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11 Sep 2014, 5:19 pm

Well, look at the 0.9% side of the cup!

These numbers mean there are about 5x more single asd men than taken asd men in the UK, rejoice! You are of the majority! :lol:



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11 Sep 2014, 6:29 pm

easier said than done but must not give up hope



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11 Sep 2014, 9:04 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Well, look at the 0.9% side of the cup!

These numbers mean there are about 4.6x more single asd men than taken asd men in the UK, rejoice! You are of the majority! :lol:



Sorry- brain not braining... is that really what it says? I legitimately can't tell if what you are saying is the same as this: "Prevalence of ASD among all adults and men only by marital status"

So then it shows that .09% of married men are ASD, whereas .05% of men total are ASD.

I'm not sure how to figure out for myself what that says about the ratio of married versus "unmarried" only that I can't do anything with the percentages/numbers that is making sense? heh.

I mean is that saying the same thing as what you wrote? I just don't understand how for myself because... because!
Can you explain to my brain? [and me if you have a couple minutes as well] Feel free to in PM if this is seriously side tracking, as I am sort of freaked I already did that plenty [sorry].


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11 Sep 2014, 9:26 pm

must stop feeling hopeless



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11 Sep 2014, 11:25 pm

so it says that 4.5% of single men are asd, and .9% of married men are asd.

but how much of men are asd? don't seem to answer what percentage of asd are married.



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11 Sep 2014, 11:33 pm

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Sorry- brain not braining... is that really what it says? I legitimately can't tell if what you are saying is the same as this: "Prevalence of ASD among all adults and men only by marital status"

So then it shows that .09% of married men are ASD, whereas .05% of men total are ASD.

I'm not sure how to figure out for myself what that says about the ratio of married versus "unmarried" only that I can't do anything with the percentages/numbers that is making sense? heh.

I mean is that saying the same thing as what you wrote? I just don't understand how for myself because... because!
Can you explain to my brain? [and me if you have a couple minutes as well] Feel free to in PM if this is seriously side tracking, as I am sort of freaked I already did that plenty [sorry].


most ASD men struggle in dating,accept it.



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11 Sep 2014, 11:43 pm

billiscool wrote:
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Sorry- brain not braining... is that really what it says? I legitimately can't tell if what you are saying is the same as this: "Prevalence of ASD among all adults and men only by marital status"

So then it shows that .09% of married men are ASD, whereas .05% of men total are ASD.

I'm not sure how to figure out for myself what that says about the ratio of married versus "unmarried" only that I can't do anything with the percentages/numbers that is making sense? heh.

I mean is that saying the same thing as what you wrote? I just don't understand how for myself because... because!
Can you explain to my brain? [and me if you have a couple minutes as well] Feel free to in PM if this is seriously side tracking, as I am sort of freaked I already did that plenty [sorry].


most ASD men struggle in dating,accept it.


Why are you being rude?

I don't understand how the numbers work and that's my question.
A- I just want to be able to understand the chart since everyone else seems to get it and obviously I dont. So I feel kind of stupid and I don't like feeling that way.

B- If it's so easy for everyone else to see it, evidently I've missed something blinding so it shouldn't take you very long to explain the numbers to me so we can all be on the same page. It shouldn't be so much to ask if I am trying to meet you in the middle, which I've been trying to do this entire time, even though you are coming from an insistance upon the idea that you are some how defective [which I don't buy].


I notices that the poster before you raised similar questions to mine, only you responded singularly to me.

If this is how YOU personally treat women: Just accept it and don't ask questions, it may possibly be some insight into your troubles.

My [asd] boyfriend doesn't tend to do that.
Oh.

ETA:
But I get the hint
ASD men ask about dating women.
Autistic women want to respond.
Input from ASD women is unwelcome.

...again, there may be some clues here as to the predicament you find yourself in, billiscool.

I'll go dare to ask questions elsewhere haha.


