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03 Oct 2013, 6:02 am

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If "no" is a game (which it most often isn't), it's usually accompanied by a flirty smile and tantalizing, flirtatious body language, like referred in the article as well.


Ah-ah Lilya - you don't get to play that name.

No always means no, right?



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03 Oct 2013, 6:03 am

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If "no" is a game (which it most often isn't), it's usually accompanied by a flirty smile and tantalizing, flirtatious body language, like referred in the article as well.


Ah-ah Lilya - you don't get to play that name.

No always means no, right?


For me no always means no.


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03 Oct 2013, 6:05 am

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For me no always means no.


So if you said it, no matter in what tone, you expect the man to walk out the door?

If so, fair enough.



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03 Oct 2013, 6:06 am

Lilya wrote:
For me no always means no.


So if you said it, no matter in what tone, you expect the man to walk out the door?

If so, that's fair enough.

If everyone was honest about what they wanted and didn't want, we'd have no problems.



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03 Oct 2013, 6:07 am

Tequila wrote:
Lilya wrote:
For me no always means no.


So if you said it, no matter in what tone, you expect the man to walk out the door?

If so, fair enough.


I can keep repeating that in different tones, until he finally gets the point, which is pretty much what I'm doing now.


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03 Oct 2013, 6:12 am

Why anyone would say no if they mean yes?

Now if she's telling you no while grabbing your penis and leading it to her vagina then that's a different story - it's a weird scenario tho.



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03 Oct 2013, 6:19 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Why anyone would say no if they mean yes?


Perhaps because they don't 'own' their sexual desires, they don't want to be seen as slu*ty, they think that sleeping with that particular person is slu*ty...



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03 Oct 2013, 6:22 am

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Why anyone would say no if they mean yes?


Perhaps because they don't 'own' their sexual desires, they don't want to be seen as slu*ty, they think that sleeping with that particular person is slu*ty...


That's irrelevant - you can't be sure and you can't read minds.



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03 Oct 2013, 6:45 am

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That's pretty much what my rapist said. I really don't find that funny.


Have you seen that Robin Thicke video? It's been all over the internet.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zwT6DZCQi9k

And then the feminist parody.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tC1XtnLRLPM



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03 Oct 2013, 6:57 am

^ That's the most douchebaggery video song I've ever watched.



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03 Oct 2013, 8:11 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
^ That's the most douchebaggery video song I've ever watched.


Now you get it.



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03 Oct 2013, 9:38 am

I'm confused. We've gone from something heartwarming to magnetic influence (or psychological projection) and now it's...a song by Robin Thicke, which has absolutely no meaning whatsoever. Bring on the flying cats.



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03 Oct 2013, 10:09 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
That's irrelevant - you can't be sure and you can't read minds.


I know that. The women (and they are not a huge amount of them) expect you to, and then get very huffy and pissed off when you take them at their word.

It's rapist-enabling stuff.



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03 Oct 2013, 10:31 am

Tequila wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
That's irrelevant - you can't be sure and you can't read minds.


I know that. The women (and they are not a huge amount of them) expect you to, and then get very huffy and pissed off when you take them at their word.

It's rapist-enabling stuff.



Then why risk it with this type of women, it's safer to interpret no as no.



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03 Oct 2013, 2:49 pm

Shau wrote:
Lilya wrote:
That's pretty much what my rapist said. I really don't find that funny.


Have you seen that Robin Thicke video? It's been all over the internet.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zwT6DZCQi9k

And then the feminist parody.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tC1XtnLRLPM




These feminist reply things always bother me, because the axiom 'Well how do YOU like it NOW?!' Is met by a very large faction of men saying: "Oh yes please tell me what to do, i love being subservient to women, and having them take charge in AND out of the bedroom." (I am NOT being sarcastic) And we know what that means.

Basically, they're endorsing women having the right not to be subservient. They have the right in law. Men have that right too, but those guys that prefer being subservient are usually not what women want aka they're wimps. But SUPPOSEDLY (according to the video) they're who feminists fantasize about... men they can use as footstools, and mildly degrade.

Most of my buddies are like this.

Moral? Don't be friends with D & D nerds, they all marry feminists.


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03 Oct 2013, 6:32 pm

Shau wrote:
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I can't believe the sh** I'm reading in this thread. Some of the advice sounds positively date-rapy..........

No means NO!

Shau, If she says she's not ready for sex, she's not. You shouldn't push it on her. It sounds like you know that already so that's good.


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