Am I attractive?

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There's no way for me to turn my life around. I've got nothing to offer. The only way to advance in life is to manipulate, betray, harm. Sickening, really.

If you plan suicide may I recommend starving yourself? I mean, you will find out whether or not the whole weight theory is valid, so can be more confident that your self-inflicted death was on the right track.

I'm with you so far...



Is it? How would anyone know that before they find someone? It's a catch-22 that can only be broken with a lot of luck - or being desperate enough to try even if you think you have no chance... plus a fair bit of luck.



Yeah, I wholeheartedly agree with you there. Straight men just tend to notice women being a***holes more often, since other men being a***holes usually doesn't affect them as much. Vice-versa for women. The realisation that one gender is as bad as the other (if true) might reduce the finger-pointing a bit, but it still doesn't give anyone any more hope, does it?

Anyway, I'm glad to hear you managed to find someone good. That kind of story is probably the only thing that can give people some hope.

(I re-read my reply and realised it sounds like I'm critical of your post. I actually liked it and agreed with more of it, but only replied to the parts I disagree with. )

I'm not the best judge but I think if you lost some weight you would be not bad looking. The hard part; getting started then sticking to a better diet and exercise. I know it sucks but your emotional state probably won't get much better until you do that too. Looking and feeling better will change how you are around people and how people see you. Your new gained confidence will be apparent without you needing to show it.

Yeah, sure. Next thing I know, I'll be snorting lines and shooting up roids and HGH.

how you look is irrelevant.

your attitude, however, is unattractive--it's actually rather repellent. that is something that is within your power to change, if you're willing to do the work and the introspection required.

Don't give me that Oprah crap.

It's pretty much true.

I found some pictures/videos. I don't find you attractive, but then I'm a heterosexual male.

Your features seem pretty average - you know, along with most of us humans. There are plenty of similarly average looking men making a go of relationships. Your attitude, though, stinks. And that will come through in how you look. Your facial expressions, your comportment, your physical posture. Even if you were handsomeness itself, most approaching you would be turned off and away by your attitude. A few might stick it out to see if there was some attractive personality to go with the looks.

All anyone can really do is make the best of what they've got. I doubt you're already doing that, but if you were to insist you are, well, good luck with that. Please try not to be too much of an a***hole to others.

How can I not be an a***hole when people are usually a***holes to me?

It's called rising above it.

Dear god OP, you look 12. Lose the weight you and you will fall under the 'cute' category for women. That's a VERY GOOD category to be in, there is hope for you yet.

Just because someone would be skinny or slim instead of fat doesn't mean he would automatically be considered desirable by women.

If anything it's his repulsive attitude that's going to stop him getting anyone in the end. Plenty of overweight men have girlfriends.

What kind of silly thinking is that? Good grief.

You have a choice in how you are. You don't really have one in how other people are, except in so far as i) explaining their arseholery to them and ii) keeping contact with them to as minimal as possible.

And really, it's simply not attractive.

Also: are people a***holes to you cos you're an a***hole?




Yep.

You folks underestimate how shallow this world is, there's just as many vain women as there are men. Does attitude help? Yes, but there are plenty of people that can overlook that for appearance, plenty of guys do this, plenty of women do as well.

You overestimate how shallow it is.

Of course there are shallow people out there. But, given how the great majority of people are, as it were, 'average' in terms of looks or wealth or what have you, there are a great many such men and women - now and throughout history - who have good, loving, meaningful relationships.

And amongst the average - the great majority of us - attitude counts immensely. It doesn't guarantee a relationship, but then nothing does.

And it's not just for him, but for those around him and those he talks to.