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11 Sep 2014, 11:54 pm

SignOfLazarus wrote:

If this is how YOU personally treat women: Just accept it and don't ask questions, it may possibly be some insight into your troubles.

My [asd] boyfriend doesn't tend to do that.
Oh.


I get along with women.Most women are not feminist,or least
the one's I meet aren't.I've had 4 girlfriends before.



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12 Sep 2014, 12:12 am

I guess the truth hurts



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12 Sep 2014, 12:46 am

SignOfLazarus wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Well, look at the 0.9% side of the cup!

These numbers mean there are about 4.6x more single asd men than taken asd men in the UK, rejoice! You are of the majority! :lol:



Sorry- brain not braining... is that really what it says? I legitimately can't tell if what you are saying is the same as this: "Prevalence of ASD among all adults and men only by marital status"

So then it shows that .09% of married men are ASD, whereas .05% of men total are ASD.

I'm not sure how to figure out for myself what that says about the ratio of married versus "unmarried" only that I can't do anything with the percentages/numbers that is making sense? heh.

I mean is that saying the same thing as what you wrote? I just don't understand how for myself because... because!
Can you explain to my brain? [and me if you have a couple minutes as well] Feel free to in PM if this is seriously side tracking, as I am sort of freaked I already did that plenty [sorry].


The asd make a higher % of single men than of taken men, about 5x times more (4.5/0.9) the prevelence (of each group, single and taken seperately).



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12 Sep 2014, 12:49 am

SignOfLazarus wrote:
billiscool wrote:
SignOfLazarus wrote:


Sorry- brain not braining... is that really what it says? I legitimately can't tell if what you are saying is the same as this: "Prevalence of ASD among all adults and men only by marital status"

So then it shows that .09% of married men are ASD, whereas .05% of men total are ASD.

I'm not sure how to figure out for myself what that says about the ratio of married versus "unmarried" only that I can't do anything with the percentages/numbers that is making sense? heh.

I mean is that saying the same thing as what you wrote? I just don't understand how for myself because... because!
Can you explain to my brain? [and me if you have a couple minutes as well] Feel free to in PM if this is seriously side tracking, as I am sort of freaked I already did that plenty [sorry].


most ASD men struggle in dating,accept it.


ETA:
But I get the hint
ASD men ask about dating women.
Autistic women want to respond.
Input from ASD women is unwelcome.

...again, there may be some clues here as to the predicament you find yourself in, billiscool.

I'll go dare to ask questions elsewhere haha.


Welcome to Wrong Planet.

Some men will project their bitterness externally and women are the first easy target. I find the Autistic ones that are single rarely put themselves out there, I have steadily dated women and I'm with a beautiful woman now.

The ones that struggle do not approach many women, ask them how many they have approached? You will never get a response.



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12 Sep 2014, 1:25 am

AlexanderDantes wrote:
SignOfLazarus wrote:
billiscool wrote:
SignOfLazarus wrote:


Sorry- brain not braining... is that really what it says? I legitimately can't tell if what you are saying is the same as this: "Prevalence of ASD among all adults and men only by marital status"

So then it shows that .09% of married men are ASD, whereas .05% of men total are ASD.

I'm not sure how to figure out for myself what that says about the ratio of married versus "unmarried" only that I can't do anything with the percentages/numbers that is making sense? heh.

I mean is that saying the same thing as what you wrote? I just don't understand how for myself because... because!
Can you explain to my brain? [and me if you have a couple minutes as well] Feel free to in PM if this is seriously side tracking, as I am sort of freaked I already did that plenty [sorry].


most ASD men struggle in dating,accept it.


ETA:
But I get the hint
ASD men ask about dating women.
Autistic women want to respond.
Input from ASD women is unwelcome.

...again, there may be some clues here as to the predicament you find yourself in, billiscool.

I'll go dare to ask questions elsewhere haha.


Welcome to Wrong Planet.

Some men will project their bitterness externally and women are the first easy target. I find the Autistic ones that are single rarely put themselves out there, I have steadily dated women and I'm with a beautiful woman now.

