Yes, the looks is very important

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31 Jan 2021, 12:44 pm

Alright, to talk about the graphs: If you saw them as a man looking for a woman would you fancy your chances because the site apparently has lots of less attractive men vs. attractive women available or would you be less confident because these women think most men are unattractive? Or some other idea?


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31 Jan 2021, 1:00 pm

Yes and also what race you are matters too.



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31 Jan 2021, 1:00 pm

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Ok, so can we all agree that stats and graphs don’t represent everyone? Because it’s never the case.
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I mean hopefully this is obviously the case.

People are generalising.

In general = not for everyone. For the majority.


On WP, one must explicitly says it to avoid headache. Otherwise some would jump down your throat. lol



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31 Jan 2021, 2:05 pm

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So about 5% of women will date a man significantly uglier than them and its because the aforementioned men have material wealth that gives them the good feeling.

Or perhaps it's possible for a woman to want to be with someone for reasons other than looks or money? Or that a woman who is with a man that you have designated as ugly might actually think he looks good because beauty is in the eye of the beholder?


In order to fit in with the algorithm the woman would fall into the 5% outlier bracket and would meet the following criteria
1. Circumstance would dictate the penniless ugly dude and the girl would be together (e.g. in the same college class or same club or same church)
2. The girl would not find the man attractive so in order to get her interested the man would need to at least spend a lot of time together and their personality/interests would need to be compatible. But if he has no money then how does he take her on a date?
3. In order to overcome the financial disparity the man would need to the girl to take pity on him and offer to pay,
4. In order to be sexually interested the girl would need to turned on by his wit/personality
5. In order to consider marrying him she would need to take pity (this is a stretch these days even for pious christian girls)

I am not saying the above things don't happen, I am just being realistic that the probability of all the "astrological stars" aligning for this to happen are extremely rare,

Why people gotta marry?
I wouldn't pay for boys, only for maybe a pizza but I wanna serve stuff on a bench.

But im thinking of stopping people in the park asking them if theyre taken, want to date and asking for their number. Quick income of people and might be locals. Some might want to hang right then and there.


wat?

wut wat?
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31 Jan 2021, 2:13 pm

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Black and white all or nothing no grey area thinking is typical of some (not all) people on the spectrum - which is why I brought it up. I also stated that I've been living in the grey area NT-ish world for 8 years and so am not used to thinking that way regularly myself these days, so it's not my daily MO and reading others posts with their brains & bodies functioning in ways like that reminds me of it, a throwback to 8+ years ago, and so I acknowledged all of those things matter of factly. Nothing rude or condescending about it, IMO, to acknowledge that "oh yeah, there are plenty of rigid binary 0 1 thinkers here so That's how this can happen." If that's rude then I guess I'm rude. *shrug*

That sounded like you were trying to explain why I might have misunderstood your intentions until I got to the last sentence with the shrug which once again makes it seem quite hostile. Plus, it seems that you also sometimes think in black and white if you took my last post to mean that you are rude instead of the more nuanced you might be rude depending on your intent.


Seemed you were accusing me of being rude. In MY opinion, I wasn't and was just explaining my perspective on living with the ability of grey area thinking and remembering what it was like to be so rigid/acknowledging that others are rigid. To ME, all of that is what it is - simple facts of things. But I am not you and don't perceive things for YOU, so if to you that's rude, so be it, doesn't really bother me - hence the. *shrug*

SOME people here consider anything I say about treating my autism to be rude because they think treating autism IS rude/wrong and I shouldn't share about it. BUT, I do, and I do - it is my lived reality, and if someone wants to say I'm rude then oh noes whatever will I do?? *shrug* and carry on.


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31 Jan 2021, 2:15 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Ok, so can we all agree that stats and graphs don’t represent everyone? Because it’s never the case.
:peacesign:



..but the graphs.. they add up to 100%. :mrgreen:


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31 Jan 2021, 2:33 pm

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doesn't really bother me - hence the. *shrug*...
...if someone wants to say I'm rude then oh noes whatever will I do?? *shrug* and carry on.

Quite a lot of posts for something you're not bothered about. Also interesting that I pointed to the shrug as what made me think you were deliberately being rude in you last post and you've used it again here. I've no particular interest in your posts about a cure, it was just an example of how people might misinterpret your tone. I'm sadly begining to suspect there were no misunderstandings though.


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31 Jan 2021, 2:35 pm

*shrug*

I'm gonna go make something to eat. :)


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31 Jan 2021, 2:39 pm

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*shrug*

I'm gonna go make something to eat. :)


Men like to have the last word.


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31 Jan 2021, 2:41 pm

So do Narcissists.


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31 Jan 2021, 2:43 pm

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So do Narcissists.

It was just a joke about us arguing about not adding "most" to statements about people. Although in this instance "some" would make more sense :)


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31 Jan 2021, 2:52 pm

Tha wasn't aimed at you in particular or anything, i just threw it out there. I just like to be glib. B.t.w. It's not true that if you're not male you can't change it , apparently you can now. There's a surgery thing. If you not squeamish about invasive self mutilation that is, you CAN change it. Just a friendly tip there. Your local doctor might have more information on that.


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31 Jan 2021, 3:00 pm

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Tha wasn't aimed at you in particular or anything, i just threw it out there. I just like to be glib.

That's fine, I just didn't want anyone to feel accused if they hadn't read the context.


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31 Jan 2021, 5:57 pm

theprisoner wrote:
Tha wasn't aimed at you in particular or anything, i just threw it out there. I just like to be glib. B.t.w. It's not true that if you're not male you can't change it , apparently you can now. There's a surgery thing. If you not squeamish about invasive self mutilation that is, you CAN change it. Just a friendly tip there. Your local doctor might have more information on that.



Not sure if this is a joke or your actual interpretation of their profile text. I don't interpret it as them being trans, instead I read it as they are female and accidentally signed up to the forum and selected male and the forum software won't allow them to change it..

Again, just more examples of how we read and interpret things.. and not realizing if people are joking or being serious - in part being aspies, in part due to text vs. in person verbal communications complete with facial expressions and body language.


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02 Feb 2021, 4:54 am

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Not sure if this is a joke or your actual interpretation of their profile text. I don't interpret it as them being trans, instead I read it as they are female and accidentally signed up to the forum and selected male and the forum software won't allow them to change it..

Again, just more examples of how we read and interpret things.. and not realizing if people are joking or being serious - in part being aspies, in part due to text vs. in person verbal communications complete with facial expressions and body language.


Yeah, didn't reply to that bit since I wasn't sure. I often put random genders and ages on websites but with it being right next to every post I added the little note to avoid confusion.


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10 Feb 2021, 10:57 am

OutsideView wrote:
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Not sure if this is a joke or your actual interpretation of their profile text. I don't interpret it as them being trans, instead I read it as they are female and accidentally signed up to the forum and selected male and the forum software won't allow them to change it..

Again, just more examples of how we read and interpret things.. and not realizing if people are joking or being serious - in part being aspies, in part due to text vs. in person verbal communications complete with facial expressions and body language.


Yeah, didn't reply to that bit since I wasn't sure. I often put random genders and ages on websites but with it being right next to every post I added the little note to avoid confusion.

And why might that be? you must be a celebrity


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