't see how letting someone into their life makes them less of an individual

I think you're using a different meaning of individual. I mean it more of a singular than a unique. As in that person being how they want to be at that moment (wether it is alone or in their group) and not wanting to be interrupted.

And approach wise, the cold/warm is a business contact lingo. Cold being starting from scratch and warm being someone that knows about you already and you're just getting to them more.

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10 May 2012, 4:49 pm

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Both are just as hard to do when you're starting from nothing. One will likely bring the other. In the end both will involve cold approaching someone/group, wether it goes to a friend or more status is to be determined later.

Here you said that cold approach is the option to meet someone. But in the "business" there is the other option of warmth. I would rather be warm than cold.

So because you get to know someone better they are less unique?

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10 May 2012, 4:52 pm

Delphiki wrote:

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Warm being that they know you exist, theyve met you before (likely through social circles). But because I dont have a social circle id have to cold approach someone to join a social circle to then warm approach someone for a date.

Or i can cold approach someone for a date and warm approach a social circle.

No, you're misreading what im saying because its what you want to think of me.

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10 May 2012, 4:56 pm

DogsWithoutHorses wrote:

MXH wrote:

Vigilans wrote:

MXH wrote:

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Approach, one step at a time (left, right, left, right, etc); when close, stop. Say hello

If only it were that easy, apparently our boobs make it super difficult.

They have to overcome their fear of the bewbs and learn to accept them as individuals with hopes and dreams of their own

What makes it difficult is them being individuals and not caring much for meeting a new person. Atleast in my experience

Bewbs are always down to meet new people

but i dont even like boobs that much :cry:

that's okay, more for me

You're boobless?

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10 May 2012, 4:57 pm

So you can not meet other people through the gym, work, volunteering, etc.?

Why would I want to think a certain way about someone? espicially since I do not know you and will never meet you? I am just trying to make sense of your statement

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10 May 2012, 5:02 pm

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nope.

i wouldnt know, but i see it often enough around here to know what it looks like. I already said im not talking about individual in the being different from everyone, but rather in the being singular. As in them not wanting someone around, or well atleast not me.

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10 May 2012, 5:05 pm

MXH wrote:

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nope.

i wouldnt know, but i see it often enough around here to know what it looks like. I already said im not talking about individual in the being different from everyone, but rather in the being singular. As in them not wanting someone around, or well atleast not me.

Don't those go hand in hand? (not at all saying people should not like you)

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