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I think bill is one of the guys who approaches a lot of women.


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The ones that struggle do not approach many women, ask them how many they have approached? You will never get a response.



You know why? because It's none of your business really :lol:, when I was in dating mood I've asked whoever seemed interesting, kinda compatbile and attractive to me and those don't come in mass, yeah I know I would have got more chances if I'd asked out every breathing single woman available on the list but hell no, won't never do it.


And you keep boasting about your beautiful woman over and over again, without saying much else about her, let's see 10 years forward if you're gonna stay loving your "beautiful" woman when she's no longer...god forbids...beautiful, that would be the real test of your love.



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12 Sep 2014, 2:07 am

AlexanderDantes wrote:
SignOfLazarus wrote:
billiscool wrote:
SignOfLazarus wrote:


Sorry- brain not braining... is that really what it says? I legitimately can't tell if what you are saying is the same as this: "Prevalence of ASD among all adults and men only by marital status"

So then it shows that .09% of married men are ASD, whereas .05% of men total are ASD.

I'm not sure how to figure out for myself what that says about the ratio of married versus "unmarried" only that I can't do anything with the percentages/numbers that is making sense? heh.

I mean is that saying the same thing as what you wrote? I just don't understand how for myself because... because!
Can you explain to my brain? [and me if you have a couple minutes as well] Feel free to in PM if this is seriously side tracking, as I am sort of freaked I already did that plenty [sorry].


most ASD men struggle in dating,accept it.


ETA:
But I get the hint
ASD men ask about dating women.
Autistic women want to respond.
Input from ASD women is unwelcome.

...again, there may be some clues here as to the predicament you find yourself in, billiscool.

I'll go dare to ask questions elsewhere haha.


Welcome to Wrong Planet.

Some men will project their bitterness externally and women are the first easy target. I find the Autistic ones that are single rarely put themselves out there, I have steadily dated women and I'm with a beautiful woman now.

The ones that struggle do not approach many women, ask them how many they have approached? You will never get a response.


i suppose if you restrict what it means to approach. I don't go to bars and hit on women. I did message women on sites and still do every so often. the general response is i'm not good looking.

so yeah if a good looking man approaches women he'll likely get dates, if a ugly one does he'll be called a creep and rejected. and if both don't approach women then nothing happens.

I've constantly been putting myself out there, hasn't been successful. I start to dislike you " i get tons of dates, it's easy. so those who an't just aren't trying" same logic as " I have a job and those who don't have jobs are just lazy" so near sighted.



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12 Sep 2014, 3:17 am

AlexanderDantes wrote:

Welcome to Wrong Planet.

Some men will project their bitterness externally and women are the first easy target. I find the Autistic ones that are single rarely put themselves out there, I have steadily dated women and I'm with a beautiful woman now.

The ones that struggle do not approach many women, ask them how many they have approached? You will never get a response.


lol.I've had 4 girlfriends,approach and talk to alot of women,and believe
it or not,women actual get along with me.



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12 Sep 2014, 7:14 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
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http://a4.org.au/a4/sites/au.a4/files/A ... OCT_09.pdf


Thanks for posting some more objective evidence. I have to admit it was kind of difficult to understand this table even after going to the document and reading more, but did find out it was done in England in 2007 and at that time their estimate was that 1.8% of the adult male population had ASD.

I looked up a few more, more recent studies and both showed a lower marriage rate among men with ASD then the general population. The most recent I found was from Canada in 2013:

"In a study done by Toronto?s Redpath Centre, just 32.1 percent of people with autism had had a partner and only 9 percent were married. This contrasts with the statistics of the general population where about 50 percent of adults are married."

Within that study however it was noted that while ASD marriage rates where very low at younger ages, they spiked upwards as autistics got older.



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12 Sep 2014, 8:38 am

Well you are saying you are not a handsome guy, Sly, how do you know you're not a handsome guy? Did someone tell you that you were not? See this negative self image portrays in your inner confidence and the image you project to the world...