wilburforce wrote:
Unfortunately, because so many of us have encountered men who get very upset, angry, abusive, or even violent when given an honest answer about why we're not interested, most of us have learned to say whatever polite nonsense we think will get us out of the conversation without being attacked. It's true that, unless you know the woman well already and she trusts you, she's probably not going to give you a directly honest answer about why she doesn't want to date you. Too often it is not safe to do so, and most of us learn that pretty early on in the dating arena. If you don't believe me, just google "when women say no" and see what comes up. We are rarely more in danger in life than when we are rejecting a man, so we have to be very, very careful how we navigate that situation--and that usually means excessive politeness and platitudes.
I think the problem with this is that people on the spectrum tend to think literally, and often have difficulty determining whether something is the truth or a platitude, or whether silence means they're busy or just uninterested. Are there any surefire ways to tell which situation is really the case?
This is a really broad question but I guess you are asking about it in terms of dating(?) In general if there's any reason why a woman might feel her safety is at risk, she's probably not going to be upfront about her feelings.
05 Jan 2016, 11:27 am
