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06 Jun 2012, 7:44 am

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I would imagine there's a significant amount of flirting when one wants to get laid.

I think there's some tossing of or touching of her mane. Laughing. Mirroring your body movements. Lots of smiling.

Or I'm just talking out of my @ss.


Body language can only really be judged in clusters, not single things by themselves. A woman exposing her neck, eye contact beyond normal duration, arm movements, preening, etc viewed together can indicate flirting, but one movement alone is not enough to form a conclusion.


Agreed. For how long should this be observed for?


First, I like to establish a "baseline" IE how the person's body language is in a "normal" situation, so that things that are "habits" of that woman can be eliminated from the overall picture.
Secondly, observe her behavior around you, looking for clusters of 3 - 5 indicators. For instance, if she plays with her hair, stands up straight, touches you, bites/sucks on her lower lip, plays with her lips with her fingers, directs her knee towards you with crossed legs, lets her shoe slip on and off, odds are its safe to hit on her.

Of course, this isn't an exact science, but then again with extreme risk aversion comes never getting laid. Really, in 50 - 60 years when you're in your late 80s or something, are you really going to regret getting shot down by some woman you can't even remember back in your 20s?



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06 Jun 2012, 9:01 am

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My friend Emma's fantastic, she's quite predatory for a girl. This would never have happened with her.


Yeah I know a lot of girls who are like that. I'm just not one of them. I never had to be. I always thought I was but when it came down to it, I found out I'm not! I am quite persistent though and I usually get what I want that way.



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06 Jun 2012, 9:14 am

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My friend Emma's fantastic, she's quite predatory for a girl. This would never have happened with her.


Yeah I know a lot of girls who are like that. I'm just not one of them. I never had to be. I always thought I was but when it came down to it, I found out I'm not! I am quite persistent though and I usually get what I want that way.


It's one of those differences between men and women, a man doing the same would often be seen as needy, desperate and stalker/creepy.



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06 Jun 2012, 9:49 am

Nothing desperate or creepy (wow) about it, she just knows what she wants and gets it and has no problem approaching guys in clubs.



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06 Jun 2012, 9:54 am

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Nothing creepy about it, she just knows what she wants and gets it and has no problem approaching guys in clubs.


As I said, "If a man did it". There is a difference in how behavior is perceived based on gender.



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06 Jun 2012, 9:59 am

IlovemyAspie wrote:
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My friend Emma's fantastic, she's quite predatory for a girl. This would never have happened with her.


Yeah I know a lot of girls who are like that. I'm just not one of them. I never had to be. I always thought I was but when it came down to it, I found out I'm not! I am quite persistent though and I usually get what I want that way.


Well, perhaps you're not the tigress sort of predator, more of a snake that hypnotizes her prey before coiling around it :lol:

Everybody's got to find their ecological niche and develop it, I think. A deer can't be a spider can't be a wolf.



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06 Jun 2012, 10:00 am

ILMA prefers baking cookies and writing love poems.



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06 Jun 2012, 10:08 am

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ILMA prefers baking cookies and writing love poems.


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Cantil vipers, gator snappers and wobbegongs all have fake lures evolved from their own body parts. The Green Heron, however, manages to lure fish into attack range without this advantage. How? Well, it uses bait.

Indeed, green herons have been known to drop small objects onto the surface of water. Small fish are tricked into investigating the object, hoping it may be something edible, and then the heron quickly snatches the unsuspecting victim.

Not all Green Herons use this technique, but those who do become quite talented, and they even experiment with different kinds of bait. Some herons have been seen stealing the bread that people feeds to ducks in ponds, and using the bread as bait. Other herons have been known to capture small fish but instead of eating them, they use them as bait for larger fish.

No one knows how Green Herons learnt to fish with bait. Some experts believe they learnt from humans, while others think they learnt by themselves by observing how small fish would investigate any small object or animal that fell to the water. Either way, this behavior is obviously not instinctive, making the Green Heron quite possibly the smartest predator in this list.

http://listverse.com/2011/01/15/10-dead ... mal-world/



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06 Jun 2012, 11:51 am

edgewaters wrote:
ZX_SpectrumDisorder wrote:
ILMA prefers baking cookies and writing love poems.


Image

Cantil vipers, gator snappers and wobbegongs all have fake lures evolved from their own body parts. The Green Heron, however, manages to lure fish into attack range without this advantage. How? Well, it uses bait.

Indeed, green herons have been known to drop small objects onto the surface of water. Small fish are tricked into investigating the object, hoping it may be something edible, and then the heron quickly snatches the unsuspecting victim.

Not all Green Herons use this technique, but those who do become quite talented, and they even experiment with different kinds of bait. Some herons have been seen stealing the bread that people feeds to ducks in ponds, and using the bread as bait. Other herons have been known to capture small fish but instead of eating them, they use them as bait for larger fish.

No one knows how Green Herons learnt to fish with bait. Some experts believe they learnt from humans, while others think they learnt by themselves by observing how small fish would investigate any small object or animal that fell to the water. Either way, this behavior is obviously not instinctive, making the Green Heron quite possibly the smartest predator in this list.

http://listverse.com/2011/01/15/10-dead ... mal-world/


LOVE IT!! !! :heart: Who knew that's what I was doing with my cookies and love poems!



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06 Jun 2012, 11:53 am

In a list of 'deadly tricksters'.



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06 Jun 2012, 12:11 pm

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D'aw. That green heron is so cute!

Stop luring me in with pictures of cute animals. That's cheating! :wink:



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06 Jun 2012, 12:41 pm

ZX_SpectrumDisorder wrote:
In a list of 'deadly tricksters'.


yes I noticed that! But that's fine, with me you'll think you've died....and gone to heaven!



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06 Jun 2012, 10:02 pm

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D'aw. That green heron is so cute!

Stop luring me in with pictures of cute animals. That's cheating! :wink:


That's not cheating! Here, I'll show you cheating:

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06 Jun 2012, 10:14 pm

I like the way this thread is going.
Tiny teddy bears seem like a sign of good times.


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06 Jun 2012, 10:35 pm

We should rename the thread - How to recognize when a guy is cheating using cute and adorably cuddly things!



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06 Jun 2012, 10:37 pm

DogsWithoutHorses wrote:
I like the way this thread is going.
Tiny teddy bears seem like a sign of good times.


Yes, good times, good times.